Addressing the Uncertainty of Being Seen: Defining Fears and What Feels Unsafe
Topics:
“Addressing the Uncertainty of Being Seen: Defining Fears and What Feels Unsafe”
“Neutralizing Fear”
“Recognizing Unsafe Feelings Based on Past Experiences”
Wednesday, January 17, 2024 (Private/In Person)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Lynda (Ruther) for Jean-Baptiste (Araili)
(Audio begins partway through session)
LYNDA: Jean-Baptiste wants to express himself to you, and there is a question at the end, of sorts. He’s in the middle of something and he would like to connect with you about it, and I’m going to read this to you.
Okay: “In my last session I had with you, I mentioned I wanted to write stories and also to ‘teach’ about the Elias material in my coaching activities. I'm passionate about sharing that info and my experiences and explorations in relation to it. I've found a few people with whom I’ve started to discuss coaching, using my inner senses to adjust how I approach them and learn from the reflections.
“I manifested covid at the end of last year and the start of this year, and I knew it was purposeful. I didn't know it would allow me to focus on launching a few projects based upon ‘You Create Your Reality.’ One is a website in French that has three parts: the first is a blog in which I will share how I put into practice the concepts, my current worldview and how it evolves from my experiences; the second part is a knowledge base gathering the basics and in-depth concepts to help people understand what I talk about in my blog; and the third part is a repository of all the story or books I wrote through the lens of ‘You Create Your Reality.’ I’m currently working on an interactive fiction with choices and emotions influencing what future choices would be presented to the reader, and focusing the story on the character/reader becoming more self-aware.
“Since I’m starting to take steps, things are manifesting rather quickly. I connected with Lynda about asking you a question, as I saw her in dreams inviting me to do so. Then one of my sisters suggested I did podcasts, and more than podcasts, facilitate a group interaction with people sharing and discussing about how they create their own reality. It's becoming real, and we are doing that on February 24th. The theme would be how interconnectedness manifests in our daily life. It reminded me that I have been seeing lots of imageries of interconnected dots and stars. I even saw sparkling blue dots in the black paint of the car that I hadn't noticed before.
“Then I connected with a friend about this workshop who was about to call me, and she told me about a few theatrical projects on similar themes, about choices and people becoming empowered by their choices,’ –
ELIAS: Read slower.
LYNDA: Okay. Thank you.
(Repeating, slower) “About choices, and people becoming empowered BY their choices, and learning to know themselves, and she needed to discuss with someone about the concepts that she didn't fully understand. That was a very good validation about the theme of the workshop, so we might start a collaboration on stories later, and I might interview her for my YouTube channel.
“But one question remains to me. Knowing that I'm soft, dispersed, political, but also Leader Personality, and knowing that I'm still addressing to my big association of it's not safe to be or express my genuine self, I'm wondering how to manage the public eye and allow for recognition and receive payment for what I offer with such enthusiasm.
“On Monday I reflected to myself some experiences that allowed me to see how I created ‘the others.’ I somewhat felt how the energy moves and shapes my perception/focus of attention, and I started to practice releasing the projection I do upon the others. But still I'm uncertain and start to freeze when I'm faced with the idea of being seen.
“That is the essence of what I’m facing at the moment.”
ELIAS: (Pause) The key is to define clearly what it is that you’re afraid of in relation to other people, and what it is that you think and feel are unsafe about other people paying attention to you. Once you can define what those two factors are, then you can find something about other people that counters that.
Therefore, when you can look at what you’re afraid of and you can see that other people are afraid also, that when you define what it is that YOUR fear is you can see that other people also are afraid, and therefore it can neutralize your fear.
And when you can define what is unsafe about other people paying attention to you, generally whatever your perception is about what’s unsafe, what feels unsafe to be paid attention to, has to do with past. And you can recognize that, that you are first of all insulated because you’re doing a blog or a podcast. Anyone that’s listening or reading isn’t in your physical presence; therefore, there is nothing threatening you. And in that, the attention that you are receiving is somewhat indirect and isn’t creating something or some situation that is unsafe. Nothing is going to happen. Nothing IS happening, and you’re simply engaging an association that attention feels unsafe.
Remember: “Safe” and “unsafe” are feelings. That’s not actually a state of being. “Secure” and “insecure” ARE states of being, but safety is in relation to being safe or being unsafe – not in relation to safety as far as ACTION is, but in relation to the perception of safe and unsafe, those are feelings. And in that, that’s based on past experiences, and therefore you make an association and you make an evaluation that certain expressions are not safe because of your past experiences.
Therefore, look at what feels unsafe about people paying attention to you. Where does that come from? What are the experiences in your life that have created that association? And then you can recognize that first of all, that’s not happening now – that was then, this is now.
In addition to that, you can actually recognize and define that you’re not actually – yet – physically engaging with people in physical proximity with you. Even in relation to a podcast you might have a guest, but for the most part if it’s interactive, it’s people that are phoning in. And in that, you’re not speaking with them face to face, and therefore the interaction is indirect, not direct. And that’s not threatening because you’re not in physical proximity with the other people.
Eventually you might be in physical proximity with people if you are engaging some type of workshop, if that is what you choose to do. And at that point, you will have already moved in this direction of having these types of interactions indirectly to assuage that unsafe feeling. And also, when you DO move in the direction of – IF you do – of engaging people directly in physical proximity with you, you’re choosing the people that you are interactive with. Therefore, you can count on yourself in relation to what you know of energy and trusting yourself in relation to your choices. And in that, YOU have the final say in relation to who you engage and involve with a workshop or whatever it is that you choose to do, IF you choose to do some interactive expression with other individuals in physical proximity with you.
But the most important factors now are to look at those two pieces. What are you afraid of and define that, and then be able to look at other people and see that they’re afraid also. And that’s part of why they would be coming to you, is to learn how to trust themselves and to address to their own experiences and to move in a direction of more freedom.
And in that also, to be looking at that piece of that feeling of unsafe and defining what that comes from, and recognizing that you’re not presenting an unsafe situation to yourself simply because you’re garnering the attention of other people. You’re not in physical proximity with them, and even when you become in physical proximity with them, you’re not a child any longer. You’re not in a situation that is threatening and unsafe, and the people that you would be interactive with are not people that are threatening you.
In that, the factor that they’re paying attention to you is because (emphatically) they want to listen to you. They are interested in what you’re expressing, not because they want to hurt you. Therefore, having the attention of other people isn’t automatically a threatening situation. Therefore, you don’t have to feel unsafe because people are paying attention to you.
Therefore in all of that, if you can clearly to yourself define those two pieces, then you can look at other people and you can see that the attention of the other people is not threatening because they’re coming to you because they’re interested in you. They want to hear what you have to say. They don’t want to beat you down. And that other people have just as many fears, and therefore you have a camaraderie in that rather than a threat.
LYNDA: Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
(Audio ends after 18 minutes)
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