Relationships
Topics:
“Relationships”
“Creating Illness”
“The Belief of Control”
Friday, January 14, 2000-2
© 2000 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and a new participant,
Dorian (Pascal).
Elias arrives at 1:55 PM. (Arrival time is 27 seconds)
ELIAS: Good day!
DORIAN: Hello. Good afternoon ... or good morning, actually!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha!
DORIAN: How are you?
ELIAS: As always!
DORIAN: Yes, I knew you were going to say that, because my friend
George said, “Elias is going to answer ‘as always.’” Very good, I
take it?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha!
DORIAN: Well, I’m looking forward to talking to you, and I have
some questions. Shall I go ahead and ask the first question?
ELIAS: You may proceed.
DORIAN: Okay. I’d like to know my essence name, family alignment,
and orientation, as well as my wife’s and my friend Don’s.
ELIAS: Very well. Essence name, Pascal; P-A-S-C-A-L. (päs-cal’)
Essence family, Zuli; alignment in this focus, Sumari; orientation, common.
And you are inquiring for these other individuals:
First individual, essence name, Wallen; W-A-L-L-E-N. (wall’en)
Essence family, Ilda; alignment, Vold; orientation, common.
Second individual, essence name, Julia; J-U-L-I-A. Essence family,
Tumold; alignment, Sumari; orientation, common.
DORIAN: Okay, thank you. Shall I proceed to the next question?
ELIAS: You may.
DORIAN: I’d like to know if you can comment about my wife’s health.
She has been very sick for a long time. Something that we frequently
discuss is that she had some breast implants about twenty years ago, and
we are led to believe that her allergies and all of these things are the
outcome of this. I’d like you comment on that, if possible, please,
and not only on that, but on her health as a whole. What is the situation?
ELIAS: I may express to you, first of all, that it is quite common
for individuals to associate, within their belief systems, certain actions
that they pursue with subsequent illness or physical affectingness.
This offers you an explanation which appears to be reasonable and acceptable
within your beliefs, and moves in conjunction with the mass belief systems.
I shall also express to you that at times, individuals are creating
physical affectingnesses in conjunction with mass belief systems that appear
objectively to be logical or reasonable, and I shall state in this that
each individual that participates in that type of creation also is creating
their individual expression in their own reason, so to speak. They
may be allowing themselves to create this type of an expression in more
of an ease as they allow themselves to move in conjunction with the energy
of mass belief systems, but they also are creating these types of affectingnesses
in conjunction with their own reasons.
Now; in this, as this particular individual has chosen to be incorporating
certain physical elements within her individual expression of her physical
form, what she is creating is an objective, outward expression which mirrors
inner movements and beliefs. And in this, as there is a creation
of dis-ease, in a manner of speaking, which creates certain elements of
illnesses or affectingnesses physically, the individual is mirroring the
dissatisfaction with certain elements of her individual focus, and creating
an outward expression in conjunction with the belief that elements outside
of herself are affecting of her and creating different expressions of her
reality as an attack, which within her beliefs, she is not offering permission
for.
Therefore, this allows her, in conjunction with her beliefs, to be assuming
the role of victim, and therefore also perpetuating the outward expression.
For in this, generally speaking, many individuals align with the belief
that there are many elements of your reality that you individually do not
create yourselves but that are created outside of you, and you are subject
to these creations, and with this particular individual, she also aligns
with these particular beliefs.
This creates a situation of powerlessness, to an extent, within the
perception of the individual, for the view is that they are being attacked
by influences which lie beyond their control, and in this, as they view
themselves to be at times not in control, they also create outward exhibitions
of elements in their reality that appear to be attacking them out of their
control also. Therefore, this is a mirroring outwardly or objectively
of what the individual is creating in conjunction with her belief systems
inwardly.
Now, let me also express to you that the expression of the feeling or
the thought that elements in your reality are outside of your control —
or that you yourself may be out of control, so to speak, in your vernacular
— are merely a different aspect of the same issue of control. Those
individuals that are experiencing issues in the expression of control also
at times are creating the situation in which they view themselves to not
be in control, or for elements within their reality to be beyond their
control.
And I shall express to you that the very subject of control in itself
is an aspect of belief systems and is an illusion, for within your reality,
there is no element that is out of your control, and there is no element
that you control either. But this is not to say that in the perception
of the individual, that these are not very real elements of their reality,
and that they do not produce very real objective expressions within their
reality through their perception.
Therefore, I may express to you that the association with the alteration
of physical body through implantation is quite real, for the individual
has created the affectingness in association with that action, and within
the perception of this individual, this is the reality, and therefore,
it IS reality.
I may also express to you that beyond that one angle, so to speak, of
perception, there are other beliefs that are influencing of this situation
and these physical manifestations, and these elements move in conjunction
with the aspects of beliefs that are directed in control and elements that
are viewed to be outside of an individual’s control, and this creates the
attack, so to speak.
DORIAN: Okay, let me ask you ... obviously I ask you this question
because my wife is an extremely important part of my life, but yet we haven’t
been in a happy relationship because of my sexual affinities. I’m
a homosexual, and this has created a lot of unhappiness in the marriage.
But going back to her health, do you foresee or have any insights into
any improvements or any developments in her future or in her present?
ELIAS: Let me express to you that this is dependent upon the choices
of the individual.
Now; if she is allowing herself to be turning her attention to self
and therefore allowing herself to view how she is creating these elements
within her reality, and that these creations are not thrust upon her and
that they are not an element that is beyond her control, so to speak, she
may be quite affecting of these expressions and manifestations physically.
I may be quite encouraging to you both in the reality that these expressions
or manifestations that she is creating may be altered physically quite
spontaneously.
BUT, the manifestations are associated with the movement and alignment
of belief systems that she holds, and in this, as she views elements of
her reality that she participates within as creations outside of her control
and as creations that she does not choose and that are thrust upon her,
she shall continue to be creating this type of outward manifestation, for
this is an expression of energy in mirror image to what she is aligning
with within her beliefs, and it does move quite efficiently in an outward
expression.
Energy shall be expressed. Therefore, regardless of how any of
you shall choose to be objectively “controlling” your energy and NOT expressing
your energy in certain manners, you SHALL express it in other areas, in
other manifestations, for energy shall be expressed regardless, for it
is always within motion.
Therefore, in this situation, as she continues to align with the belief
that these are not her creations, that she is not creating of these manifestations
but that they are manifestations that are attacking her and are outside
of her control, she shall continue to be perpetuating the energy which
is expressing in this manner, for it is mirroring her beliefs.
DORIAN: Okay. Thank you very much.
Let me ask you, in returning to another ailment in my life that I have
always suffered, I have always felt very frustrated about my financial
situation, and that has led me to some kind of interdependence with loved
ones. For instance, one of my friends helps me out a lot financially,
and it seems to me that I never have enough money to be content or happy
in life and to pay my bills, pay my debts. I really don’t like to
be dependent on people ... or maybe I do, I don’t know. Could you
please comment on my situation?
ELIAS: Yes. I shall express to you that the energy that
you project in conjunction with this particular subject matter moves in
many different expressions within your individual focus. Objectively
you express that you experience discomfort in this particular type of creation
in conjunction with financial aspects of your focus. You also are
creating elements which offer you a payoff in this area.
Now; allow yourself to view what you are creating in actuality.
First of all, in one expression, you are creating an element of a lack
of trust of your ability. But I shall also express to you that this
expression is not the same type of expression that I am offering explanation
of to other individuals. Many individuals may create an expression
of difficulty, so to speak, in relation to finances, and in this particular
subject matter, for the most part, so to speak, it moves in conjunction
with an expression of a lack of trust of self.
But in this particular situation, the expression of lack of trust that
YOU are creating and experiencing is not entirely the lack of trust of
your ability to be generating financial manifestations for yourself, but
rather a lack of trust in your ability to be creating expressions that
shall offer you a validation of self and certain qualities of expressions
that you seek. Therefore, you turn your attention to other avenues,
so to speak. As you do not offer to yourself certain expressions
that you seek, you turn your attention outside of yourself to be acquiring
those expressions from other individuals.
Now; in this, you have quite efficiently created the payoff that you
seek, for as you turn your attention to individuals outside of you, and
you enlist their helpfulness in expressions such as financial support,
you also create a situation that allows you the opportunity to be interactive,
to an extent, with other individuals in an expression of closeness, so
to speak, and although you identify within your beliefs objectively that
this places you in a situation of dependency, what you are in actuality
creating is a situation that you may be receiving an expression of acceptance
and nurturing from other individuals in a manner that you do not afford
yourself.
DORIAN: Okay, so in a way, this makes me think of ... I’m receiving
an expression of nurturing from other individuals, to quote what you said,
that I cannot provide myself with, and in a way, this makes me think of
my wife’s ailments as maybe an expression of interdependence with me.
ELIAS: You are quite correct.
DORIAN: Yes, I see. Let me ask you something about myself
as a homosexual and my relationship with
my friend, my lover. We have a very difficult relationship, and I’d
like you to comment on this situation, if possible. Where is it leading
me? Why am I doing this to myself or doing this to him? Sometimes
I wonder, who is he? What is it I want? We’ve been together
for seven years now, and it’s been a bittersweet struggle. I feel
that I need something else, somebody else, but I don’t know how to go about
it. So, the whole question might not be the way I’m asking it, but
that’s the way I feel. Can you please comment on this?
ELIAS: I am quite understanding of what you are expressing.
Now; as I have stated previously in this interaction, in this conversation,
what you are creating within your focus is not merely affecting of the
expression of difficulty, so to speak, or conflict in financial situations.
You are also, figuratively speaking, spilling this energy into ALL areas,
all aspects of your focus.
You experience this with your relationships — with your partner, with
your individual that you term to be your lover, with individuals that you
engage relationship of friendships, with your financial and employment
situations, with family — it matters not. All of these different
outward expressions and relationships and situations and circumstances
that you involve yourself with in this focus presently are affecting and
affected in the expression that you are creating, and the common element
in all of these situations and all of these creations is your viewing and
your perception of self. You project energy outwardly to be offering
yourself the payoff that you do not offer to yourself.
Now; in this, I am not expressing that you CANNOT offer this to yourself,
but that you DO not offer these expressions to yourself.
You also involve yourself in situations, in interaction with other individuals,
that shall offer you the opportunity to view mirror actions. Those
individuals that you view to be close to you in relationships, in their
different expressions, all mirror to you elements that present struggle
within you yourself, and you also mirror to them different elements of
their focus that they are not viewing objectively. Therefore, there
is a cooperation which is occurring in all of these relationships in their
different expressions, for you are all participating in these mirror actions
to each other.
As to the relationship that you have created with your lover, you offer
yourself the opportunity to view your behavior, to view how you are creating
your reality. You are not creating his reality! You are creating
YOUR reality.
Now; I shall express to you that in creating your reality, you are influencing
of his reality, for he is allowing your influence within his reality, as
are you also allowing his influence in your reality.
In this, both of you view each other, and what you create in that manner,
more than you allow yourselves to view yourselves. You hold your
attention outside of self, and concern yourself with the choices and the
beliefs and the actions and the creations and the expressions of the other
individual more than you hold your attention with self, and this in itself
is creating of much conflict.
DORIAN: Okay. The glimpse of hopefulness in improving my
life, as I foresee it, in what I gather from what you are telling me, is
that I need to develop a more assertive character, an outgoing personality,
so that I can trust myself and have more faith in myself and be more outgoing
towards controlling my reality, instead of creating that interdependence
on others. Am I correct in saying that?
ELIAS: Let me express to you, Pascal, I am not expressing to you
that you need be more assertive or that you need be more in control of
your focus.
What I AM expressing to you is a directing of your attention to yourself,
and your allowance of yourself to be trusting and accepting of yourself.
This may not be requiring what you identify, within your definitions, as
a tremendous alteration in your focus in your expression of assertiveness,
so to speak, but rather that you allow yourself to be accepting of self.
Vic’s note: Here, the bird starts squawking so loudly and repeatedly
that for the most part, I am reading Elias’ lips.
Let me express in other terms, in physical terms. Allow yourself
to be pleasing of self and not concerning yourself so very intensely in
the direction of the expression of pleasing other individuals, for in your
attempt to be pleasing of other individuals, you are discounting of self
and you are NOT pleasing of other individuals.
DORIAN: Thank you very much. That really helps me a lot.
Let me ask you another question. My son’s relationship with me has
never been good. He has had major problems, psychological problems,
and this has left us hurting each other. I love him very much.
Could you please comment on my son’s relationship with me?
ELIAS: This also quite moves in conjunction with what we are discussing
this day, and I shall express to you that as you allow yourself to be offering
your attention to yourself and not concerning yourself so very intensely
with the attempt to be pleasing or expressing certain directions with your
son, you shall also allow yourself to view a tremendous alteration in the
expression of your relationship together.
DORIAN: Thank you. Could you please comment ... my friend
George, my lover, and my wife? (Most of this question is obliterated
by the squawking of the bird.)
ELIAS: I shall express to you that you hold other focuses with
all of these individuals, and I may be encouraging of you to be allowing
yourself to be accessing information in conjunction with the other focuses
that you do hold with these individuals.
Now; I shall also express to that in my encouragement of you to be investigating
of these focuses, my encouragement moves more in the expression of your
allowance of yourself to merely access information concerning these focuses,
not necessarily the information of the focuses themselves per se, for this
shall offer you a validation of your abilities, which presently you hold
in great question. You are not trusting presently of your abilities
and your individual expressions, or how you may be manifesting certain
expressions within your focus.
Therefore, I am greatly encouraging of you to be allowing yourself a
time framework in which you may be relaxing and allowing the images to
flow in connection with these other focuses that you hold with these individuals,
for your accessing of that information shall be very helpful to you in
validation of yourself, of your abilities to be manipulating your own energy.
In this, in this present now, the information of the other focuses holds
less significance presently than the action of accessing them.
Are you understanding?
DORIAN: I think basically yes, I’m understanding what you’re saying.
One of the ways I understand is that perhaps I shouldn’t be concerned with
trying to access information, that it really doesn’t belong to me, but
rather focus myself on the present and on trusting myself, or believe more
in myself instead of pleasing others, and that’s really the main ailment
in my life at the present.
ELIAS: Correct. But in this, I am also encouraging you to
allow yourself the opportunity to be accessing other focuses, but not for
information concerning those other focuses; for the reason of merely allowing
yourself to view that you hold the ability to BE accessing them, that you
hold the ability to create this action, and therefore validate to yourself
that you hold the ability to manipulate energy beyond what you believe
presently.
DORIAN: Okay. Very well. Actually, I believe that
I’ve run out of questions. It seems to me that all of the things
that I’ve asked you in relation to other individuals rotate around the
same subject, and what you’re saying is, it’s very much in tune with my
life pattern, because regardless of which individual I ask about, I’m a
pleaser, and that has caused a lot of pain in my life, and I’m dependent
on others, and that has also caused a lot of unhappiness.
So, I would like to close this session by asking if you foresee any
changes, or anything that is going to be affecting my life now or in the
future.
ELIAS: (Smiling) In response to your question, as of now,
you ARE affecting of your focus, for you have allowed yourself to be engaging
in interaction with myself this day, and in this interaction, you have
allowed yourself to be listening and beginning the movement of turning
your attention.
Therefore, I may express to you that you have already begun in altering
aspects of your creations, and in this, be encouraged, for you shall continue
to be allowing yourself more of YOUR acceptance and trust of self, and
as you continue to be focusing your attention upon self, you also shall
automatically, as a natural byproduct, turn many elements of your creations,
and you shall allow yourself to view outwardly, objectively, the effect
that this shall be creating in the responsiveness of other individuals,
for they shall be noticing also.
DORIAN: Okay ... (enter the bird) ... time, and actually, at this
point, I’ve run out of questions. If you have any further comments
... (enter the bird). I would like to thank you for your time.
ELIAS: Very well. I express to you, be encouraged, for you
ARE creating your movement, and I shall be also offering energy to you
to be helpful.
Within this time framework, many individuals, and yourself also, are
experiencing great difficulty, and there is a tremendous expression of
energy which is being offered by other essences now to be helpful, and
in this, you may be assured that I shall be continuing to offer energy
to you also in your movement into self, and in this also, you may allow
yourself the objective recognition of my presence in energy if you are
watching. Be encouraged, my friend, for you have begun a movement
into a new expression!
DORIAN: Thank you very much. Have a wonderful day!
ELIAS: And to you also!
I anticipate our continued interaction. To you in great affection,
I express adieu.
Elias departs at 2:44 PM.
Vic’s note: Now, did I create the squawking bird? I suppose
so....
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