Competition and Comparison
Topics:
“Competition and Comparison”
“What Is My Ideal Career?”
“The Moldy Muffin Caper”
Wednesday, June 28, 2000
© 2001 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Frank (Ulra).
Elias arrives at 12:07 PM. (Arrival time is 20 seconds)
ELIAS: Good morning!
FRANK: Good morning! How are you today?
ELIAS: As always!
FRANK: Good — glad to hear that! (Elias chuckles) Well,
let’s see. I have a number of questions, as usual, and I think I
would like to focus, as we have in the past somewhat, on my employment
situation. But before that, I have some other questions that I’d
like to try to cover here.
ELIAS: Very well.
FRANK: First of all, are you a sports fan?
ELIAS: HA HA HA HA! Are you?
FRANK: Yes, I am!
ELIAS: Very well!
FRANK: Okay! There’s two things I want to talk to you about
with regard to that. I guess my real passion in life at this point
is coaching sports teams for children, primarily my son, but other kids
as well, which I enjoy very much. So, there’s two things surrounding
this that I want to ask you about that I suspect are going to relate back
to a lot of other things that we’ve talked about in the past.
First of all, I was involved in managing a game last weekend, sort of
an all-star game, with the best kids from around the village where I coach.
The game ended in sort of a controversy, and I wanted to ask you what that
imagery was all about that was presented to me.
The second thing I wanted to ask you about is, a team that I managed
this year, which I thought was a very good team and seemed to have a lot
of talent, did very poorly in the second half of the season. They
did well in the first half, and poorly in the second half, and I’m curious
to know what that imagery is all about.
ELIAS: Define to me what your thought process of questioning is
in relation to both of these situations.
FRANK: Okay. Well, I’ll start with the first one, with this
game over the weekend. It was an interesting, very competitive game.
I enjoyed bantering with the kids very much. We ended up winning
the game, but at the end, there was sort of a dispute between myself and
the other manager, who is actually sort of a friend of mine.
My questioning is, what was subjectively behind all of this? What
was underneath all of this? What am I trying to present to myself
with regard to that?
ELIAS: Both of these situations relate to the same belief, behaviors,
and expressions. But before I am responding to these situations,
now identify your thought process in relation to your questioning of the
second situation.
FRANK: Okay. With regard to the second situation, I suspect
that what has happened with the team I managed in the second half of the
season has a lot to do with me anticipating difficulties. We talked
about this during our last conversation, how I anticipate the future in
sort of a negative way, and that I am creating the future in the now.
I suspect that’s what I did there. Does this address to what you
just asked me?
ELIAS: Partially, yes, and I shall express to you, partially your
assessment of this situation is correct, in identifying some of the elements
that are involved in what you are creating and presenting to yourself.
Let me also reiterate to you, both of these situations are presenting
very similar imagery to you, offering you the opportunity to recognize
and address to another aspect of beliefs.
Now; it is interesting that you initiate this conversation with the
question to myself in regard to my like or dislike of the activity of sports,
so to speak. (Chuckling)
Now; let me express to you, the like or dislike of this particular type
of activity may be identified simply as a preference and a type of activity
that you enjoy participating in.
This holds significance and importance in what we shall be discussing
in relation to this subject, for you may allow yourself to view that the
noticing, recognizing, identifying, and addressing to beliefs, in association
with ANY action that you engage within your reality, does not necessarily
express that you need be altering or discontinuing your participation in
certain actions.
Now; let us address to this particular situation. You are offering
scenarios to myself concerning sports activity and your participation in
them. This is an action that you participate in, for you view this
as pleasurable. It offers you certain expressions within yourself
of validation in accomplishment, in self-worth. It also offers you
many different types of expressions that you may view as positive, in addition
to beneficial, within yourself in many different areas.
You also are, within your focus in this time framework, allowing yourself,
in your individual participation in this shift, to be viewing and noticing
your own individual beliefs and the aspects of beliefs that are influencing
of you, and how those influences interplay with your perception, and how
they are affecting of what you create within your reality.
Therefore, as this is the action that you are engaging presently, it
shall manifest itself in all directions of your attention; not merely within
your relationships, not merely within your work environment, so to speak,
but within the environment of play and all other expressions of your activity
and interaction presently.
In this, you offer yourself the opportunity to view the influence of
competition — and the beliefs that are expressed and manifest in the expression
of competition — and comparison. These two particular expressions
are extremely powerful within your physical reality and within many, many,
many of your societies. They are extremely influencing in many areas
of your individual focuses. They are very affecting of your perception
within your focus.
Now: you may continue — in your recognition and addressing to these
beliefs and the influence of these beliefs — to be participating in actions
that you hold in preference, such as games that you identify as sports.
But you may also, in widening your awareness and addressing to your beliefs,
participate in that action and express that preference without the judgmental
aspects, and recognizing the beliefs that influence certain movements that
may be associated with these types of activities.
You may also turn your attention and allow yourself to view the sports
activities as an obvious, objective, physical example of many other actions
that you participate within in your focus and that manifest themselves
in similar designs.
In this, competition breeds judgment. The expression of competition,
in how it manifests, creates a tremendous expression of judgment and reinforcement
of duplicity. Comparison also creates this same type of action.
Both of these expressions are intimately exhibited in the games that you
participate within and identify as any type of sport.
Now; understand that the sport itself is merely a game. The sport
itself does not express the competition or the comparison, for the game
itself, in itself, is merely the participation of several individuals in
playfulness.
But your beliefs are quite intimately involved in these actions and
have been expressed to the extreme that they are no longer separable, in
the perceptions that you hold presently, from the game itself. They
are an intricate aspect of the game.
You may express to yourself and even to other individuals — to the individuals
that participate within the game, the individuals that you coach or that
you share experiences in relation to the game — that it is the playing
of the game that holds importance, not the winning. But in actuality,
this is an underlying element that is ever-present, for the beliefs are
extremely strong.
There are comparisons that are expressed between the performances of
individuals which directly are affecting of perceptions and of the assessment
of worth of all of the participating individuals, and the element of competition
introduces automatic judgments and the motivating force of the participating
individuals to be right and to be winning, and this is the expression that
you use as an outward manifestation to be measuring your abilities and
your worth.
Now; this is significant that we be engaging discussion of this type
of action, for it allows you, in quite practical, realistic, objective,
physical terms, to view an action that you participate [in] within your
focus that is fun, that you hold a preference in relation to, that you
view as positive, and that you offer to yourself many expressions of reinforcement
in a positive manner, but even in these expressions, there are judgments
being expressed.
In this, as I speak to you of acceptance, many times individuals, yourself
also, create an interpretation of this information in the manner that if
you are to be accepting of certain beliefs or of self and certain behaviors
that you express within your focus, you also need be eliminating certain
practices or certain expressions or actions within your focus, and this
is not what I am expressing to you.
I am not expressing to you that the action of acceptance should be interpreted
as, behaviors and activities that you are participating in now are unacceptable
or that you should be discontinuing your participation in any of these
activities, but that you recognize the influence of your beliefs in these
activities and how they are affecting of you, how they are affecting of
your perception — which creates your reality outwardly — and how that is
affecting of other individuals.
The point within all of this interaction that I engage with you is to
be offering you information, that you may objectively recognize more of
your reality, and therefore allow yourselves to be engaging choice.
For you collectively have requested information, that you may be avoiding
or lessening conflict and trauma as you widen your awareness.
Therefore, as I offer information to you, I am not expressing to you
that you are creating any action that is bad or wrong presently, for you
are not. I am merely expressing to you information that may be offering
you another avenue in which you may be objectively viewing what you yourselves
are creating and participating within, and therefore you may allow yourselves
more choices, to be lessening or eliminating your own conflict.
Now; in the situation of the first scenario, you express validation
to yourself and within interaction of other individuals, for you have accomplished
your goal, so to speak, of winning, and this creates within you a jovial
feeling and an excitement. The reason it creates this excitement
and this joyousness is that you are allowing yourself to validate your
accomplishment, which validates your worth and your abilities.
In this, the underlying expression is the competition and the comparison.
As I have stated, competition and comparison breed judgment, in both
good and bad. But good or bad, both are judgments; it matters not.
Both express both judgments simultaneously, for they are intertwined to
the extent that one is not expressed without the other.
In this, as you interact within this allowance of an outside validation,
and you encounter other individuals whose perception may be expressed differently
— or they may be expressing ANY element differently — within that moment
of excitement, the perception of validation is exaggerated.
Be remembering, difference in any of its expressions is threatening,
and therefore is unacceptable.
Therefore, as any other individual may approach you and may be offering
ANY type of expression within the moment that is different from the expression
that you are creating, as your creation is exaggerated, your reception
of their expression becomes exaggerated also, and this opens the door,
so to speak, for conflict.
Are you understanding thus far?
FRANK: Yes, I think I am. This is very interesting.
ELIAS: This is the reason that I direct your attention repeatedly
and strongly to self and to the understanding of perception, for your perception
is extremely powerful, and it, in a manner of speaking, is objectively
manipulating all of your reality.
Therefore, as you create in one direction or expression of extreme or
intensity, other expressions also follow within suit, so to speak, for
this is the direction of your attention. Therefore, you engage other
interactions, and they also become exaggerated or extreme.
Which, I may express to you also, as I have been expressing to many
individuals recently, the key element of all of these interactions, that
may be helpful to you in remembering, is the strength of your association
with sameness and difference.
Sameness in all of its expressions offers you an outside validation,
and you seek it out, for you do not offer validation to yourselves automatically
from within, for you are unaccustomed to holding your attention within
self. Therefore, you seek out experiences and interactions that shall
be validating to you from outside of you. Difference threatens you,
and therefore you are rejecting of it, for you view yourselves in comparison.
Therefore, as you compare yourself to any other expression within your
reality, if you view there to be sameness, you shall validate yourself,
and you shall offer to yourself more of an expression of worth. If
you view difference, you become threatened, for this is assessed automatically
as a discounting of yourself, that there be some expression or element
of you that is unacceptable or wrong and needs be questioned.
Now; also be understanding that all of these expressions may not be
filtered through your thought process at any given moment. You may
move yourself in automatic expressions and immediately express outwardly,
in turning your attention to circumstances or situations or other individuals,
even to objects, and be expressing that THEY are discounted, or....
FRANK: Yeah. I discount them.
ELIAS: Correct; in the objective expression, in an automatic response.
But the underlying action is not in actuality the expression of discounting
any other individual or situation, but a recognition that you are discounting
of yourself, for you are doubting of yourself in your ability to be accomplishing,
and that is what you offer to yourself in this action of comparison and
competition, to be validating of yourself. Are you understanding?
FRANK: Yes. Yes, I am.
ELIAS: Therefore, both of these situations are your presentment
to yourself, as you have allowed yourself to be noticing of them, of these
two aspects of beliefs and their expressions — of comparison and competition.
Let me also express to you, you may be engaging these games in sports
in their design, and continue to be playing the games as they have been
designed, and not genuinely be incorporating the expression of comparison
or competition. (Pause) This is not what you DO, but it IS accomplishable.
FRANK: If I change my attitude ... or my outlook, the way I view
the situation.
ELIAS: As you allow yourself to widen your awareness objectively,
and turn your perception, yes; and this, I shall express to you in genuineness,
is extremely affecting of other individuals.
FRANK: IF I do that.
ELIAS: Yes.
FRANK: If I (inaudible) meaning the players and the parents and
everyone involved.
ELIAS: All of the individuals that you interact with, yes.
FRANK: Okay, I can see that. In fact, I think I already
knew that!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And I shall be acknowledging of you.
You are correct. You did already know! (Chuckling)
FRANK: Okay, let’s move on to a new topic, if we could.
ELIAS: Very well.
FRANK: I’d like to talk a bit about my employment situation.
It’s sort of a recurring theme I have here!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha!
FRANK: (Laughing) Let me start off with two questions.
First of all, I don’t feel as motivated as I should be towards what
I’m doing right now, and I’m wondering if the reason for that is a lack
of trust in my abilities, or if maybe I’m just not doing the right thing
with my life.
So the first question is, what would explain the lack of motivation,
or at least what I think is not enough motivation?
Number two, what would be sort of an ideal career for me in terms of,
what would be the job that I would enjoy, and just love to get up in the
morning and go and do?
ELIAS: First of all, I shall express to you that your lack of
motivation is not expressed for the reason that you are not creating what
you are “supposed” to be creating.
I shall express also that this is quite interrelated to the issues that
we have spoken of previously, in your doubting of your own abilities and
your doubt which is affecting of your trust of yourself, and as you allow
yourself to be expressing that trust of self and acknowledgment of your
abilities and not the doubt of your abilities more and more, you shall
also be creating more of an expression of that motivation that you are
noticing a lack of.
I shall also express to you, in response to your question of what may
be the most efficient or suitable action for you to be creating, you ARE
creating already efficiently. In many respects, so to speak, what
you are engaging presently is quite suitable to you and to your direction
of attention.
I may also express to you that you create limitations upon your creativity
and your natural expression, for you doubt and discount your ability to
be creating further, and you also continue to be wary of expressing yourself
within your creativity in relation to how that may be expressed not necessarily
in compliance or alignment with those individuals that you view as authorities.
Let me express to you that you may be quite helpful to yourself in allowing
yourself to be examining the type of expressions and creativity that you
view as fun. One of those expressions we have been discussing throughout
this session! (Pause)
And in that, allow yourself to view your automatic response in discounting
yourself — that what you view to be fun, in your preferences and your expressions
of creativity, you also offer to yourself the expression that you may not
be creating those actions and providing yourself with your physical needs
in those expressions.
Allow yourself to view how you identify your employ and what you participate
within. You view your action of sports to be play and fun.
You identify your employment as work. (Pause) You do not identify
that action as a preference or pleasurable or fun. It is a labor.
It is work and it is limiting, but it need not be such. This, once
again, is an expression of your perception.
The work that you engage does offer you an expression of creativity,
but a limited expression of creativity, but it is not the job that limits
your expression of creativity. It is you and your reluctance to be
expressing yourself, for you view that that expression may place you in
opposition of those individuals that you have defined as authorities.
Therefore, my suggestion to you, as has been previously, is to be examining
your assessment of yourself, your abilities, your worth, and examine your
definition of your job, and individuals that you deem to be in authority
of you. For in actuality, there are no individuals that hold authority
over you.
FRANK: Okay. Let’s talk about that a little more deeply,
because I’m not sure how my relationship with people I view as authority
... how am I limiting my creativity in that respect? (Pause)
ELIAS: This is an automatic response. As you move in an
association with any individual that you deem to be in authority of yourself,
you shall also alter your expressions and your behaviors in compliance
with the desires or the dictates of those individuals that you deem to
be authorities.
Each time you are altering of your movement in compliance with the dictates
of another individual and you are viewing that individual as an authority,
you are creating an automatic response of discounting your position as
another individual and you limit your natural flow of creativity, for your
attention is focused upon the wants and the designs of another individual.
Are you understanding?
FRANK: Yes. In abstract terms, yes.
ELIAS: Let me express to you an example. Hypothetically,
let us view a scenario in which an individual engages employment in which
their job entails the action of recruitment of other individuals to be
participating in certain expressions of activity. It matters not
what the activity may be expressed as.
Now; as the individual views another individual to be an authority [or]
in a position of authority as their employer, the individual may be limiting
of their natural expression in creativity, in how they may engage this
action of recruitment of other individuals in association with their job,
by accepting the dictates and design of the individual in authority to
them.
Let us express that the individual which holds the position of authority
offers to the employee, “I view this method to be the most efficient manner
in accomplishing this action of recruitment to our company,” so to speak.
The employee, in viewing this individual as an authority, may express
a different method, which may be quite efficient in their own design and
may be accomplishing equally as efficiently as the method that has been
offered by the employer, but the employee automatically moves in response
to the expression of the individual in authority, and limits their own
choices in their natural flow of creativity that may be offered within
this particular job, for they automatically align with the individual in
authority and “follow the rules,” so to speak.
You ALL participate in this type of action. You participate in
this action within your societies in relation to your law enforcement,
to your governments, to your jobs. You enact this within your homes,
as parents in authority to children. Children express this in authority
to creatures. You ALL participate in this type of action.
And in the action of this shift, you are moving away from the design
of allowing your reality to be dictated to you by other individuals, circumstances,
situations, or beliefs, and you are becoming your own directors.
But this is a very unfamiliar action, and therefore you struggle with your
movement into the expression of this action, for you are doubting of your
ability. You are unfamiliar with your own expressions of creativity,
with your own abilities, and you are unfamiliar with the acceptance and
trust of yourselves.
FRANK: Okay, so that’s where I am right now.
ELIAS: Yes!
FRANK: Because as far as the first part goes, I don’t feel like
I get any direction. I mean, I feel like I’m completely on my own
to do whatever I choose. I just don’t feel like I’m being affected
by authority figures, as far as that goes, at this point.
ELIAS: But you also view guidelines, which have been incorporated
through your experiences.
Let me express to you, I am offering to you objective examples that
may be presented in obvious terms, that are easily viewed and easily assimilated.
Now; from this, you may allow yourself the recognition that this may
be translated into many underlying expressions. It need not be the
obvious, objective expression of another individual, but that the accumulation
of experiences that you have participated within in these types of situations
have created or influenced the creation of a particular type of perception
that you hold now.
FRANK: I got it.
ELIAS: And in this, the perception is creating your reality, and
that is what is creating the limitations and the lack of motivation.
FRANK: Got it. I think I understand now. (Elias chuckles)
Okay, very interesting. Perception ... let’s say I want to choose
a new perception about myself. How do I do that? Do I just
decide that I’m gonna perceive something new? I mean....
ELIAS: It is not a question of “deciding” that you shall choose
a new perception. Turning your perception is accomplished in your
recognition of reality.
You in actuality DO alter your perception often. It may not be
expressed in what you identify as extremes, but you often are altering
your perception, as you do offer yourself information continuously, objectively,
and you are moving more and more into the objective recognition of your
beliefs and how they are influencing of you.
As you become aware objectively, and as you allow yourself the recognition
of what you create and how you are creating within your reality and what
is influencing of that, you continuously widen your awareness, and in that
widening of awareness, you ARE altering your perception.
It is not a situation of viewing within your thought process that you
may choose a different type of perception and thusly implement that and
create that, for examine your motivation in that action. The motivation
is expressed from the point of, the perception that you hold presently
is inadequate or not good enough, and that a different perception may be
better.
I am expressing to you that your perception automatically alters as
you open to your periphery, as you widen your awareness, and as you become
more accepting of YOU. (Pause) The more familiar you become with
you, the more you alter your perception.
Your perception is based in objectivity. It is designed to be
an objective expression, for you have designed and created an objective
physical reality. Therefore, as you are affecting of yourself in
objective manners, you are also affecting of your perception. Your
perception is already in motion and altering through the interaction of
our conversation this day. (Pause)
FRANK: Okay. One last thing, ‘cause time is running short
here. This morning, I got up and I pulled a bag of English muffins
out of the refrigerator, and stuck them in the toaster and ate them.
They were good, so I thought I’d have a couple more, and I looked, and
they were all moldy. The whole package of muffins was moldy....
Vic’s note: Here, Frank’s voice cuts out completely, and there
is a 12-second pause, during which Elias is rocking and smiling.
FRANK: Hello?
ELIAS: You have interrupted your transmission objectively.
FRANK: Oh!
ELIAS: Shall you repeat your statement for your transcription?
FRANK: Yes. This morning I had breakfast, and I ate some
English muffins. It was a brand-new package, and I pulled them out
of the refrigerator and put them in the toaster and ate them. They
seemed okay, so I went to get some more, and I realized the whole package
was moldy. My question is, what was that imagery all about?
ELIAS: Let me express to you the inquiry, and how do you feel?
FRANK: I feel okay!
ELIAS: HA HA HA!
FRANK: I did feel queasy for a while, but I’m not sure that wasn’t
just psychosomatic.... (the audio is cutting out again)
ELIAS: And how is your functioning?
FRANK: Fine, so far!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
FRANK: But assuming there are no coincidences....
ELIAS: There are not!
FRANK: Okay! So why did that happen, briefly?
ELIAS: That you may allow yourself to view perception.
As you engaged this action, and your perception initially was in the
identification that these muffins were acceptable, (Frank laughs) they
were, and this is a reality. It is not that you have consumed a muffin
that was not acceptable or that was moldy, for the muffin that you consumed
was not, for in your perception and the creation of it, this was not what
you engaged, and therefore it is a reality.
Subsequent to that action, you created the other muffins being moldy,
within your perception.
Now; you also allowed yourself to view objectively that you may be consuming
of this muffin, and whether it be moldy or not, it may be affecting of
you merely as you allow it to be affecting of you through your creation
of perception, and this is influenced by your beliefs.
Once again, as you have previously in relation to our interactions within
these sessions, you have presented yourself an objective example, in physical
manifestation, of our discussion within this session.
FRANK: (Laughing) Yes, I have!
ELIAS: You create this type of action quite often as your own
expression of objective imagery, in your method, so to speak, of assimilating
the information that you and I discuss together. (12-second pause, and
Elias chuckles) And you are interrupting of your transmission once
again! (6-second pause)
I shall translate for our transcriber, Lawrence — who is expressing
thanks — ha ha ha! — in the discontinuing of this interaction this day,
and I shall express to you great affection and anticipation of our next
meeting, my friend. To you this day, au revoir!
Elias departs at 1:16 PM.
Vic’s note: As Mary returned, which only takes a few seconds,
there was a clicking noise, which might have been the phone, and Frank
was reconnected, so to speak, although the phone was never disconnected.
Interestingly enough, this happened in Frank’s last session too.
FOOTNOTES:
(1) I have changed one word in the following
phrase: “The point within all of this interaction...” It was originally
stated: “The point within all of this information...”
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Copyright 2000 Mary Ennis, All Rights Reserved.