Hot Flashes and Rose Quartz
“Hot Flashes and Rose Quartz”
“Anxiety Attacks Are Signals”
“How to Acknowledge Others Without Agreeing or Disagreeing”
Monday, October 22, 2012 (Private/In Person)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Brigitt (Camile)
ELIAS: Good morning!
BRIGITT: Good morning!
ELIAS: And what shall we discuss?
BRIGITT: I knew you would say that. (Both laugh)
ELIAS: Very predictable.
BRIGITT: Oh, I know. (Elias chuckles) Your energy: The first time I felt it in Castaic, it was very strong and very uncomfortable, and I was actually really surprised that I felt it in the first place because normally I don't. (Both laugh) But it's not so intimidating now. Is that because I'm slowly getting more used to it, or…?
ELIAS: And more comfortable.
BRIGITT: More comfortable.
BRIGITT: All right. (Elias chuckles) What do I want to talk about? Hot flashes.
BRIGITT: What in the world are causing these things? It's been about two and a half years, and I believe partially it's my belief system, aging and that, you know, this stuff happens, but I think there’s a lot more to it.
ELIAS: There are two factors. One, yes, incorporates your beliefs in relation to aging and changes with the body consciousness, but the other is actually physiological, which the body consciousness IS reconstructing itself, in a manner of speaking. It is transitioning, in a manner of speaking, to function differently.
The female body consciousness is designed, as you are aware, to bear young, but only for a period of time. And in this, as that period of time moves to a close, the body consciousness is readjusting itself to return itself to the state that it was before you began menses.
BRIGITT: Mm, okay.
ELIAS: Your beliefs influence some of the symptoms of that, for you incorporate beliefs in relation to aging, and your perception in relation to aging is that your body is changing more in a deterioration state than in a regeneration state. In actuality, it is returning itself to its natural state prior to menses, but in this, the affectingness of what you term to be hot flashes, this is also a combination of both. There is a physiological aspect that is occurring in which the hormonal expression of estrogen, there is a function of that that your body consciousness becomes accustomed to. Which, that particular hormone in female individuals begins to influence the regulation of body temperature. It travels to your physical brain, and it serves a function to help – not to regulate entirely, but to help – regulate your physical body temperature, which is a function that is related to childbearing. Your body consciousness is designed differently from the male body consciousness to support another form – another life, so to speak.
ELIAS: In that, it is necessary for your body consciousness to adjust its body temperature to support that other life. In this, the estrogen – one of its functions, not all of its functions – is to influence a certain area of the physical brain to regulate your body temperature. When you enter into this state of menopause, or what you term to be pre- or prior menopause, you are generating that action of returning your body consciousness to that original state in which the production of this particular hormone is not as necessary. Therefore, the production of it decreases tremendously. But your body consciousness has become accustomed to that hormone influencing your body temperature. When that stops occurring, when the estrogen is no longer involved in the regulating of your body temperature, your body reacts. For your physical brain is not being fed that component any longer, which it has become very accustomed to. Therefore for a time framework, it is confused, and its ability to regulate temperature is adjusting. When you are small, your ability to regulate body temperature is somewhat – not entirely, but somewhat – influenced by your environment. It is less influenced by your environment when you are producing that estrogen, that hormone, for it is substituting and it is involved more.
In this, when that stops occurring, the body consciousness incorporates a time framework – it seems to be a lengthy time framework (Brigitt laughs), but in actuality it is temporary.
ELIAS: And it is relatively short. But – it is generating an adjustment and attempting to reconfigure your energy to now be including environmental temperature as an influence of your body temperature. Not that it will be the only influence, but it becomes another influence again, a more significant influence.
In this, for most individuals it may be challenging to recall, but as a small one… If you cannot recall your own experience you can observe small ones now. Their body temperature is influenced by their environment, but they maintain, in a manner of speaking, a more stable body temperature. You will notice that small ones tolerate cold much more than an adult.
BRIGITT: True. Yes.
ELIAS: A small one will easily run into the snow without a coat and not be bothered – for a time framework; eventually it will be affecting of them, but their tolerance is much greater. In this, their body automatically regulates more easily, and they retain heat much more easily. Infants retain heat much greater than adults. Generally adults overdress infants consistently, for they do not require that insulation. Their body automatically holds heat.
Now; when you move into this transitional period, your body consciousness remembers that it incorporates the ability to retain heat; it merely becomes confused in WHEN to retain heat. (Brigitt laughs) Therefore it begins experimenting, and it is retaining heat but in an unbalanced capacity and therefore, momentarily – and for some individuals frequently – that retention of heat becomes somewhat overwhelming and you generate this action of a hot flash, which is a release of that energy, that your body consciousness is unnecessarily storing heat and it begins to recognize, “Too much, too much” and it releases it, and you feel very warm and you release this burst of energy, this burst of heat, which is also the reason that generally immediately subsequent to a hot flash the individual feels cold and sweats.
ELIAS: The sweat is a natural action, for that is the body consciousness naturally generating its own cooling system.
ELIAS: But once again, it is out of balance, therefore you sweat and you become cooled too quickly and you become chilled.
ELIAS: Which, I would express, it is temporary. There are actions that you can engage that can be helpful. I would express that what you consume to an extent – not entirely, but to an extent – does affect, for the more types of food that you consume that are designed for or that the body consciousness recognizes as insulating foods that contribute to the body's function of generating heat, foods in that type of category, the less you engage those types of foods, the less you are communicating to the body consciousness that it requires insulating.
BRIGITT: What type would those be?
ELIAS: Insulating foods are denser foods. Denser foods would be meats.
BRIGITT: Okay. (Chuckles)
ELIAS: Not all meats; starches, dairy. This is not to say that you must stop consuming any of these, but to pay attention and moderate them.
BRIGITT: Consume less of them.
ELIAS: Correct, and that you can choose in some situations to substitute a different type of food that is less dense for some of these foods that are more dense and that are instructing the body consciousness to be insulating. You will notice that most individuals that reside in locations that incorporate seasonal changes, they eat differently in winter than they do in the summer.
BRIGITT: Absolutely. I recognize that in myself. (Laughs)
ELIAS: In the summer, you are more likely to be consuming less dense foods, for you automatically – without thinking – know that your body consciousness does not need to retain heat, therefore you automatically begin to consume less dense foods. In the winter, you consume automatically more dense foods. You express that they are comfort foods. You consume more meat. You are likely to consume more foods that are the consistencies of stews, which you view as comfort food. The reason they are comfort food is that they suggest warmth.
ELIAS: Potatoes are consumed much more in the winter than they are in the summer. They are also much more dense food, and in that, they generate more fuel for heat. Therefore, that is one action that you can pay attention to, what you are consuming. The more dense the food is, the more likely it is that it will encourage these hot flashes, for it is communicating to the body consciousness, “Produce heat.”
ELIAS: Another action that you can incorporate is to pay attention to your environmental temperature. You can regulate, to an extent, your environmental temperature, and in that, lower the environmental temperature. Not TOO low, for that communicates to the body consciousness, “Now you need to produce heat,” but experiment. What is ideal is to generate an environmental temperature that complements your body temperature and encourages it to be expressing more evenly. But generally speaking, a lower temperature environmentally is beneficial in these situations.
Another action that you can do is to incorporate a rose quartz.
BRIGITT: Rose quartz, okay.
ELIAS: Now; allow yourself a treasure hunt.
BRIGITT: Okay, sounds good.
ELIAS: And allow yourself to find a rose quartz stone that is comfortable for you. In actuality I would suggest that you incorporate two, one relatively small that you can hold comfortably in the palm of your hand. That stone I would suggest to be more roundish in shape, that you can hold it in your fist. Therefore, you can easily carry it with you at any time framework. You can place it in your pocket, therefore it is easily accessible, and I would suggest that you develop a habit. Develop a habit of holding it.
ELIAS: Carrying it with you, holding it. It is not necessary to even pay attention to it. Rose quartz is an interesting stone, for its primary function is to absorb.
ELIAS: It naturally absorbs energy. Therefore, if you are holding this stone frequently, it is constantly absorbing your energy and will help regulate your body temperature.
In other time frameworks, if you are in a location or a situation that perhaps it may be more difficult for you to regulate the environmental temperature, you are not in your home, or if you are in your home and you may be experiencing a time framework, a day or a week, that you are generating more of these flashes more frequently?
ELIAS: In those time frameworks and situations I would suggest that you incorporate a different rose quartz, this being more flat, smooth and larger, approximately between one and a half and three inches in diameter. When you are experiencing those time frameworks, you can incorporate that stone. Place that stone in the vicinity between your blue and pink energy center, in the area of your collarbone – not your throat but not your chest, in this area of your collarbone. Place the stone in that area and allow yourself to incorporate the stone in that area for approximately fifteen of your minutes in each time framework. It matters not how often you do this. That will be more directly, more instantaneously pulling the energy and in more volume, and therefore helping to regulate the body temperature more so.
Now; in using these stones, I would express to you: Once each day, with both of these stones, depending on with the larger stone how often you use it, but if you are using it, for a period of approximately ten of your minutes, at some point within your day place the stone outside and place it in a location in which it is directly in contact with sunlight. Allow it to be in the sunlight for approximately ten of your minutes. This allows the stone to release.
ELIAS: It empties the stone. The stone has a tremendous capacity for pulling into itself, but it is necessary for it to release that energy periodically. If you are holding the stone every day continuously or very frequently, it will require approximately ten of your minutes to drain.
BRIGITT: Daily, or…?
ELIAS: Only if you are using it daily.
ELIAS: If you are not using it daily then it is not necessary for you to generate that action daily. But if you are using it daily, yes.
BRIGITT: Okay. Wow. Funny enough, that's actually harder than it sounds, considering it's coming up to the time of the year that I go to work in the dark and I come home in the dark and it's very cold outside, but I can manage it. (Chuckles)
ELIAS: It is not necessary of you to be present with the stone when you place it outside.
BRIGITT: Oh, okay.
ELIAS: And the location of which you place it outside is not important either.
BRIGITT: Just as long as there is sunlight.
ELIAS: Correct. It is not necessary that you are present with it. Therefore merely place the stone outside for approximately ten of your minutes, and if it is directly within sunlight it will automatically drain.
BRIGITT: Would it be like harmful to leave it out like for a day?
BRIGITT: Does temperature affect it?
BRIGITT: No? Oh good.
ELIAS: That matters not. What I am expressing to you is that it would require in the least ten of your minutes to drain. Once it is drained, it is empty.
BRIGITT: Okay. Perfect.
ELIAS: And in that situation it is prepared to receive again. In this, the efficiency or the affectingness of it, if you do not allow it to drain, will be diminished.
BRIGITT: Okay. Great! That sounds wonderful! I need to do that.
Another thing: anxiety attacks.
BRIGITT: Those! For the life of me I can't figure out why and where those started. I remember the first time I had one, and then periodically over the years while I'm driving and stuff, for no particular reason, or no reason that I can tell. Is that anything related to this hormonal shift, or is there a lot more involved?
ELIAS: More involved.
BRIGITT: I would think so, yeah. It's pretty freaky, and I can't figure out why...
ELIAS: It can be exacerbated by the hormonal shift, but it is not caused by that.
ELIAS: Now; this is directly associated with what we were discussing in our group interaction. Anxiety is a failing. That is a signal. In this, it is a matter of questioning yourself – and remember what I expressed: The body consciousness does not necessarily distinguish time frameworks. Therefore, feelings do not always occur immediately in relation to an experience. At times they do; at times when you are generating an experience you are also generating a feeling. But at times, the feeling may follow an experience, for the feeling is a signal and the signal is associated with that statement that your subjective awareness is expressing. At times, with some individuals, the subjective awareness may be processing an experience and has not generated a statement yet. When it does, you will generate a feeling.
ELIAS: Therefore, when you are questioning yourself in relation to the feeling, it is important that you are not so rigid that you are expressing the question “What am I doing in this moment?”
BRIGITT: Yes. Okay.
ELIAS: For it may not always be in this moment that is triggering the signal, the feeling. It may be more general. It may be what you are expressing in relation to the day, or the situation. If you are experiencing this when you are driving – once again, remember what we were discussing in our group interaction, in relation to the factor of driving, you are contained in your own environment. It is safe for you to express differently than you would in other situations. Therefore, in your vehicle, that may be your enclosed environment that is safe for you to express and to release energy in which you may not allow yourself in other time frameworks.
Generating feelings in a vehicle is telling, in a manner of speaking. For generally speaking, when individuals generate feelings in a vehicle that are not related to an actual action that is occurring immediately, that feeling is associated with some expression that you are not allowing yourself to do in other time frameworks.
ELIAS: Therefore, if you are expressing anxiety, what are you stifling in other time frameworks? What are you covering in other time frameworks? How are you projecting yourself in other time frameworks that is not genuine, or that you are expressing a facade?
BRIGITT: Or how MANY times? (Laughs)
ELIAS: And that would be very understandable that you would be generating consistent anxiety episodes in your vehicle, for it is a matter of “This is anxiety. This is the feeling. What does that feeling mean to me? What does this feeling mean to me? What is uncomfortable? What is the threat? What am I afraid of?”
BRIGITT: The loss of control, I would think. And my loss of control, because when you’re in a vehicle if you lose control you can do some major damage (chuckles), you know? And...
ELIAS: But where is the expression of that in OTHER time frameworks?
BRIGITT: Other time frameworks - THAT'S what I’m goin’ for.
ELIAS: In other expressions. When you are interacting with other individuals; when you are in your workplace; when you are in your home with your family, with friends, begin to evaluate what is your actual feeling in relation to these subjects. Are you comfortable or uncomfortable with your employment? What is uncomfortable with that? How do you express that – or DO you express it?
ELIAS: Do you ALLOW yourself to express it? What are the time frameworks in which you are NOT allowing yourself to release energy that now it is necessary for you to release it in this environment, in this situation. And it is exacerbated, yes, for you are in a situation, in an environment that could potentially BE dangerous.
ELIAS: Therefore, that exacerbates...
BRIGITT: It makes it worse, exactly. (Chuckles)
ELIAS: Yes. Therefore, I would express to you, pay attention to what you do in your daily routine, in your daily activities that is stifling you, that you are not allowing yourself to be genuine in, or that you are hesitating with.
BRIGITT: Oh boy! That could take a while. (Both laugh) I might be able to NOTICE it, but okay, I will pay attention to that.
ELIAS: Ah, and… this is important.
BRIGITT: Notice it and acknowledge it?
ELIAS: And that is enough, beginning.
ELIAS: That is enough, beginning. Do not overwhelm yourself; recognize that this is a process. When you are ready, when you have engaged noticing it, recognizing, defining – for the defining aspect can be challenging also, defining those feelings when you are not accustomed to paying attention to they can be challenging. Therefore, I would express to you, the beginning step is to pay attention, recognize, define and acknowledge that. It is not necessary to “do with it” yet.
ELIAS: When you have engaged that step of recognizing and defining the feelings, and defining what the threat is, what you are preventing yourself from doing, when you are familiar with that action and you are comfortable with that, then you will be ready to move into the next step, which will be presenting yourself with choices: asking yourself, “Very well. This is what I feel, this is what it means, this is what the threat is to me; what are my choices? What different choices do I have than reacting, or automatic expressions? What can I do in this situation that is different from what I am accustomed to doing and that honors what I want?”
ELIAS: An excellent example in our group interaction was that of the individual that presented the situation between himself and his partner and how he expresses the automatic, “Yes, you are right.”
BRIGITT: Oh, Bill? (Chuckles). Yeah.
ELIAS: When his partner expresses “Right?” and he expresses, “Yes,” merely to avoid.
ELIAS: This is not what he feels, it is not his genuine expression, but it is very familiar action of avoidance. And in his perception, it prevents a further engaging.
ELIAS: In an uncomfortable manner.
BRIGITT: Right. Oh, I would do that. (Laughs)
ELIAS: You can accomplish preventing the further engagement in other manners besides avoiding, which denies you. You are then in a situation such as that, discounting yourself, giving your power to the other individual and allowing the other individual to dictate your choices, for now you are adjusting your choices to accommodate them.
ELIAS: You think you are accommodating yourself, for you do not want to continue to engage, therefore you are avoiding. But in actuality you are accommodating the other individual and you are giving your power to them. Your choices are no longer yours. You are allowing them to dictate your choices.
In this, as I expressed with that individual, one manner in which you can recognize when you express to yourself, “What are MY choices?”: If your threat is “I do not want to be uncomfortable by continuing to engage,” if that is the threat, it is a matter of, as I expressed, turning the spotlight. The spotlight is upon you, and you are holding it on you and therefore generating this action of avoiding.
ELIAS: For the spotlight is already turned to you. It is spotlighting your fear, your uncomfortableness. Use that expression. Use that spotlight and turn it. Turn it to the object of what is influencing your fear. What is influencing your fear is the other individual expressing to you.
ELIAS: Therefore, you turn the spotlight to them. You turn it away from you, rather than avoiding, which continues to hold the spotlight upon you.
ELIAS: But when you turn the spotlight to the other individual, what you are doing is reflecting back to them. Remember: They are not only reflecting you; you are also reflecting them.
ELIAS: Or you would not be in their presence.
ELIAS: Therefore, use your reflection. Reflect back to them what they are expressing! Echo it.
BRIGITT: How do you DO that? (Chuckles) What, energetically? Do you do that verbally?
ELIAS: You can do both.
I would express initially it may be more effective for both of you if you were actually expressing, for obviously you are not proficient enough yet in manipulating energy to merely turn the spotlight energetically, for you are automatically turning it upon yourself and you are not aware of that.
BRIGITT: Yes, for sure.
ELIAS: Therefore, initially I would express that it may be more beneficial or more effective to actually engage.
ELIAS: Walking away does not accomplish. You think it does but it does not, for walking away merely encourages the other individual to follow you! (Brigitt laughs) Whether they physically follow you or whether they follow you with their energy, they will follow you. That is what you are inviting them to do when you walk away. Therefore, that is not effective.
ELIAS: And you continue to pull their energy in, even when you walk away. You think you are shutting it out but you are not, for you continue to be concerned about it.
ELIAS: And you continue to feel uncomfortable. You walk away, you do not immediately feel better.
BRIGITT: No, of course not.
ELIAS: You do not immediately feel lighter and forget the encounter. No, you continue to express that. You are continuing to be uncomfortable, (chuckling) for you are carrying that energy that they are following you with. You merely are expressing to yourself in thinking that you have left it, but you have not.
ELIAS: Therefore, what is more effective is to echo back to the other individual when they are generating a statement and you do not agree with them but you do not want to engage a conversation or a confrontation, you echo them. Whatever statement they expressed, express it back to them.
BRIGITT: Exact same statement? What do you mean?
ELIAS: Change the words.
[Phone rings throughout the next exchange]
ELIAS: Change the words but echo the same statement.
BRIGITT: Okay, echo the same statement. Even if it's something you don't necessarily agree with?
ELIAS: You are not agreeing by echoing. What you are doing is bouncing it back.
ELIAS: What they are doing is projecting energy to you. They are throwing the ball to you.
ELIAS: It is not necessary for you to TAKE the ball. They are throwing the ball to you. You can either take the ball, hold the ball, walk away with the ball, continue to hold the ball – which is what they want – OR you can echo. Change the words, for if you express precisely the exact same words, they will receive that and continue. If you change the words, they listen, for now you have engaged them, which is what they want. They want you to engage them.
ELIAS: You have engaged them, but you have not agreed or disagreed. You have merely reconfigured their words and given them back to them. You have handed them back their expression.
Which accomplishes more than one action. It allows you to be genuine to you; it allows you to not avoid and honor yourself; it allows you to let go of the energy and not allow it to penetrate; it also acknowledges the other individual, for you are responding.
Therefore you are acknowledging the other individual. Acknowledging is not agreeing or disagreeing; it is merely witnessing. Therefore, you are acknowledging the other individual's existence, their importance. You are not agreeing or disagreeing. You are acknowledging them, which is enough.
ELIAS: However they receive it back is not your concern. In many if not most situations, they may receive it as you agreeing with them. It matters not whether you do or you do not. If you are avoiding, you are not agreeing, but you are carrying their energy – but they think you are agreeing, for you are expressing “Yes,” for you are avoiding. Therefore, what is the most beneficial action? To discount yourself, become uncomfortable and hold energy and therefore incorporate anxiety when you require releasing energy, OR generate the same result. In either situation the other individual thinks you agree, or they may think you agree and you did not agree at all. You merely handed them back their statement.
BRIGITT: Hm. Okay. Well, I’m gonna…
ELIAS: The more you practice this, eventually those individuals that interact with you consistently will begin to key in.
ELIAS: Eventually they will begin to notice that you are not actually agreeing with them. But it will not matter, for they will eventually begin to recognize, “You are not actually agreeing with me. You are actually not engaging me.” And they will stop.
ELIAS: For they are not receiving the payoff that they think they want, and eventually it will be uninteresting to them to engage, for they are not receiving the payoff. But the benefit to you is tremendous.
BRIGITT: Lightening up, I would think?
ELIAS: Very much so, and honoring yourself. Allowing yourself to move more into balance, allowing yourself to be functioning more effectively and efficiently, for you will be releasing energy more naturally rather than holding and exploding.
ELIAS: It allows you to become more comfortable with you and your own expression and your own differences, that it is not necessary for you to be the same as other individuals, it is acceptable for you to be you.
BRIGITT: Oh good. (Laughs)
ELIAS: It is acceptable for you to feel what you feel. It is acceptable for you to express in the manner that you express naturally, and it is not necessary for you to conform to any other expression that any other individual is generating or expects.
ELIAS: I would generate an acknowledgement in this moment to you. When we began this conversation your energy was significantly tense.
BRIGITT: Oh yeah. (Laughs)
ELIAS: And agitated. And I would express that it has considerably relaxed, and I am acknowledging of you.
BRIGITT: Thank you. Thank you, yeah. I’m not so good at reading energy, but I’m practicing – or noticing energy. I tend to do things for extremes and I've noticed that throughout my life, and that's probably why the holding and the big release.
ELIAS: Let me also express to you, it's not bad to generate in extremes. Some individuals do naturally. It is a matter of finding the balance in the extremes.
BRIGITT: Oh yeah.
ELIAS: That you can generate extreme experiences, and even extreme expressions, and also balance.
ELIAS: And not hold energy and not explode. But allow yourself that natural expression. (Whispering intensely) You are not all the same!
ELIAS: Some individuals express in a very even manner. Some individuals express very intensely. Some individuals generate extremes in almost all of their actions, for that is effective for them and that is their natural expression. It is their personality.
[The timer for the end of the session rings]
That is acceptable. It is a matter of viewing yourself and genuinely expressing to yourself, “This is not necessarily bad.” Those words – “drama,” “extremes” – individuals automatically think “bad, bad, bad.” Not necessarily. Some individuals generate drama as a tool in how they manipulate, and they pay attention to it. Therefore, for them it is efficient and it is effective. It is important for you to evaluate you and what is natural to you.
BRIGITT: That's the treasure hunt, I think. (Laughs)
ELIAS: That IS the treasure hunt! Discovering you!
BRIGITT: Genuine identity – what the heck is that?
ELIAS: It is discovering what that word “Brigitt” means. What does that word mean? It is a word, and it supposedly is the word that embodies and defines YOU.
Any other word you can attach a definition to, correct?
ELIAS: What does the word “Brigitt” mean?
BRIGITT: Okay. Thank you very much.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend. I express to you a tremendous enjoyment of our interaction.
BRIGITT: Thank you. Me also. (Laughs) You’re in my head all the time. (Both laugh) Or, I assume that anyway, but…
ELIAS: And I shall express to you that I shall anticipate our next meeting and extend my invitation.
BRIGITT: Well, you will. Thank you.
ELIAS: To you in tremendous lovingness and in great affection as always, and in an acknowledgment of your movement and your abilities. You can, you will.
BRIGITT: Thank you.
ELIAS: My dear friend, au revoir.
BRIGITT: Au revoir.
(Elias departs after 1 hour)
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