Redefining Helpfulness/Supportiveness
Topics:
“Redefining Helpfulness/Supportiveness”
“Interruptions of Sleep State”
“There Are No Secrets”
Wednesday, June 7, 2000-2
© 2000 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael), Marj (Grady), and Jo (Gildae).
Elias arrives at 1:28 PM. (Arrival times is 8 seconds)
ELIAS: Continuing!
JO: Yep! (Laughing)
MARJ: And is this the great and powerful Elias I’m speaking to?
ELIAS: Of course! (Laughter)
MARJ: And this is the becoming Grady!
ELIAS: Ah! And I am greatly honored to be interacting with
the very becoming Grady! (Laughter)
MARJ: As am I to be speaking to you! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: I want first of all to thank you so much for the information
you provided me with the last time we spoke. As I’m sure you are
already aware, I have uncreated the manifestation of physical blood, and
I have also partially uncreated my need for nose-drops. I’m not quite
one hundred percent yet, but I’m doing so much better, and I attribute
that to the information that you gave me.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And to yourself!
MARJ: Yes, that’s true! And am I correct that I did have
a hand in this uncreation?
ELIAS: You have created this action yourself!
MARJ: Oh, that’s wonderful!
ELIAS: I have offered encouragement and I have offered energy
to you in validation, but YOU have created the motion.
MARJ: Isn’t that wonderful?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! Do you not hold amazing abilities?
MARJ: That’s true — that is so true! I’m just beginning
to see.
ELIAS: Now allow yourself the genuine acknowledgment of your action
and your manipulation of energy, for no other essence may create or uncreate,
so to speak, any choice within your reality. This is YOUR action
that YOU have engaged. Therefore, recognize the power of your abilities!
MARJ: Oh, I love it, Elias!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: Let’s see. I have a few questions for you, if I can.
ELIAS: You may.
MARJ: I was attempting to meditate one day. I’d no sooner
started, when I saw a man. I recognized that I had tremendous loving
feelings towards him, and then I started to cry, because it came to me
that I loved him, but others wouldn’t understand, and when I came out of
the meditation, I was still crying. I wondered if this was because
this was another focus I was remembering, or was this something for me
to be noticing?
ELIAS: Both.
MARJ: Both?
ELIAS: This is your offering to yourself in imagery, partially
in identification of your interaction with another individual — not a focus
of yourself as essence, but a focus of another essence that you have interacted
with within another manifestation, so to speak — and it also may be applied
in its action to this focus.
The reason that you offer yourself the identification that you hold
these feelings or this response to this individual, but you are recognizing
that other individuals do not understand or share your response to this
individual, is that within that particular focus, the choices of that individual
may be deemed within the mass assessment and beliefs as undesirable.
You in that focus allow yourself interaction with that individual, and
hold a recognition of the individual as essence, and are recognizing that
the worth of the individual is not measured by the deeds, so to speak.
Therefore, you allow yourself an appreciation of the individual, regardless
of the choices of behavior that that individual creates.
Now; this may also be associated and applied within this focus.
As you allow yourself movement in relation to this shift in consciousness,
you may also be recognizing the lack of separation between yourself and
other individuals within your reality, and in that recognition, you may
also allow yourself to view that choices are merely choices. They
are not good or bad in themselves. It is merely your beliefs that
create an association with good and bad.
Therefore, other individuals may be creating choices of expressions
and behaviors that you may view within your reality, and you may allow
yourself to identify that the responses that you may engage to other individuals’
choices is very influenced by your beliefs, but that the choices themselves
are neutral. They are not in actuality good or bad, and as you allow
yourself this recognition, you also shall allow yourself more of an ease
in your movement into acceptance. (Pause)
MARJ: I’m going to deviate for a second, and then come back to
that.
Not too long ago, two months ago, on several occasions I met a woman
in the supermarket. She’s a cashier, and I remember looking at her
and thinking, this woman is ill. I could just tell she was ill, and
I wondered how she could be holding her job looking as sick as she did.
At any rate, the last time I saw her, I was thinking the same thoughts
and our eyes met, and when they did, I had a tremendously strong pull towards
her, and I thought, I wish I could help her. I wanted to do something
to help her. I haven’t seen her since, but I have a feeling there
is a tie-in between she and I, that we shared focuses or something together,
and I was wondering if I was correct in that.
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.
You may also allow yourself the recognition of counterpart action which
is engaged between yourself and this individual, and what you receive in
this counterpart action is the recognition of certain experiences which
trigger your responsiveness in the desire to be helpful.
Now; this in actuality is helpful, in your terms, to you, for it offers
you the opportunity to be viewing your definition of helpfulness.
For as you define helpfulness, your assessment of that action is to be
creating an action of “doing” some expression in relation to the other
individual and their situation, or what they are creating.
Now; what you offer to yourself in this exchange is the opportunity
to redefine that expression of helpfulness. You are familiar with
your present definition of helpfulness, and your automatic response in
relation to it.
I express to you that in redefining your assessment of helpfulness,
[you may be] recognizing that you may be more helpful to another individual
through the expression of holding your attention with self and the expression
of supportiveness than you may be in actual DOING, so to speak, in relation
to another individual’s choices or creations.
MARJ: That makes sense, because that also helps out with the sense
of responsibility I’ve always felt for situations I’ve been through where
I took on a lot more responsibility than I should have, I think.
ELIAS: Quite. I am understanding of this action that you
have incorporated previously. In this, you are allowing yourself
movement into the recognition that this expression of assuming personal
responsibility is not helpful.
MARJ: I sure found that out, thanks to you!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: I understood it intellectually, but I really did not internalize
it until after our last session, and then it seemed like everything came
together and I thought, “Oh, my lord, I need help here,” and I understood
the whole thing, and it really made things a lot easier for me in particular.
ELIAS: The expression of helpfulness may be redefined in the identification
of supportiveness, and supportiveness may be incorporated through the action
of acceptance within yourself; not necessarily the expression of acceptance
of the creations of other individuals, although this may be a byproduct
of this action of supportiveness. But in the acceptance in self,
you are creating the action of support.
Now; I shall also express to you, I have recently expressed to another
individual information of this subject of supportiveness, and I shall reiterate
to you, in like manner to that individual, that as I am identifying support,
I am expressing it to you NOT in the identification of your idea or definition
that you hold within self in relation to this term, but in what you may
view to be its literal definition, and you may be surprised to be recognizing
that your definition of support is in actuality different from the definition
that I am expressing to you.
Your definition of support incorporates DOING in relation to another
individual. Even the action of listening, in the identification of
supportiveness with another individual, is the incorporation of DOING some
action in relation to the other individual.
This is not what I am expressing, for this is holding your attention
outside of yourself and attempting to be manipulating the directions that
are incorporated by the other individual, and you may not be altering other
individuals’ choices or their creations.
But you may be supportive in the action of upholding their choices within
yourself in your acceptance of self; not in projecting your attention outwardly
to the other individual and expressing to yourself, “I am accepting of
this individual’s choice to be creating of this action, and therefore,
I am also creating the expression of supportiveness.” No.
You may delude yourself quite easily into a thought process that expresses
to you that this is in actuality an expression of acceptance when it is
not, for as you continue with that expression, the unspoken or unexpressed
— objectively — element of that is, you are accepting of another individual’s
choice to be creating any particular action or reality, BUT. And
the BUT is what holds significance. But YOU would not be choosing
that action! Therefore, there continues to be a judgment. This
is not acceptance.
Therefore, if you are creating an acceptance within self, you may allow
yourself to be expressing a genuine offering of support. Are you
understanding?
MARJ: Yes, I believe I am, and I can see now. I understood
about the responsibility. I thought I also had attained the acceptance,
but I realize I hadn’t. I still hadn’t accepted my mother’s choices,
because you’re right — I judged that I wouldn’t do it that way, and I’m
quite well aware of that, and I know I’m very good at deluding myself too!
ELIAS: (Laughing) This is not offered to you in information
to be discounting of yourself, for this is....
MARJ: That brings me to a question that I wanted to ask you.
You have said that we can identify our belief systems and we can accept
things, but we’ll still continue to have our opinions, and I’m still me,
and I have a personality where I poke fun at myself. Sometimes I’m
very hard on myself, and I know I do that. But other times, I think
that I’m just, in fun, poking fun at myself. But I see now where
a lot of my friends think I’m constantly putting myself down, and I don’t
see it that way. Am I deluding myself again, or am I just being me
in those circumstances, and it’s okay?
ELIAS: I shall express to you, at times you may be discounting
of yourself, as you are already aware. But I shall also express to
you that at times you are not discounting of yourself. You are merely
engaging your choice of expression of humor.
Now; in the incorporation of the new design of beliefs which are identified
within your sciences as psychology, individuals lean in the direction of
expressing extremes and — once again — creating limitations and not an
allowance for expression of difference, but attempting to be creating a
narrow expression which shall be accepted as the norm and the right and
the good to be associated with all individuals, which eliminates the acceptability
of difference, uniqueness, and individuals’ choices in many areas.
Now; I shall express to you that not all of your verbalizations of what
you express in your terminology to be poking fun, so to speak, at yourself,
or even with another individual, may be assessed as a discounting of yourself
or of other individuals. You may be light-hearted and expressing
humor in many different fashions, which may be assessed by one individual
as a discounting of yourself, but what holds importance is YOUR perception
of what you are expressing.
MARJ: I just love you!
ELIAS: HA HA HA HA HA! And I may express in like manner
to yourself! (Chuckling)
MARJ: (Laughing) Oh goodness! That makes me feel so
good because I get so tired of saying, “Oh god, did I say the wrong thing?”
Because everybody’s always saying, “MARJ! You shouldn’t have done
that! You shouldn’t say things like that! PI, PI!” And
I’m just being me!
Vic’s note: PI is “personal invalidation.”
ELIAS: I shall express to you, Grady, I have offered the expression
of personal invalidation to some individuals as they are attempting to
be incorporating humor, at what you term to be “poking fun at themselves.”
But in actuality, they are not incorporating genuine humor. They
ARE discounting of themselves, and they are camouflaging their expression
with the disguise of humor. But this is not to say that all individuals
are creating that same action as they may be choosing to be poking fun,
so to speak. Some individuals ARE creating an expression of discounting
of themselves. Some individuals are not!
MARJ: I can feel the difference within myself. I know when
I’m tearing myself apart.
ELIAS: And this is what I am acknowledging of in your expression,
recognizing that you DO hold the knowing of the difference.
MARJ: Great!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: (Laughing) Elias, this woman that I have had a focus
with, were she and I pilots together? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes.
MARJ: Ah! Was my name Felipe — I was Spanish? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes.
MARJ: Was my mate a gypsy?
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, yes.
MARJ: I love it!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: We raped and pillaged together!
ELIAS: Ah, but the other individual incorporated aspects of behavior
that many individuals assess to be witchcraft also, and therefore viewed
this individual to be quite unacceptable.
MARJ: Oooh!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: Were you around at that time, Elias?
ELIAS: I incorporate a focus of essence within that time framework,
but not within interaction of that company, so to speak. (Laughing)
MARJ: So I didn’t rape and pillage you! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha! No, I have not had the pleasure of
engaging your company! (Much laughter)
MARJ: Oh god, that’s great!
Okay, now I’ve gotta come back to this thing with the gentleman — the focus,
whatever — with the meditation.
Recently I met a man, and I had a very strong pull to this man.
I had the feeling that we’d known each other before. I don’t know
if that’s correct or not, and then my next question following that is,
does this have any ties to that imagery in my meditation? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes, you have engaged other focuses together, and you have
offered yourself the recognition objectively. As to the action incorporated
within your meditation, this also may be associated to this individual
in an expression of acceptance.
MARJ: Well, something happened. We were dancing; he was
singing a love song. He kind of acts out what he’s singing, and during
this dance, we had our foreheads together and we were looking into each
other’s eyes, and suddenly his appearance changed. His eyes changed
to like a reddish color, and they glowed. It kind of made me step
back and think, whew! What happened? Did I imagine this, or
was I seeing something, an image within an image? I don’t quite understand
it, and like I said, I don’t know if I totally imagined it, or it has something
to do with this acceptance thing. Can you help me out?
ELIAS: Yes. You are not imagining, in your terms, the experience.
You have offered yourself an actual manifestation and an experience with
that manifestation, and this IS an expression which incorporates the element
of this acceptance.
This individual at times creates behaviors that other individuals deem
to be unacceptable, or in which other individuals create an expression
of irritation and at times a lack of patience, so to speak.
Now; in allowing yourself to merge with this individual’s energy field,
you have also offered yourself information subjectively in connection with
these aspects of this individual. You have created imagery superimposed
onto the expression of this individual in response to your interaction
with his energy field and your intuitive, so to speak, assessment of that
energy.
Now; this also offers you within your experience the opportunity to
recognize that there is no actual need for fearfulness, so to speak, but
that you are allowing yourself to access information concerning the creation
of another focus of another essence.
And in this ability that you hold, you may also offer yourself the opportunity
to be expressing acceptance of yourself in your trust of your expressions
and therefore an acceptance of the other individual, and not be projecting
your energy or your expression of your energy into areas of anticipation
of potential of this individual. Are you understanding?
MARJ: (Hesitantly) I think so.
ELIAS: You have not availed yourself objectively of certain actions
or behaviors that this individual creates at times, but you HAVE allowed
yourself to be interactive with this individual’s energy field, which holds
that information. Your response has been an initial reaction, so
to speak, in a momentary expression of fear, and that has been imaged in
your projection, superimposing upon the form of that individual the projection
of an element of fear, creating a difference, as you have asserted, in
the physical appearance.
Are you following thus far?
MARJ: Yes.
ELIAS: In this, it is of no matter that you have not allowed yourself
to be viewing certain behaviors objectively. This offers you the
opportunity to recognize your ability in interaction with other individuals,
in assessing or recognizing the expressions of energy. This also
allows you to view the lack of separation.
It matters not that you hold much objective information concerning the
creations and behaviors of other individuals. You know them anyway.
MARJ: Okay. That makes sense.
ELIAS: In this, you also allow yourself to recognize, in objective
terms, some elements of individuals that you create an automatic fearful
response in relation to, but in allowing yourself to create that response
momentarily by projecting an unusual image, altering the physical persona
of the individual, you also allow yourself to view simultaneously the other
projection without the fear, the underneath projection, and this offers
you the objective ability to override the expression of fear and to move
more in the expression of acceptance. Is this more understandable?
MARJ: Yes. Yes, because I have a feeling of knowing him
many times. I have a feeling like I was around mostly his essence
more than this particular person.
ELIAS: Correct. But find you not an interest in your choice
of projection to be superimposing upon the viewing of his physical form?
You choose to be superimposing the image of fiery eyes, which creates an
automatic response of withdrawal and apprehension.
MARJ: Yes, really, because it went away, and it wasn’t a lasting
feeling.
ELIAS: It is merely momentary.
This is quite purposeful in offering you the recognition that regardless
of what you view physically and the limitation of interaction that you
perceive physically and the projection of separation that you create physically,
there is no separation and there is no element hidden from you. There
are no secrets, and all of consciousness is exposed to you.
MARJ: That would be the first time, then, that I’ve experienced
that I can be a part of that knowledge too.
ELIAS: And you are!
MARJ: Does he have any awareness of any of this? (Pause)
ELIAS: Partially, but not to the extent, in a manner of speaking,
as you are allowing yourself. (Pause)
MARJ: The other night, Elias, I went to bed and I just laid there,
and I was looking up at the ceiling, and many times I see all kinds of
shadows moving and beautiful colors. I see your color, and I see
grays a lot, and this particular night, what I saw was, I would say, more
towards black, and movement, and coming close, almost as if I would think
that I was going blind, and then suddenly it backs off, and my sight is
clear again. It’s not frightening to me; I love it!
I was trying to figure out that color, and at first I thought, it’s
my essence, and then I thought, no, that’s not my color, and then I thought,
maybe it’s all colors. Then Regional Area 2 came to mind, and also,
out of that color there came a face suddenly, a familiar face with a great
big smile, and it came right down out of the gray and into my face!
And then gone, just like that. Can you tell me what that all represented?
ELIAS: This is your presentment to yourself in an introduction,
so to speak, to what you identify as a future focus. (Pause)
MARJ: I will know this person?
ELIAS: A future focus of YOU.
MARJ: Oh, of me! Well, that looked like a man with gray
hair and glasses on, and a great big smile. Is that what I’ll look
like?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Or that you already do!
MARJ: Oh.
ELIAS: Within a future focus.
MARJ: I’ll have to investigate that some more, won’t I?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! And you may be experiencing pleasure and
fun in interaction with that particular focus, if you are so choosing.
JO: And we love pleasure and fun! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: I don’t suppose we can ever get enough of that, can we?
ELIAS: Ah, it would be difficult! (Laughter)
MARJ: I am riding my bike!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: I read Mikah’s thing where you told him to ride his bike,
and my children were so good to me — on Mother’s day, they brought me a
bike! So, I’ve been out riding, and finding out all the things that
I see he has not attempted yet!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: So, I wanted to offer him my encouragement. The bike
is a wonderful way to relax!
ELIAS: Ah, I am quite acknowledging of you! And you may
be encouraging in your experience in offering energy to Mikah, that he
MIGHT incorporate listening to this information at some point! Ha
ha ha ha ha! (Laughter)
MARJ: Oh, that’s great! (Laughing, and Elias chuckles)
Elias, I wake up somewhere around two to three
o’clock in the middle of the night. I don’t remember that I’ve been
dreaming. I don’t if I’ve been obsessing about something while I’m
asleep or whatever, but it seems like it happens so often. I’m trying
to figure out if I’ve noticed it so many times that I’m causing it myself
now, or is there a particular something going on, and I’m supposed to be
noticing it, and that’s why I’m waking up? Do you understand what
my question is?
ELIAS: Yes. I shall express to you that this action in actuality
is being incorporated by very many individuals presently, and has been
for a relatively recent time framework. What is occurring is in actuality
an action that you and other individuals are incorporating into your reality
in association with this shift in consciousness.
You are recognizing, within your physical body consciousness and objective
awareness, in a manner of speaking, almost overriding — ALMOST overriding
— your influence of your belief concerning sleep times and patterns, and
in this action, you are interrupting of your sleep state in the recognition
now that you need not be incorporating this extent of time framework of
this sleep state.
I have offered this information previously, and I shall express to you
that in your very physical common terms presently, that information has
been filed within you all — ha ha ha! — but not incorporated into any type
of practical expression within your focuses.
In this, you are within yourselves creating movement, noticing that
you in actuality are not requiring of the length of time framework that
you do incorporate within your sleep state.
Now; I shall also express to you that you hold very strong aspects of
beliefs concerning your sleep state and your engagement of it. Therefore,
you are not altering of your choices in these expressions easily.
It matters not, and you may be continuing to incorporate extensive time
frameworks in which you engage this sleep state, or you may alter that
choice.
But I shall offer to you one reminder, so to speak, of yourselves, and
of what you are creating individually in your own expressions, and that
is the continuous identification that you do not incorporate enough time
within your day! (Chuckling) But you incorporate a tremendous expression
of time within your day in your sleep state, which is unnecessary!
Now; you may choose to continue in that pattern, so to speak, or you
may be noticing of this interruption of sleep state quite consistently,
and you may be evaluating what you are creating, and experimenting with
incorporating more of your physical hours in the incorporation of waking
state and less of your physical hours within your sleep state. It
is your choice. Neither is better or worse. It is merely a
choice! (Chuckling)
MARJ: I just love my waterbed so much!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: Maybe it takes me back to my seafaring pirate days — I don’t
know! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Ah! I express to you, you may continue to incorporate
your waterbed! (Laughing) It is not better or worse to be incorporating
more or less sleep time. (Chuckling)
MARJ: Okay! Lastly, I was reading the transcription — I
think it was with Sena — about relationships,
and I felt like you were talking to me, which I’m sure many of us do, and
right about the time I read that — and re-read it and re-read it — I feel
like I made some adjustments, I’ll say for the better. I think I
understood, and I’m going to handle that better. Would I be validating
myself correctly, or am I deluding myself again?
ELIAS: You are correct, and I shall express to you, allow yourself
the permission to not be so very doubting of your own expressions! (Chuckling)
Acknowledge yourself, for you ARE creating your movement in the design
of your want.
MARJ: Lately I tell myself, or I constantly remind myself of,
“No expectations — let’s just see what I do,” and I feel so good because
I really feel that way!
ELIAS: I am understanding. Expectations are tremendously
limiting.
MARJ: Elias, thank you so much. I wish so many times, and
Joanne and I both say, why can’t we just call you up and you’ll come over
and visit with us, and we’ll just pick your brain forever!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha! And as you move into the incorporation
within yourselves of trust more and more, you may surprise yourselves and
you may be incorporating this very action! (Chuckling) Although you
may also be disappointed, for I have no brain to pick! (Laughter)
JO: I knew you were gonna say that! (Cracking up)
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MARJ: If I could just sit here and talk with you any time, it
would be like having the best friend in the whole world, who is accessible
always!
ELIAS: And I AM accessible always! (Chuckling)
MARJ: And to think that you actually don’t mind listening to us
whine when we whine, and laugh with us when we’re kidding around!
It’s just fantastic!
ELIAS: It matters not. All of your expressions are glorious!
(Chuckling)
MARJ: And definitely, so are yours, (Elias chuckles) and we do
appreciate you!
ELIAS: I express great affection to you, and I shall express also,
in response, a tremendous appreciation of you also! (Chuckling)
I continue my interaction with you, and I continue to offer an expression
of energy to you. I give to you encouragement this day, to be continuing
in your sojourn of exploration and your offering of gloriousness to yourselves!
In friendship to you both, au revoir.
MARJ: We love you, Elias.
Elias departs at 2:31 PM
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