Moving Your Attention to the Now Is Tremendously Empowering
Topics:
“Choosing a Different Direction Does Not Devalue Previous Experiences”
“Moving Your Attention to the Now Is Tremendously Empowering”
“Becoming Familiar with You and Your Preferences is Key”
Saturday, July 10, 2002 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Rose (Quillan)
ELIAS: Good evening.
ROSE: Good evening… more or less. (Both laugh.) Good afternoon, Elias. How are you?
ELIAS: As always. And yourself?
ROSE: Oh, much better again. I was preparing myself for the session very much and I thought, “Oh, I want to talk about the things I have difficulty with, with Elias.” But what happened was, I reached into a very, very heavy mood. So I thought, “No. This can't go on like that. I have to change that.” And that went much better. (Both chuckle)
So, can we start?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Okay. I would like to start with… Elias, if you tune into myself, or into my energy, is there anything you would say from your end, as a kind of statement or recommendation or whatever? Before I say any question.
ELIAS: (Pause) Presently, your energy expression appears to be quite scattered. In this, I recognize a significant confusion that you are expressing within yourself, although attempting to be directing of your choices, but not quite assured in the choices that you are generating, presently.
ROSE: Yeah, that's right, that matches. There is a lot inconclusive and contradictory within myself, and I was wondering if this is, in a way, relating to the soft orientation, or what it is. Because if I had tried to come to the vision, there's always a different view and it makes me… This is difficult for me, then, to decide for ONE thing, because I also mostly like the opposite. (Laughs) But that's not how you come to terms, you know.
ELIAS: Yes. I am understanding. In this, you are vacillating. For what you are generating is a lack of clarity in listening to yourself. And therefore, you are offering yourself information and PARTIALLY listening to yourself, but in a GENERAL manner rather than a SPECIFIC manner. And this is what generates the confusion and what you view to be this vacillation, or what you identify within yourself as wanting one choice, but also wanting another choice which appears to be in conflict with the first choice. This is what you are defining as the OPPOSITE. But this is being generated in association with your confusion. For if you are allowing yourself to genuinely pay attention to you, and listen to YOU, and not incorporate the FILTER of what OTHER individuals want, you may offer yourself more of a CLARITY, and allow yourself a clearer understanding of PRECISELY what you want.
You PARTIALLY want to move in several directions. Or you think you want to move in these different directions. But in actuality, ONE, in your terms, weighs heavier than the others. Are you understanding?
ROSE: I think so. I think I do understand. And would you, from your end, be where, “I can do it where the more weight is.” And you don't tell it to me, to let me find it out myself? Do you see this? Can you perceive that?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: You do.
ELIAS: In this, I may express to you, you already know – you are moving in the direction of wanting to generate new adventure. But you hold yourself in restriction in association with your beliefs concerning commitment and obligation.
ROSE: Are you talking about my marriage?
ELIAS: Partially, yes.
ROSE: And my daughter?
ELIAS: Partially, yes.
ROSE: I sometimes feel I would like to jump to the next airplane and just leave for California and just go.
ELIAS: I am aware.
ROSE: You're aware. And I would always with my husband, because I loved him very much. But this is changed now. And I sometimes ask myself if I'm only with him now because I have made this commitment and, on the other hand, because I am more afraid. I'm afraid of failure and I ask myself if I became like a – I think the term is (inaudible) – you know just, um… That was not what I ever was.
This is coming back to the topic of creations. Creating your own reality and there is a lot of fear connected with it, of course. Because I remember, what would be termed failure. And when I remember this, I recall times when I was not having the knowledge which I have today about “I create my own reality”, and so on. And I have learned a lot about this. And I have had experiences which prove this to be true to me. And I have had a kind of teacher, which I found to be very… There was a lot of resonance in my heart, and I felt, “He's talking about the truth.” Even if I'm not at the same point where he is. But I was very clear, and I was trusting.
And then, when there are these moments when I jump, or put myself back into fear – the WHOLE thing I have learned and I believe in, turns around. And it is like an ice dream and it's a great fear. I feel paralyzed. I feel like with this thing I become (inaudible). And I even become sometimes, like, autoaggressive. So I feel there is a lot of conflict then, within me.
And I was thinking about, “Do I stay with my husband just because he provides me with all this nice living?”, which was never a topic for me before. But I feel I became like, in a way, “You would put so much; I don't want to lose it.” And I would think about myself, “Well, is this bad, or not?” – all these things. I think you are aware of that.
ELIAS: Yes. I am understanding. And shall we view more specifically this expression of what YOU define as failure. For this may offer you some factor of information which may be helpful. For in this, you are associating with a familiar term and concept of failure in association with the relationship, but in actuality, underlying that association of failure, is actually an association of DEVALUING what you have created thus far. You are terming this to be failure, but in actuality, what the actual association is, is one of devaluing what you have generated thus far, to this point.
You recognize that you have genuinely generated an affection and an appreciation of this individual and of your relationship with this individual. And if you are discontinuing, you create an automatic association that the action of discontinuing devalues and nullifies the entirety of your expressions of appreciation, affection, or what you view to be love, in association with this individual. And it does not. It does not discount the genuineness and the creation of those expressions. It does not nullify those expressions. It is merely a recognition that individuals are continuously changing. And as you change – for is the nature of your being – you choose different directions and different expressions. And this does not devalue or discount your previous experiences.
ROSE: Right, and I agree. I agree.
ELIAS: And I may also express to you, that this is not to say that as you move and alter your choices, that you do not continue to express a genuineness in affection NOW. But you are moving in a direction of recognizing that your WANTS are changing.
ROSE: It becomes too narrow for me. This relationship is too narrow. It's too much restrictions. Even if it provides maybe the kind of stability, it is, in a way, too limited for me. And I was confused about this because of my experiences in this focus is: if I really change, I have to leave. I had to leave all the things behind. And this time I would, like the first time, in the situation where I tried to find out if I CAN take certain people, situations, or whatever, with me into the new situation. And if my perspective is just too limited or whatever.
But I came to a place where I found what I would term to be a good relationship, is the relationship of two beings, or many beings, but individuals which are independent from each other and are only together because of the joy and, yeah, love and happiness. But independent on every level – on the financial level, on the emotional level, on the physical level… Independent beings – beings which know about themselves and live it.
And then I discovered a lot of dependency in this relationship, from both sides. But where I am at right now is, there is much more independency, even if I feel fear. But I can't go back to this dependent kind of relationship. And my husband is way back with all these things. He's much more into dependency, as I perceive him. And I hope I'm right with this perception.
ELIAS: But what holds significant is what YOU genuinely want.
ROSE: Yes, that's right. I want… (chuckles) Yesterday when I found… The way I deal with the thing, with the preparation for this session, makes me getting more and more… feeling, wow, heavy. (inaudible) No, I won't continue like this.
What I want to ask you is: what is the fast way to really experience my essence, and live from there? And how can I solve the topic with other beings, with my relationships, with where I'm not happy. And I'm really at the place where I have thrown most people out of my life, or went away?
So, this is three topics: I want to be dwelling in my essence and living from that happy, firsthand experience of it – not the sad story about how it is; I want to have a happy relationship life with friends and relations; and I want to be sure that I can create whatever I want to create, and to be self-sufficient in all that, because of who I am. These are the questions.
ELIAS: I am understanding.
ROSE: Yeah.
ELIAS: And the response to all of these questions lies in your attention. In moving your attention to YOU and, in a manner of speaking, daring to offer yourself permission to merely move in the directions that you genuinely want – in genuinely paying attention to YOU, and not concerning yourself with the choices or the expectations of other individuals – for in generating an acceptance and a comfort within yourself, you shall automatically radiate that type of energy outwardly. And you shall create what you want precisely.
But the key is GENUINELY to be listening to you and offering yourself the freedom to be moving in actions and generating choices that YOU want. As I expressed to you to not concern yourself with other individuals and their expectations and their choices and their expressions, I'm not expressing to you that you do not CARE, but that you do not CONCERN yourself. And do not allow other individuals to dictate to you what your choices shall be.
Also recognize within yourself that you are challenging yourself in these choices. For you are struggling with beliefs that generate expressions of guilt and a discounting of yourself. There are many, many beliefs that are associated with the direction in which you wish to move.
ROSE: That's right.
ELIAS: Beliefs concerning loyalty –
ROSE: And I'll get to hear them all, if I do that.
ELIAS: Beliefs concerning loyalty, commitment, right behavior, obligation –
ROSE: – gratefulness, and all these things. I know. I know.
ELIAS: Beliefs –
ROSE: I would love (inaudible) If I really listen to my inner voice, this would mean leaving all behind, and so on. If I'm not doing this – if I'm hesitating – am I just a coward? And one person responded, “Yes, we are all cowards.” And I responded, “No, I don't think so.” It's just that I allow myself the time to really consider this and not to jump – to make the jump and to not regard myself as a coward. Because this is really a bigger jump, let's just say, [than] especially, if I eat this ice cream or the other one.
ELIAS: And what is your association with this term of coward?
ROSE: It's okay to be a coward every now and then. If you need the time to be a coward, why not? Why not? It is the other perspective. I feel it's okay if you are afraid. It's better to allow yourself to be afraid and to find YOUR way to deal with it, instead of pretending to be not a coward and not being afraid and, in a way, betray myself. And even, you would say, [German word/phrase] myself. Do you understand me talking German?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Yes. (Laughs)
ELIAS: I am understanding what you are expressing and I am acknowledging of you in your allowance of yourself to be incorporating a time framework to genuinely LISTEN to what you are expressing to yourself. And acknowledging that you are generating expressions of fear and not attempting to force your energy or ignore your expression of fear. For many times individuals attempt to ignore this type of expression and in THAT action, overwhelm themselves.
ROSE: Right. That was what I meant by [German word/phrase]. Right.
I have more questions regarding this creation thing. Before I felt I would have to be specific about this or that, but I found there is a general question. If I find myself in a position which I would call… In one way I could see it as a kind of dead-end road and I want to move out of it again – it doesn't matter what kind of situation it is – the way out of it is, what you would say, to genuinely listen to yourself, to genuinely trust yourself, and put this into action. Is this correct?
ELIAS: Correct.
ROSE: And then I had to accept whatever I want to. Because when you sit in this dead end (laughs) you feel like (sings) “Oop, if I have to stop I (inaudible)” blah, blah, blah. You come up with this fear. And yet there is this one sentence I really love. This is: “When you feel like you have impossible dreams and you feel powerless and helpless, then you turn your attention to feel open and unrestricted. And you have a lot of potential and it's great fun exploring it.”
ELIAS: Correct! (Both laugh)
ROSE: So when I'm in fear, I feel there is no potential at all, but I trust there is one. And I was thinking a lot about this term, which you'd used last time, “And this requires trust,” you said. And I thought, “Do I have enough trust? Is there a limit of my trust?” And I thought, “Yes, there is a limit of trust, when I am in my fear spot, I would say, there is a lack of trust.” And I paralyze myself, and so on.
So what I did was, I was pulling myself back to the moment again and again. And changing the direction and offering myself choices from one moment to the next. Even if I was coming from the, yeah, sad place. Come there, just coming back to the moment. And again and again and again.
ELIAS: Correct. This is the most influencing action that you may incorporate, is to allow yourself to move your attention to the now. This is a tremendously empowering action. For this is the moment in which you generate all of your choices – in the now. Every other moment is an illusion. And in projecting your attention, past or future, you distract yourself and you reinforce the expressions of fear.
ROSE: Hmm… that's right.
I found I was in a very terrible state yesterday and I decided to stop it. I went for jogging and I went for swimming. And afterwards I did a meditation. And I was so happy after that, again. I was so happy and I was so strong again. And what is necessary to me, is to be strong from myself; not in relation to anybody else as a source of input, but from my own inner self.
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: And that is what I am really practicing. Even if I fall down, I get up on my feet again. And I'm practicing and practicing.
And there was one thing I wanted to ask you about. I was happy with this man in California and my fingernails – I was talking about this to you – they were growing. And I was able to let them grow for weeks, until I started to read about certain issues in the Elias material. Then I was not able to hold it any longer. And I started to cut them too short again, and so on. I thought like, “You were not meant to read this – you know it all by yourself.” (Elias laughs) I'll, anyway, force myself to read it. But it didn't do good to me, and instead of stopping doing the action, I continued. But (chuckles) from then on I was, well, over the top, again.
ELIAS: And what do you perceive you are expressing to yourself? For you are generating emotional communications to yourself. And, once again, you are generating this action, which is a reflection in outward imagery of what you are expressing to yourself in emotional communication, as we have expressed previously. Therefore, what are you noticing that you are expressing to yourself in your emotional communications?
ROSE: What I experience most – that this is not the right thing for me to do right now. I should stop this. And I didn't stop. And in this way I was discounting myself. And that was the moment my success was gone, you could say. I couldn't hold it any longer. Does this make sense to you?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: And it was, I made the connection: it's always with reading. A lot with reading – this happened a lot with reading. Like reading books, which helped me to get my things done, or helped me to get my problems solved. But it is like the communication is, “You know it already, you just have dare to live it. Stop reading, stop reading, stop reading!” (Laughs) This is what I get from inside, but I don't… I don't listen.
ELIAS: This action, of reading, is an intimate action with self. For this action is incorporated with yourself, singularly. And therefore, you move your attention to yourself in an intimate manner, in this action of reading. But it also may be incorporated as a distraction, and therefore, in your terms, used as an EXCUSE to not generate other actions. Are you understanding?
ROSE: I don't know. I'm not quite sure if I'm understanding – the excuse?
ELIAS: In this, you, individually, generate this action of reading information at times as an intimate interaction with yourself. You allow yourself, at times, to genuinely turn your attention to yourself and examine different aspects of yourself in association with reading.
But the reason that you are generating this communication – this emotional communication to yourself – now and recently, in association with this intimate action of reading, is that you are, recently, not generating that same expression of intimacy with yourself in this action of reading, but rather you are incorporating this action of reading as a distraction and an EXCUSE to NOT generate application of what you have offered to yourself in intimate information.
This is the reason that you generate this expression within yourself and this emotional communication which you are identifying as expressing to yourself, “Stop reading. You know, now DO.” But this also is associated with the fear of doing. For the doing, the choosing, is unfamiliar. And as we have discussed, there are many beliefs that are influencing of your perception which prevent you from allowing yourself permission to engage the doing.
But also, in this time framework, acknowledge yourself that you are partially listening to your communications and allowing yourself the action of relaxing, and not forcing your direction, and therefore not overwhelming yourself. In this, do not discount yourself that you are not generating the doing as quickly as, you may express that, you should. There are no “shoulds”.
ROSE: Mmm… I know. I underst… I belie… (laughs) I agree.
Is this, in a way, also belonging to the soft orientation. I tried to figure out that, I'm not so easy with this long-lasting relationship, or long-lasting work things. Or is this my final focus thing? I don't know, but I found I'm, in a way, rather fast bored. Or I don't stick with the things very long. And it is not easy, or it was not, or it is not, so easy for me to be here on this physical plane, in this time frame. So I still very often wake up in the morning and I don't feel, “Oh, this is just going to be a great day,” or whatever. But this is, “So, how shall I do this?”, “How will I do this?” And I wonder “Why?”, I wonder “Why?” [When] other people think, there are not THESE kinds of difficulties. They can stick with things long, and so on.
ELIAS: This is not necessarily associated with your orientation. This is associated with you, individually, and what you have chosen in personality type and also in association with your choice of families. [footnote 1?: emotional focus, family Borledim, aligned Sumari (Session 200203221)] And in this, it is generated, this expression of dissatisfaction, in denying yourself your natural expression and movement of energy. Your natural expression, my friend, is to be adventurous. And in the moment in which you are not allowing yourself that adventurousness, you express boredom and dissatisfaction.
ROSE: That's right. That's right.
Elias, can you talk… I don't know if you can. I haven't read anything like that, but... Can you say something about my potential in relation of making money? Because I feel so… This is really a great pain, when I see others having a successful creation of being happy with what they are doing and it's even bringing them money. I feel, in a way, like (makes exhaling sound) I'm envious and I'm sad that I can't do this. Or I still have not yet, [been able to] do this. But do you see anything on which I can start to build? I don't know if even the question makes sense to you.
ELIAS: I am understanding your question. And I may express to you, this also is associated with what we have been discussing this day. For in genuinely paying attention to YOU, and allowing yourself PERMISSION to CHOOSE and to DO what you WANT, in association with your PREFERENCES, you shall also offer yourself information concerning generating money in creating actions that are joyful to you, but also shall generate income. But the KEY, my friend, first of all is to be allowing yourself to become familiar with you, and what your preferences are.
ROSE: Well, this preferences thing is a tricky thing, because I've thought, “Okay, how can I come to know my preferences. I need to try a lot. I need to put myself in different situations, encounter myself with different settings, people, and so on, to just now get an idea – okay, this is not, this is fun, this is not fun, and so on. But if I move to another place, where I don't have access to all these things so much, this is, in a way, like, uh-huh – maybe this a point which makes me aware that I should not move to that place.” And the confusion again starts.
ELIAS: Not necessarily, for you may generate your preferences in any location.
ROSE: And I will generate and discover them in any location?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Okay, fine –
ELIAS: This is what I am expressing to you in the significance of paying attention to you and your natural movement. I have expressed to you, that you generate a natural flow of energy in adventurousness.
ROSE: Yes. (Laughs)
ELIAS: In that expression, there are myriads of directions that you may generate to satisfy yourself in your preference to be creating adventurous experiences, continuously: traveling, and offering yourself new and fascinating interactions with different individuals, or different scenarios, that you may be generating –
ROSE: That's right.
ELIAS: There are many, many, many avenues –
ROSE: Very good. (Laughs.) Very good. That's what I wanted to hear because that's what I feel, in a way, where the direction goes to.
And I need to have short questions now. Is it okay?
ELIAS: Very well.
ROSE: Very well. There's a person call Lou and he wants to ask you why he has so much related to this story “The Little Prince” by Saint-Exupéry. If Saint-Exupéry is another focus of him? The man is called Lou, again.
ELIAS: No. This is not another focus of his essence. But the association with this story is associated with other-dimensional focuses which are generated in what you, within your physical dimension, would term to be tremendous affection.
ROSE: Ah, I see. Okay. I will play this to him.
Then I would ask if my potential still leans more toward that other man, we were talking about the other session, his name is also Lou.
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Whoops. We are having thunderstorms. (Both chuckle.)
ELIAS: Yes. You are correct. And I may express to you, you are already aware of this.
ROSE: I know. Would you recommend me to move over, to this place and person?
ELIAS: I shall express to you, this is YOUR choice. And I shall express in reiteration: listen to yourself and offer yourself permission to CHOOSE what you genuinely want. And you KNOW what you genuinely want. I shall not express a direction for you.
ROSE: Okay.
ELIAS: This is your choice. Therefore, listen to yourself and allow yourself the freedom to enact what you want.
ROSE: Okay. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are welcome.
ROSE: Then I would ask, as a gift for a friend of mine, her essence name – her name is (inaudible).
ELIAS: Essence name, Jylli, J-Y-L-L-I.
ROSE: And her family?
ELIAS: Essence family, Sumari. Alignment, Ilda.
ROSE: Ilda. Her orientation?
ELIAS: Common.
ROSE: Common. Is she a final focus?
ELIAS: And you may inquire this of her and inquire of her impression. For, I shall express to you, this designation of beginning, final, or continuing focuses is one of your most obvious and clearest impressions. And in this, each individual incorporates an objective knowing of position and their impressions are almost always accurate.
ROSE: Okay.
Then I would ask about (inaudible). Does he belong to the Milumet family?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Yeah. And what is his alignment?
ELIAS: And your impression?
ROSE: Oh, my impression… Because he very playful he could be a Sumari. And also he's… I don't know. No, I don't know. (Elias starts to laugh.) Sumari, I would say Sumari, because of his playfulness.
ELIAS: (Laughs.) Yes. You are correct.
ROSE: (Laughs.) That's my… (laughing) And is he soft?
ELIAS: No.
ROSE: No? He's what?
ELIAS: Common.
ROSE: Common. Oh, yeah, in a way, yes, that makes sense.
Okay, Elias. One question relating to the last question. You said… there is this communication, and then there is this translation into thought. And I sometimes don't offer myself correct translations, you said. Can you remember?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: And what I want to know, as last question – if I feel, somehow, not VERY clear, is this a signal that I do not offer myself a correct translation?
ELIAS: Yes. And also, you may recognize that your translation of thought may be partially accurate, but not entirely accurate, if you are offering yourself generalities.
ROSE: A-ha.
ELIAS: This is an indication that you are not entirely paying attention to the communication. And therefore, the translation is created in general terms.
ROSE: I see. I have a little time left. May I continue to ask short questions?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Okay. Lou wanted to know, and me too – am I already in transition?
ELIAS: Yes.
ROSE: Since when?
ELIAS: Two years.
ROSE: Two years. Uh-huh. Okay. Hmm… two years.
Okay, a little question. It may be weird to you, but I don't think so. We have a lot of snails in the garden, and they eat up all the plants I wanted to grow and blossom. And I was very reluctant to use poisons to diminish them. So they became overwhelming and they ate the flowers. What if I use the poisons to diminish the snails? Is this okay, or is this creating difficult?
ELIAS: It is your choice.
ROSE: My choice. Okay.
ELIAS: They are your creations. If you choose to eliminate them, this is your choice. (Laughs.)
ROSE: You are laughing. (Laughs.) I was very reluctant.
ELIAS: This is –
ROSE: I want flowers instead of snails.
ELIAS: This expression is directly associated with your beliefs.
ROSE: That's right. That's right.
ELIAS: In actuality, it matters not.
ROSE: (Laughs) Ahh. Yeah, that makes sense.
Okay, Elias, thank you very much.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome, my friend. I shall be anticipating our next meeting. I shall also be offering a supportive and encouraging energy to you.
ROSE: Thank you very much. I tried to connect to you yesterday when I was feeling so bad. I tried, “Elias, come on. Ring my telephone once!”, and you DIDN'T. Why not? (Both laugh.)
ELIAS: I may be offering more helpfulness in association with an energy exchange which, if you are allowing yourself an openness to my energy, I shall offer you a playful expression.
ROSE: Mm-hmm. I will make myself more familiar with this. And I will take notice and let you know the next time. And you will confirm or say, “No, no! You have to exercise a little bit more.” (Both laugh) Okay?
ELIAS: Very well.
ROSE: Very well. Thank you very much, Elias!
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
ROSE: Until next time I –
ELIAS: To you, in tremendous affection, my friend –
ROSE: Thank you.
ELIAS: – Au revoir.
(Elias departs after 1 hour)
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