Sunday, September 18, 2005 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Anonymous (Zuzzanna)
(Elias’ arrival time is 22 seconds.)
ELIAS: Good afternoon!
ANON: Good afternoon, Elias. How are you?
ELIAS: As always, and yourself?
ANON: I’m fine, thank you. I’m so thrilled to talk to you! (Elias laughs) I hope I understand your accent!
ELIAS: Ha ha ha! And what shall we discuss?
ANON: Well, here’s what it is. First off, I’m (omitted by request), at least I think so. I don’t know what my essence name is. I was hoping you could say that.
ELIAS: Very well. Essence name, Zuzzanna, Z-U-Z-Z-A-N-N-A (zoo ZAHN nuh).
ANON: Nice! I don’t know what the “stats” are, but I would like you too give me those as well.
ELIAS: And what is your impression?
ANON: I don’t know, because I haven’t gone through all the transcripts, obviously. I’ve gone through some of them, so I feel like I know you already. I haven’t had the time to see what the family alignment is and all that. I have no idea what those things are, but I will read it in the transcript. I have no problems with that. But if you tell me what they are, then I’ll know what they are when I read them!
ELIAS: (Laughs) Essence family, Sumari; alignment, Vold.
ANON: That’s what I need to know, essence family and alignment. Orientation?
ELIAS: Orientation, common.
ANON: Thanks. Now I’ll tell you what it is that I would like to discuss. Yes?
ELIAS: Very well.
ANON: First of all, I would like to say that I have been studying manifesting and the power of the higher self for one and a half years now, and at times I’ve gotten it so perfectly; but then without a proper reason, as soon as I had manifested something — usually at light speed when I manage to connect to my real self — I start to fear that I would lose it, or that I can just go this far, or that maybe that I’m not that good a manifester, and so on and so forth. I lose my faith in myself, my trust, and I get into a depression that gets worse every single time this happens.
The main thing, really, is my relationship with my beloved, M. I love him so much, and he says he loves me. But he’s easily scared because he’s been hurt badly before, and we’ve been in this on and off thing for three years now. But after studying your transcripts about relationships, I applied the principles and now things seem to have kick-started right away in the past three weeks. We’ve gone really, really far, he and I, and I’m really happy. But then again, I want to know how to keep trusting myself so that I don’t lose him again, how to actually get in touch with myself and keep in touch with myself without losing it. Also, I want to why I do that, anyway.
ELIAS: The reason that you move into the action of discounting yourself and not trusting yourself or doubting is that you distract yourself from you. Also, this is influenced by projecting your attention pastly or futurely.
Now; in this, all of you within your physical reality incorporate a perception that includes memory and includes some anticipation or projection of the future. This is the manner in which you normally function. What occurs with most individuals that generates conflict and confusion, fear, frustration, doubt, discounting is that the individual projects their attention pastly or futurely to the exclusion of the now. This is tremendously important and significant to continuously incorporate attention in the now, to be present with yourself.
Being present with yourself does not distract you from interacting with other individuals and paying attention to other individuals, but it also simultaneously holds your attention upon you in the now. This is the most significant point in continuously reinforcing your trust and allowing you to intentionally manipulate your energy in a manner to create what you want.
In association with relationships, it is important that you continually focus your attention upon you and what you want to express, not what you want FROM another individual. That merely sets into motion a tremendous potential for disappointment. For when your attention moves in the direction of what you want FROM another individual, you are generating expectations, and expectations automatically project an energy of threat. Therefore, the other individual automatically senses and receives that energy as threatening. Their response may be expressed in many different manners, but most likely it shall be a response that you would perceive to be negative or opposing.
In this, generally speaking, most individuals respond to threat in energy with defense, which is also an energy of opposition. It is also significant to be aware of yourself and whether YOU are projecting an energy of defensiveness. As I have stated, defense is opposing. Therefore, if you are expressing a defensive energy and recognize that, you may also know that you are projecting an opposing energy, which allows you the opportunity to alter that energy and generate one of cooperation rather than opposition. Even if you are in disagreement with another individual, agreement is not a requirement for cooperation.
In this, I may express to you, there are different exercises that you may incorporate that may be helpful in reminding you to be present with yourself and to hold your attention in the now. In that, practicing these exercises shall allow you to become more familiar with holding your attention in the now and shall also encourage you to be more appreciating of yourself. In appreciation of yourself, you project a type of energy that becomes considerably attractive to other individuals, and their responsiveness to that type of energy is to want to draw themselves to you, for individuals gravitate towards whatever they perceive to be attractive.
In this, I may suggest to you that you incorporate the action several times within each day of acknowledging some accomplishment that you have expressed in that day. It matters not whether you assess the accomplishment to be large or small. The point is that you notice and that you acknowledge yourself and that you actually recognize your own accomplishments, regardless of what they are. That is one exercise that shall be helpful to you and encouraging to you to be paying attention to what you are doing in your day. I may also express to you, it may be significant to you to be, at least twice within each day, generating some type of appreciation of yourself.
ANON: Such as?
ELIAS: It matters not. It may be that you appreciate the color of your eyes. You appreciate the size of your feet; you appreciate a particular energy that you expressed within the day; you appreciate some action that you engaged. It matters not what it is. What is the point is that you actually generate a genuine appreciation of some element of yourself within the day. This is important. You already generate appreciation for the other individual. Now it is important that you appreciate yourself in equal measure. That shall reinforce your value of yourself, and it shall reinforce your confidence in yourself, which shall also be helpful in holding your attention in the now, which is significant.
In moments that you recognize or notice that your attention is being projected and you are focusing your attention upon the other individual to the exclusion of yourself, in those moments do not discount yourself. Merely acknowledge that you are recognizing that this is what you are doing, and momentarily disappear the other individual. This allows you to refocus your attention upon you. It also allows you a moment to stop and create an action of intentional hesitation or pause, and in that moment of pause, you can evaluate what YOU are actually expressing, what you are actually feeling and what you want.
Subsequently, refocus yourself in your interaction with the other individual and allow yourself to generate some expression of appreciation of yourself and the other individual. Once again, it matters not what it is, for the action of merely generating that appreciation alters the energy that is being exchanged between yourself and the other individual. This type of action also is quite reinforcing to the other individual, for it generates an environment of cooperation and it generates an environment that is safe, for there is no threat and there is no expectation.
Be wary of the expectations that you place upon yourself also, for that is significant. For in generating expectations of yourself, that is another pitfall, another snare that can influence you, in your terms, to lose your footing in your trust of yourself. For in generating expectations of yourself in association with the other individual, that moves you much more easily into compromise and comparison.
Compromise and comparison are not cooperation, and they are both expressions of opposition, and they generally generate conflict or discomfort. Therefore, it is important to be aware of not generating expectations of yourself either, in which you should do or should not do in association with the other individual. Remember to focus your attention upon you and upon what you want, not what you should or should not engage.
ANON: Yes. You know something? All those things that you just said, I have experienced them in the past two weeks. All of them.
ELIAS: Very well. I am greatly acknowledging of you.
ANON: When you were talking, I was thinking oh, this is what I did last Thursday; this is what I did on Friday; this is what I did last week. It’s exactly what I’ve done, and I just want to keep doing that! I even, now, when you say put expectation on myself, like this morning, I haven’t heard from M, and I was there with my phone wondering should I send him a message, should I not send him a message, should I say something, should I not say something. Maybe he doesn’t want me to send me a message. Maybe if he wanted to hear from me, he’d be sending me a message. So I realize that’s probably what you mean, putting expectation on myself.
ELIAS: Yes, for as you are aware in evaluating that scenario, what did you create? Confusion and frustration and doubt. Whereas, if you are merely concerning yourself with what you want and allowing yourself the freedom to express yourself without expectation of yourself or of the other individual, you experience more clarity and you do not generate convoluting yourself.
ANON: Tell me something, Elias, have M and I engaged interaction in other focuses?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: All of them?
ELIAS: Not all, but yes, you have engaged in relationships in many focuses together.
ANON: And what is his essence name? (17-second pause)
ELIAS: Essence name, Deobia, D-E-O-B-I-A (dee OH bee uh).
ANON: What is the first family? (Pause)
ELIAS: Essence family, Sumafi; alignment, Gramada.
ANON: Orientation?
ELIAS: Common.
ANON: Thank you for that. Elias, is there a sort of manifesting routine that one could follow? What I do is this: I wake up in the morning and I say to myself, “This is what I choose to create and this is what I give myself permission to create. I choose to create a mutually loving, adoring, committed, communicative, beautiful relationship between M and me.” Then I just think about what I want, and without focusing on whether M has called me or hasn’t called me that day or we’re going to see each other or we’re not going to see each other, I just keep going with the happiness that comes from the idea of him and me being together happily ever after. Sure enough, things go well for us that day and for days after if I manage to keep myself like this. So, am I doing the right thing?
ELIAS: I may express to you, in this present time framework, this is a beneficial action for you to be engaging, for it allows you another avenue of generating an energy of appreciation, and that is beneficial. But remember to keep your attention in the day, in the now, and not to be projecting in anticipation of the “ever after,” for that generates the potential, once again, for disappointment, for you are moving your attention away from the appreciation of now.
ANON: I’m manifesting somewhere ever after rather than in the now.
ELIAS: Correct, and that distracts from the appreciation of the now. Therefore, remember that element.
ANON: Would a better expression be that I choose to create, just for the day, a mutually loving, beautiful, committed relationship with M, without saying forever after or something like that?
ELIAS: Yes, and today.
ANON: And then it’s just going to happen.
ELIAS: For that is what you are generating, and that is the energy that you are projecting, and that is the perception that you expressing, which perception creates the reality.
ANON: Yes, and I can only manifest in the now; I cannot manifest in the future.
ELIAS: Correct. The now IS creating the future. It is also significant in this situation for yourself, and also in your interaction with this individual, to allow yourself an acknowledgment of past experiences, not a discounting of them but also not to dwell upon past experiences, for that once again opens the door for doubt of self and discounting of self.
Acknowledge experiences that may have been generated in the past, and therefore, you shall not be generating an energy of opposing within yourself or expressing to yourself that you did not accomplish well enough or you should have created this or that better. But in that acknowledgment of whatever you have generated pastly, you allow yourself to flow more easily and not create an energy of opposition. That shall also serve as an example with the other individual to be encouraging of him not to be generating as much fear now or as much guardedness now or as much protection now. If you are generating an energy of appreciation and acknowledgment, that creates a supportive energy, which the other individual receives and that allows them also to feel acknowledged.
In this, in your interaction, you can be most supportive by generating an acceptance of the other individual’s expressions and experiences and choices and concerns, and in that acceptance, not be attempting to override or fix or instruct the other individual in relation to their experiences. This is an action that is frequently engaged.
Individuals engage conversation with myself and are beginning to understand themselves more clearly, become more familiar with themselves, begin to manipulate energy more efficiently in creating what they want and understand these concepts, generating them into reality, and subsequently there is many times an automatic push within them to project that to another individual, to instruct the other individual in different information that they have incorporated but the other individual perhaps has not. That is not supportive, and that is not accepting. Therefore, it is important to recognize YOUR choices, YOUR direction, hold your attention upon that and be the example, not the instructor.
ANON: Yes, and you know something, Elias, I’m doing that with M in these past few weeks since I’ve been reading your transcripts. (Both laugh) Really! I’m doing that. I know what you mean, because M comes to me, and he believes he’s got lots of flaws, and sometimes he even tries to push my buttons. Sometimes he just likes to make me angry or jealous, and I just keep myself in peace and give him a hug and he stops it. Don’t pay attention to that stuff that he does, and he will stop it.
ELIAS: Correct.
ANON: It’s exactly what happens. I just don’t pay attention. He’s talking on the phone to his cousin who is a guy, and he makes me believe he is talking to a woman, for example, and I just don’t pay attention to that. I just keep smiling and just keep myself up. The thing is I’m feeling good inside myself because I accept him just as he is. I really, really love him, and I love him just as he is with all his flaws. I accept them, and I think at a certain level he’s understood that.
ELIAS: Let me express to you an acknowledgment, my friend, for in this, in changing your energy, you also are generating a powerful expression. You are not responding and offering to him the pay-off that he is seeking. Therefore, as you continue to generate that type of direction, it becomes futile and useless for him to continue in certain directions with certain expressions, for he shall not receive the pay-off he is seeking. Therefore, there is no point, and he shall also move in other directions.
But the most significant element in this that is to be greatly acknowledged is your genuineness. This is not an action that you can successfully express if you are not actually genuine in it. You cannot merely think to yourself “I shall ignore this behavior or I shall not pay attention to this action.” That shall not alter your energy, and that shall not create a successful scenario.
What creates the successful scenario is precisely what you are engaging, an actual genuineness in your expression, that it is not a matter of necessity of ignoring, for you are expressing a genuineness in you of that acceptance and not allowing yourself to be triggered, by paying attention to you and recognizing that you are not actually threatened. Therefore, there is no reason to be responsive. I am tremendously acknowledging of you, my friend, in that action.
ANON: So what you’re saying is I’m doing the right thing?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: Do you know, the thing is, Elias, I don’t know what other people think. Some people will come to me and will say you don’t really love him, you just love the idea of him. You don’t love him, you just love the idea of what your life with him could be like. It’s not true. I love him as he is, with all his flaws. I love him when he calls his friend, a guy friend, and makes me believe he’s speaking to a woman. I find that so cute that he tries to do that! I just give him a hug, and it just keeps on... And honestly, Elias, I really don’t feel jealous. Even when he speaks to another woman, I don’t feel jealous, because I know he’s just trying to do that to make me jealous and to get a reaction out of me because he thinks that all he deserves is fighting with a woman, and he doesn’t and I’m trying to make him see that. He doesn’t need to fight with me; I love him.
ELIAS: I am understanding, and also perhaps you may understand that the individual generates these types of actions in association with his beliefs that if you are expressing in a certain manner, that is a proof to him that you are paying attention to him and that you do incorporate an affection with him. But regardless of those beliefs, that is one influence of a belief. Another influence is to be viewing that another individual can express a genuine love and affection without conflict and in a supportive non-demanding manner. And in you presenting the example and not being triggered by his behavior, that presents a very different picture, which he can thusly evaluate and which shall generate a contribution to information that he is offering himself without actual words.
ANON: So, what you are saying is that I am definitely moving in the right direction to be creating the relationship that I want with him?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: I’m glad to hear that! (Inaudible) but we won’t say that because we’re manifesting in the now! (Both laugh)
Tell me something, Elias, so this whole creation thing. Can we really create any single thing that we want, that we really put our attention on, no matter how shamelessly ambitious it may sound?
ELIAS: Yes, and no matter how impossible it may seem.
ANON: Yes, and whether it is about us, about one thing, a big sum of money or whether it’s wanting a certain relationship with a particular individual?
ELIAS: Yes, it matters not, for you are creating ALL of your reality.
ANON: So, if I keep saying to myself that I’m choosing to create and I’m allowing myself to create the relationship that I want with M, this is exactly what I’m creating, isn’t it?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: That’s all I need to hear. Honestly, I really, really, needed to hear that, because sometimes, when I blocked my faith before, I’ve actually blown it, and M went away for months. I totally understand what you mean when you say don’t focus in the past, because in the past I suffered the love for M and I’ve created very, very bad situations between him and me. But now since I’ve read your transcripts and your (inaudible) in the past three weeks, I’ve managed to manifest things that never happened before, so I’m (inaudible) this time. (Both laugh) I’m really, really happy and...
ELIAS: Which offers you tremendous freedom, does it not?
ANON: It’s fantastic, empowering! The other thing, Elias, is I know now that we create 100 percent of our reality. But I also know that we can create, because we create 100 percent of our reality, we can create a good reality or a bad reality and it depends on our choices. But I’m telling you, I only choose the way of love. I only want to create things in the best and highest interest of other people. I want to create a relationship with M that will work out fine the way I want it to. But I want it because I love him and not because I want to use it to my advantage.
ELIAS: I am understanding.
ANON: In everything that I try to create, I always make sure that I include in my manifesting meditations something like “all this comes to me in the best and highest interest of all concerned,” because I don’t want anybody getting hurt in the process of getting what I want.
ELIAS: But let me express to you, my friend, the manner in which another individual would be hurt in association with you or your energy is if you were generating an intrusive expression of energy, an intrusive action. If your movement and intention is in the direction of appreciation, you cannot be expressing intrusiveness and appreciation simultaneously, for they are polarizations. In that, one neutralizes the other. Therefore, if you are generating any aspect of either of those expressions in the same time framework, one shall be stronger and shall neutralize the other. They cannot co-exist together in the same moment. In this, you may actually assure yourself that you are not generating a hurtfulness or an intrusiveness to another individual if your direction is that of being appreciating and acknowledging that of actual love.
ANON: So, wanting to generate this relationship with M is legitimate, isn’t it? I’m not hurting anybody in the process?
ELIAS: Correct.
ANON: I’m glad to hear that. Elias, have you and I met in other focuses?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: Can you tell me something about it?
ELIAS: And shall you not investigate? That is the element of fun, generating a treasure hunt and creating the fun of discovery.
ANON: Sometimes can I call you up in my dreams and you can come?
ELIAS: Yes, you may, and I shall comply, and I may express to you, we shall engage a game. I shall hide and you shall seek. (Both laugh)
ANON: I know that you can do that, yes. Tell me something, Elias, all the nice things that have happened in the past three weeks since I’ve read your transcripts, I’ve created them, haven’t I?
ELIAS: Yes.
ANON: Is this because I am on the right path to manifesting?
ELIAS: It is not a matter of the right path, although it may be termed as the right path for you, for what you are doing is listening to yourself, paying attention to your preferences, not allowing yourself to be distracted and allowing yourself to risk experimenting to offer yourself evidence that you really can accomplish. It is merely a matter of acknowledging what you want and paying attention to your preferences and not generating expectations, allowing your energy to flow freely and allowing for all potentials to be expressed in association with what you want — not forcing, not pushing, but generating an energy of ease and allowing.
ANON: Does it really take a few hours of negative thoughts to mess up the whole thing that you want to manifest?
ELIAS: No.
Now; this is an interesting question, for this is an idea that I may express to you troubles not merely yourself but many individuals. For you generate this idea that once you create a slip, so to speak, and you move into an old familiar expression or an automatic response, the automatic association is that you are doomed. You have sabotaged yourself, and there is no recourse. That is not true, for you create in the moment, my friend. Therefore, whatever choice you generate in one moment can be changed in another moment. You always incorporate choice, and regardless of what you express, regardless of what you do, regardless of whether you generate an action that subsequently you view as bad or detrimental, it is not set in stone, and you can always alter your expression in the next moment and change your choices.
ANON: I had a couple of those moments yesterday, and I just went back to some of your transcripts and I regain my trust. That’s exactly how I do it. M went to a wedding yesterday, and what I thought was what if he meets somebody at the wedding. People always meet somebody at a wedding. Then, “Shut up, (name omitted)!” So, I think I’ll follow your transcripts, I read them through again, and then I’m fine again. Finally, this morning, I got a nice contact from him and all that, and I’m feeling very pleased today. (Both laugh) I just go back the transcripts and I regain my trust. Sometimes it’s just regaining the trust in myself, and you’ve give me some precious information there.
ELIAS: Know also, my friend, each time you engage this action, you are also engaging my energy. I am present with you each time you engage this action, and I am offering supportive energy to you. I am acknowledging of you, of your willingness to be responsive.
ANON: Actually I think yesterday when I was reading the transcript, I called you up. (Elias laughs) I’m sure I did something like that. That one thing that you’re talking about right now, that you’ll give me some support. Thank you so much, Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
ANON: I think our time is up. I want to say goodbye for now.
ELIAS: Very well, my friend, I shall be anticipating our next meeting, and I shall be offering you encouraging energy to be continuing in the direction that you have chosen, for you are accomplishing quite well. Do not forget your exercises!
ANON: I won’t.
ELIAS: I express to you great affection and supportiveness.
ANON: Me too, Elias.
ELIAS: In dear friendship, au revoir.
ANON: Au revoir.
Elias departs after 52 minutes.
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