Grief and the Feeling of Loss
“Grief and the Feeling of Loss”
Sunday, October 17, 2004 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Carleen (Neliswa)
(Elias’ arrival time is 13 seconds.)
ELIAS: Good morning!
CARLEEN: Hi, Elias! The incident on the elevator at work, was that you?
ELIAS: My energy, your translation.
CARLEEN: I thought so. The elevator door started to close, and then it stopped and I saw a flash of blue light. So I just wanted some validation that it was you.
CARLEEN: I’d like to talk about Sizwey. I always felt that he was more than just my son. He seemed to be my friend as well. Have we or do we, which includes Mongezi, experienced other focuses and/or exchanging relationships together with him?
CARLEEN: Can you tell me about some of them?
ELIAS: You incorporate many relationships with this individual in many different capacities of intimacy in different roles: in romantic relationships, in relationships of siblings, of parent and child, of friendships, of mentor and confidante. You have engaged many relationships with this individual.
CARLEEN: Will we share more focuses, or was this his last focus?
ELIAS: Are you referring to do you incorporate future focuses together? Yes.
CARLEEN: So this was not Sizwey’s last focus, then?
CARLEEN: I know in reading your transcripts you don’t intrude on an essence in transition, but can you give me any more details on why he didn’t want to participate in the Shift, like why he believed he lacked the choice and what the experience meant to him, as well as what part we played in it?
ELIAS: And first of all, express to me your assessments and your impressions.
CARLEEN: As to the Shift, I’m not quite sure why he did not want to participate in the Shift. Part of me thinks it may have been an agreement to experience his disengagement for both Mongezi, Sizwey and myself. And perhaps I need to understand more about my beliefs about death and disengagement and transition, and it might be part of my intent?
CARLEEN: Thinking back, it seemed like his intent was on finding a partner to share life with, and he was frustrated by their rejection. Part of me thought it might be his Milumet tendency, his rejection of himself.
CARLEEN: Okay, so I’ve touched on some of the things. A friend of mine told me that he sort of had one foot in the physical and the other foot on the other side, if you will.
ELIAS: That is expressed by many individuals. They generate that type of interpretation of an individual’s energy if it appears to not entirely be present within their physical manifestation, so to speak. That may be a translation, many times, of an individual’s energy if the individual is not present within themselves and is projecting attention and energy consistently in association with outside of themselves, seeking or searching for some outside source, so to speak, to complete them — which is influenced by their beliefs. But that can generate a type of energy with the individual that appears to another individual to not be quite present fully within this reality.
It is not that they are not fully participating or that they are not present in the reality, but their attention and their energy is projected to such an extent outside of themself that it creates the illusion that they are partially in this reality and partially in some other reality, and which I have stated, that is a translation that another individual would generate of this type of energy.
This individual projected attention and energy quite strongly outside of self, and as an influence of the expressed beliefs was seeking some element of what he would view to be a completion, as some type of missing expression or missing part of himself — which was not actually missing, it was merely not recognized.
CARLEEN: Could this have been part of him choosing to transition?
ELIAS: Yes. For in association with his beliefs, the assessment was that whatever that missing element or piece was was not to be found within this physical reality — which I am understanding, although that is not true. It is the seeking of the awareness, the knowledge of self and all of the wonders of that which seem to be elusive to that individual within physical focus, and therefore, it was generated in a manner of not incorporating value fulfillment any longer. Therefore, as I have expressed previously, if you are not expressing value fulfillment, you shall not continue within this physical reality.
CARLEEN: In my own search of knowing who I am, there seemed to be an intensity that I shared with him. Was I picking up his energy regarding what you were just talking about?
CARLEEN: Now, being of the Milumet, did that influence his decisions as well? I’m a little confused, because they tend to more introverted.
ELIAS: At times, (but) not necessarily. But it is dependent upon the individual and their intent, their personality. Also, there is a strong influence of beliefs that the individual expresses. But yes, there is some influence of the qualities of the family.
CARLEEN: Could you tell me what his intent was while he was here?
ELIAS: To merge the physical and the spiritual as one, to generate one whole expression — which is also a factor in the value fulfillment and the lack of. Therefore, the disengagement — being aware of the shifting but not objectively entirely recognizing choices, and generating a frustration in the perceived inability to generate this intent and the value fulfillment of it in merging these two expressions of physical reality. That is associated with the completion of self, which was perceived to be somewhat impossible. Therefore, the value fulfillment was no longer expressed.
CARLEEN: Is he still in transition?
CARLEEN: Last year I mentioned that there had been an awareness that he’s projecting. Has that changed since I last talked with you?
ELIAS: No, other than increasing.
CARLEEN: He has a new age clock that stopped at 11:30. I felt there was some significance to this. Initially I thought he was done with transition, and then I thought he disengaged at that hour from the physical.
ELIAS: Entirely? Yes.
CARLEEN: Thank you, Elias. That’s been helpful.
ELIAS: You are welcome.
CARLEEN: A couple more things. How does he feel about his existence now? Can you answer that? (Pause)
ELIAS: I may translate, for it is not actually a feeling. But there is a much greater awareness and a comfort in acceptance, and a greater understanding of what has been generated and what is being generated now — much more of an expression of freedom in recognizing the ability to manipulate energy and to be more freely expressive and exploring.
CARLEEN: His evolvement, if you will, and ours, is there a connection?
ELIAS: Yes. Were there not to be, you would not have engaged interaction and relationship with each other.
CARLEEN: That was the feeling I was getting as you were talking, because there seems to be some shift in my feelings about how I view his transition of late. For Mongezi, he seems to be a little more depressed, if you will, particularly this time of year because it’s Sizwey’s birthday. Can you give me any insight on what’s happening with Mongezi regarding that?
ELIAS: It is an expression of loss, which is quite strong and is not unusual. In this, as an individual experiences severe separation and does not necessarily recognize that the separation is much less than it appears, there is an expression of loss and grief that may be experienced quite strongly. This is influenced by the denial of the individual. In this perception of loss and separation, what occurs is the individual generates a denial of themselves, and that creates grief. That is the one expression within essence that generates genuine sorrow, for it is contrary to your natural expression of energy as essence.
Denial of self and expression is not a natural movement of essence, and it does generate sorrow in many different forms. But in association with death, it may be experienced quite strongly, for what occurs is a dramatic alteration of perception in association with the belief of separation, that once that separation is generated and becomes solid as an absolute and becomes one of your truths, there is generated a tremendous denial of the individual’s own freedom, for the individual denies their choice to be expressive of themselves. They perceive that they cannot interact any longer, they cannot love any longer, they cannot share any longer — therefore, they cannot express themselves. In that, they perceive that all that they can express is their grief, which is the outward expression of that denial of self. That has become one of his truths, but it is not true.
You all incorporate your individual truths, which are those beliefs that you have solidified into absolutes, but they are not actually true. They are real, for they influence you within your perceptions to create a real reality, but regardless of how real they may be, they are not true.
In this, if the individual allows himself to express what he is denying, that shall alleviate the grief, for the grief is the outward expression of that denial. In that, if the individual recognizes that all that stands before or between these two essences is a strength of the belief of separation and that in actuality, energy is not bound or contained, therefore although there may be a veil of separation — for separation is also a belief and it is not being eliminated, it is being thinned — and although the one individual figuratively has moved to a new country, he does not discontinue existence and is not inaccessible.
Regardless of whether individuals share physical proximity or not, that is not to say that individuals cannot continue to allow themselves the freedom of their expression and their energy in projection of affection of love, of appreciation, of sharing. Companionship does not necessarily end if there is an alteration of physical proximity. Location is not necessarily a requirement for interaction, and it is definitely not a requirement for appreciation or affection.
CARLEEN: Is understanding disengagement and transition part of my intent in this lifetime?
CARLEEN: As well as figuring out how I create my reality?
CARLEEN: I don’t particularly want to wait until I disengage to communicate and interact with his energy, but you’ve answered that question.
ELIAS: And it is not necessary, for you do incorporate the ability to generate that now.
CARLEEN: Exactly. I kind of feel that my beliefs may not allow that action, but you’ve just said that we can do it.
ELIAS: Yes. And let me also express to you, remember, you are not eliminating beliefs, but you are widening your awareness, and you are moving into an acceptance of beliefs.
Now; in that acceptance, you recognize that you incorporate certain beliefs and that they are expressed, but every belief incorporates many influences, and therein lies your freedom. For regardless of what beliefs you incorporate as expressed beliefs, they do not incorporate merely one influence. Therefore, they do not incorporate merely one choice.
In this, as you become more familiar with your beliefs, with your truths, and recognize that they do incorporate many different influences, you choose which influences you more prefer, knowing that the belief continues. It continues to be expressed, and it matters not that you are expressing the belief. It is not your enemy. It is a belief, it is real, and it influences your perception to create a real reality — but it is precisely generating that, an influence. Whatever influence any belief is generating or that you are generating in association with the belief, you may recognize that and explore, for you may know that that is merely one influence, and there are many, many influences of every belief.
In that, as you begin to genuinely generate an awareness of your beliefs and of their influences, you also begin to recognize other influences. As you generate that action, you begin to allow yourself the freedom to move in other directions. The belief continues, but it may not necessarily be limiting. You may incorporate a belief of separation, but you may express that in many different manners.
As an example, a simple example, an individual may incorporate a strongly expressed belief of separation especially in association with death. In that belief of separation, the influence that they may be expressing may be that once an individual incorporates the choice of death, you may no longer interact with that individual ever again within your physical reality. You may continue to express that influence, but you may also choose another influence of that belief in which perhaps within dream state that veil of separation is somewhat more relaxed, and therefore allow the influence of that within dream state and allow your expression of freedom to generate an openness to interact with an individual that has chosen death.
That is a different influence of the same belief and offers you a different choice in which it is not so very black and white and not so very absolute, and offers you an avenue in which you can express yourself and your freedom to be interactive and sharing. Once allowing yourself to engage that action, and perhaps engage the action several times in which you begin to doubt less that you are actually generating that and not imagining it and in which you allow yourself more of a trust of yourself that what you generate within dream state is as real as waking state, you may actually choose a different influence within waking state.
Perhaps you may choose the influence that although you may not necessarily allow yourself to see the other individual for they are no longer within your physical proximity, you may allow yourself to hear the individual or incorporate other outer senses in association with the other individual, to physically feel, to smell, to hear, to even taste. Incorporating the outer senses generates more of a trusted reality, generally speaking. If you incorporate one of your outer senses, you trust that more, and you do not question it as imagination as strongly.
These are different influences of the same belief of separation, but ones in which you may generate different avenues to create different choices and allow yourself to express your freedom. For this is what generates the sorrow — not that you may not receive input from the other individual, but that you perceive that you cannot express any longer, you cannot share any longer, and that generates grief. But if you allow yourself different choices in association with different influences of the same belief, you have not eliminated the belief, you have expressed an acceptance that you know that you incorporate this belief but that it no longer is so limiting to you, and that you recognize that you may generate movement in association with the belief.
CARLEEN: Why is it we don’t trust ourselves? I want to manifest things, and I know I do create them in my life, desires, whatever, and I sense it has to do with my self worth, trust and acceptance of myself.
ELIAS: Correct, which also is influenced by beliefs.
Now; allow yourself momentarily to evaluate experiences within this one focus.
Now; in association with beliefs and experiences in this one focus, you may recognize that your experiences throughout your focus, in what you term to be years and years of your focus, influence your perception. In a manner of speaking, the manner in which you gauge yourself is through an accumulation of experiences, almost as sequentially. In a manner of speaking, within physical focus a type of this action also occurs throughout focuses, for you are all of your focuses, for all of essence is embodied in you. Therefore, the beliefs and the influences of beliefs of all of your focuses also generate a type of accumulation; in actuality, it is more of a reinforcement of certain beliefs.
In this, many of those beliefs are religious beliefs, and many religious beliefs discount the individual. In this, as I have stated many times previously, this is the point of this shift in consciousness, and this is also the reason that I and others offer information to all of you, for you have requested that to lessen trauma in association with shifting. For there are strongly incorporated beliefs that are expressed so strongly they have been generated into absolutes. Many of those are religious beliefs, and many of those religious beliefs influence the individual to be devaluing of self and discounting of self.
Even in interaction with myself, there is an interplay of those beliefs with the individuals that I interact with, for I am not physical. Therefore, there is an automatic response that I am “more than.” For you are physical in manifestation, and you view yourself to be contained as one body, one individual; therefore, you do not genuinely recognize yourself yet as essence. Therefore, there is an automatic response that you are less than for you are a part of, and I am more than for I am all of, which is not true. We are the same. We merely occupy different areas of consciousness.
You have chosen in this attention to occupy a physical manifestation within a physical reality, but you also occupy all other areas of consciousness and all other dimensions, as do I. That which speaks to you is one attention, but there are countless attentions of myself, as there are of you. We are no different. But what is different is that you incorporate beliefs, and I do not.
CARLEEN: Does this go for Sizwey as well?
Now; that is not bad. That has been a choice, for to generate manifestation within a physical reality you are choosing to explore the wonderment of the design of that reality. This particular reality incorporates beliefs in its design, and in that, in shifting, you are exploring how you may manipulate those beliefs and incorporate them in your freedom rather than in limitation, and how you may incorporate them to be appreciated in your exploration rather than restricting yourself, which is a tremendous undertaking and does incorporate the potential to generate trauma. For I may express to you, those beliefs that have been generated into truths have been generated into absolutes, and therefore, they are unquestioned. Therefore, they are more challenging to recognize, for you express them as being unquestionable. They merely ARE.
Just as I have expressed previously in association with what individuals may consider temporarily to be somewhat ridiculous, in one time framework the mass belief was that your physical reality and your planet was a plane and flat, and so it was. And in this time framework, the mass perception is that it is round, and so it is. For it is created through your perception, and if you perceive it to be round, so it shall be. If you perceive it to be triangular, so it shall be, for that is your power to create. You believe that your planet generates certain movement in a particular manner, and so it does. It is unquestioned. Therefore, it is an absolute.
You believe in absolute, as I have expressed previously, that your rain falls down. Therefore, it becomes your truth. It is an absolute, it is unquestioned, (but) it is not true. It may be real in certain situations and if you create it in that manner, but it is not true, for rain does not always fall down and rain does not always fall from clouds. Your sun does not always rise and set — it is a matter of position. Therefore, it is also a matter of perception.
Those elements within your world that you view to be absolutes, those truths, they are your guidelines for how you create your individual reality, but they are not true — even death. You may incorporate a truth, an absolute belief, that death is the ultimate separation and that there is no manner of penetration of that. You may create that quite real, but it is not true.
CARLEEN: So is that particular belief lifting, if you will?
ELIAS: It is not necessarily lifting, but you are widening your awareness to allow yourself to recognize other influences of it and other choices. Therefore, what you are doing is generating less absolute, less black and white.
CARLEEN: Can you tell me about some of my focuses that are influencing my present now?
ELIAS: In what capacity? First of all, let me express to you, other focuses do not influence you to create anything within your reality. As I express to any of you that there is influences of other focuses in play in association with your experiences, what I am expressing to you is that you draw energy from other focuses that generate similar experiences or that generate experiences that you are exploring or that you are expressing curiosity of. Whatever you are generating in your directions within this focus, you automatically draw energy from experiences of other focuses that shall be beneficial and reinforcing.
Now; that may occur in what you term to be or you perceive to be a comfortable or uncomfortable manner. If you are generating uncomfortable situations and experiences, you also draw energy from other focuses that may be experiencing similar challenges or may be experiencing what you would term to be negative situations, which reinforces and lends energy, so to speak, to whatever you are generating.
But you are also creating that in every moment in association with other focuses. Regardless of what you do, you are continuously drawing energy from other focuses, for they are you also. Therefore, they are your experiences also. Just as you draw upon experiences that you generate in this focus, in whatever manner, to be reinforcing joy or guilt, you also generate that type of action in association with other focuses.
CARLEEN: I have a couple of questions about focuses. I had a dream about a Japanese man named Noburu. Is he a future focus?
ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.
CARLEEN: Also, I had a dream about a tall thin gentlemen in a seersucker blue and white pinstripe suit with dark hair and a handlebar mustache. Was he a past focus?
CARLEEN: I’m very moved by Arab music and singing. I was wondering if I have an Arab focus, or was I a Bedouin?
ELIAS: You have several, and yes, you do incorporate a focus as a Bedouin.
CARLEEN: The movie “Whale Rider” was very moving to me as well. There seemed to be a connection to Sizwey, and water and whales, and I was wondering if you could give me any insight on that.
ELIAS: Yes. You do incorporate several focuses also in different locations in different islands, in which you participate in tribes that incorporate a reverence for these creatures.
CARLEEN: I’m very attached to my dog. I find her physical presence very comforting and soothing, and I notice other people respond to her in this way as well. What is the significance of this bond with her?
ELIAS: You have incorporated other manifestations of this creature many times in different capacities, some as a canine, some as other creatures, but you have reconfigured this energy many times to be a companion with you and to be a reflection of your energy quite strongly.
CARLEEN: Was she a horse at one time?
CARLEEN: Thank you. Is my father experiencing transition while in the physical now?
CARLEEN: Anything I can do? Just acceptance? I know we all want to help our parents, but just acceptance and understanding of what’s happening?
ELIAS: And that shall generate a genuine supportiveness.
CARLEEN: Can you give me my parents’ and siblings’ essence names and then validate my impressions of their family alignment and orientation?
ELIAS: Very well.
CARLEEN: My father’s essence name?
ELIAS: Essence name, Monnoc, M-O-N-N-O-C (MAHN nock).
CARLEEN: Is he Sumafi?
CARLEEN: And common?
CARLEEN: My mother, her essence name?
ELIAS: Essence name, Xena, X-E-N-A (ZEE nuh).
CARLEEN: She’s Sumari?
CARLEEN: She sort of reminds me of Sizwey, for some reason. My sister Marian? (Pause)
ELIAS: Essence name, Arrwan, A-R-R-W-A-N (ARE wahn).
CARLEEN: My sister Kathleen?
ELIAS: Essence name, Kate, K-A-T-E.
CARLEEN: Is she Sumari?
CARLEEN: And last, my brother Mike?
ELIAS: Essence name, Emory, E-M-O-R-Y (EM or ee).
CARLEEN: I’m not sure about his alignment. Can you help me there?
CARLEEN: And he’s also common?
CARLEEN: One more thing, my friend Carla — her essence name?
ELIAS: Essence name, Gillene, G-I-L-L-E-N-E (JZUH leen).
CARLEEN: What is the connection between us? She feels like a counterpart, but I’m not sure. It’s something.
ELIAS: You do incorporate counterpart action, and you also have many shared focuses.
CARLEEN: Well, that’s it! It’s been a pleasure again.
ELIAS: I shall be anticipating our next meeting, and I shall continue to offer my encouragement to you and perhaps some reminders to be incorporating playfulness. (Chuckles)
CARLEEN: Not to be so serious. Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend. To you in affection and great fondness, au revoir.
Elias departs after 57 minutes.
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