Session 1083

What’s Love Got to Do with It?


"What's Love Got to Do with It?"
"The Emotional Signal of Jealousy"

Thursday, May 16, 2002 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Julie (Laya)
Elias arrives at 11:00 AM. (Arrival time is 23 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

JULIE: Good morning, Elias. How are you?

ELIAS: As always, and yourself?

JULIE: Very well, thank you. (Elias chuckles) I'd like to start out with getting some information on essence names, family alignments, and orientations of myself, my ex-boyfriend Paul, my sister Jana and her daughter Olivia.

ELIAS: Very well. I shall express to you first of all, information for yourself, other than orientation, has been offered.

JULIE: Oh, right. I know it's Laya, but I wasn't sure of the spelling.

ELIAS: You may incorporate this information with Michael.

JULIE: I don't remember it all, my family alignment.

ELIAS: Sumari.

JULIE: It's just Sumari? There's no influence?

ELIAS: Sumari/Sumari.

JULIE: And Paul?

ELIAS: And are you wishing for orientation?

JULIE: Yes, I'm sorry.

ELIAS: Orientation, soft.

Next individual (pause), essence name, Byron, B-Y-R-O-N (BYE run). And your impression concerning essence families?

JULIE: For Paul?


JULIE: I have no impression (Elias laughs) - only because I'm not so familiar with the different families. What comes into my thinking is Vold.

ELIAS: Now; this is an example, my friend, of allowance and listening to your impressions. Regardless of whether you incorporate objective information, you may offer yourself information through impressions.

I shall express to you, your impression of Vold is correct in essence family of belonging to. Alignment in this focus, Zuli; orientation, common.

JULIE: And my sister, Jana?

ELIAS: Essence name, Janice, J-A-N-I-C-E (jzah NEESE). Shall you offer impression of essence families?

JULIE: I'm thinking Sumafi?

ELIAS: Correct, and alignment?

JULIE: Sumari?

ELIAS: Correct. Orientation, common.

JULIE: And Olivia? (Pause)

ELIAS: Essence name, Oliver.

Now; I may also express to you, as has been requested previously by Michael and Lawrence, this is another focus of the same essence of Oliver that has been established previously within this forum. And shall you offer impression as to essence families?

JULIE: Zuli?

ELIAS: No. Sumafi.

JULIE: I have no idea.

ELIAS: Alignment in this focus, Zuli; orientation, common.

JULIE: I'd also like to know my color vibration. Is it a blue-green?

ELIAS: Aqua.

JULIE: I'd like to ask about my intent. My impression is that I am wanting to ... something about sexuality with this shift in consciousness. I feel like I'm supposed to assist somehow in a sexuality area of the shift. Is that along the lines of my intent?

ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, yes. Not necessarily in assistance with this shift in consciousness, but your identification of your theme in this focus of your exploration is in association with sexuality, you are correct. But I may also acknowledge with you that in your exploration of your intent in this focus, you do offer an expression of contribution, so to speak, in association with this shift in consciousness. (Pause)

JULIE: In other words, using my artwork as a contribution...


JULIE: the expression.


JULIE: I had some impressions. I was working with two pilots last year, and I believe that we experienced focuses together during World War II. I had quite a bit of throat problems when I was traveling to Europe with these two pilots. One of the pilots, Gustavo, in particular, he and I seemed to be sharing this sickness or sharing things. I was wondering if we did in fact share a focus together in World War II and if there was something going on with the throat, some kind of gas or something happened while we were in World War II flying together. Are these impressions that I've had correct with these two pilots?

ELIAS: Yes, you are correct.

JULIE: Was I in a relationship with Gustavo in the other focus, as far as husband or were we in an intimate relationship together?


JULIE: Was I a nurse?

ELIAS: No, reverse. The other individual incorporated that role, and your association with this individual and the experience that you generated, in a manner of speaking, was a bleed-through memory. For in that focus, you incorporate the role of pilot, and the association with the throat is not in relation to a gas but the pilot incorporating a bullet in the area of the throat.

JULIE: Did I die?


JULIE: It seems to me that I am experiencing a lot of issues with trust. I have an idea that it comes from my upbringing with my stepfather. I think that I'm holding certain beliefs about the way men are viewing me, and I think that this has a lot to do with my relationship with my ex-boyfriends. I'm not sure what I'm trying to say.

It's just that last week I had an incident happen between a friend of mine, and it got down to... The argument was making a choice between what she was saying to be true or what my ex-boyfriend was saying to be true. Now at the basis of this argument, something down deep inside of me believes my ex-boyfriend. I'm just wanting to get something from you, if that impression or that trusting of myself, if that is true. I'm trying to grasp trusting myself, and at that moment I remember really feeling that I was trusting myself with believing him. Can you give me any insight onto what's happened there?

ELIAS: First of all I shall express to you, acknowledge yourself in trusting your expression in the moment, but also allow yourself the recognition that, first of all, there are no absolutes and that each individual incorporates their own individual unique perception.

In questioning what you define as truthfulness, you move yourself into dangerous territory in association with beliefs and absolutes, and you snare yourself with duplicity. For I shall express to you quite genuinely, my friend, truth is not what you define it to be within your physical dimension, for all that is generated in experiences and in actual manifestations within your physical dimension is generated through perception.

Therefore, it is significant that you acknowledge yourself in your perception but also to recognize that this is not an absolute, nor are the expressions of other individuals absolutes. They are quite real, but perception is individual. I may not enough stress this point to any individual, for this holds tremendous importance in relation to your allowance of yourselves to accept the beliefs expressed in the belief system of duplicity, allowing yourself to acknowledge yourself and your impressions and your communication to yourself and acknowledging your perception, but also not generating judgment in association with the expressions of other individuals, for their perception is not necessarily wrong even in its expression of difference from your perception or another individual's perception, for their perception is reality just as your perception is reality.

I may express to you quite genuinely, my friend, you may engage an interaction and an experience with another individual or several other individuals and it is QUITE possible and does occur that you may generate one perception which is quite real and another individual may generate a very different perception of the same event and they may bear little resemblance to each other. Generally speaking, for the most part, this is NOT what individuals create in interaction with each other. Generally, you do create quite similar perceptions in your interactions with each other's energy expressions. But at times, individuals do create very different physical expressions through the differences of their perceptions.

This is the point of the significance of your recognition that there are no absolutes, and the significance of no absolutes is its influence with each of you in allowing you to be accepting of duplicity, recognizing that you continue to incorporate your opinions, your preferences, your expressions, but knowing that another individual may generate very differently and you need not express a judgment in association with that, but merely acknowledge the difference.

JULIE: So, what's love got to do with it? (Elias laughs) Because in this particular situation where I did spot the beliefs and I did feel the duplicity and the drama and everything, and understanding the different perceptions and working at accepting and feeling a love for not only the friend who was saying one thing, but the ex- boyfriend, feeling the love. What...

ELIAS: Offer...

JULIE: What does love have to do with it? Because this is the thing - if we get past the judgments, if we try to accept, isn't that where we get to a spot where we feel love and we can move forward if we choose to be in a relationship with a friend or a boyfriend or whatever? Isn't it about love?

ELIAS: Yes. The actual definition that you may apply in your terms and in your physical dimension of the translation of love is knowing and appreciation. The incorporation of these two expressions, knowing in genuineness - knowing yourself, knowing of another individual - and a genuine appreciation, this combination of expressions is love. You generate an emotional signal that you define as the feeling of affection in association with the expression of love, of knowing and appreciating.

JULIE: So is love a truth? Or you're speaking of this dimension?

ELIAS: Love IS a truth, and it translates into every expression of consciousness. This is the definition of a truth, that it shall translate in every area of consciousness.

Now; within your physical dimension, the manner in which it translates is knowing and appreciation.

JULIE: Can you say a few more words about the knowing part?

ELIAS: As you familiarize yourself with self, you generate a knowing of yourself, and in this, that familiarity and that knowing of yourself generates a movement into acceptance, and in the acceptance, you generate the appreciation. But you may not offer yourself a genuine acceptance if you do not incorporate the familiarity and the knowing.

In allowing yourself this action of incorporating this recognition, this familiarity and this knowing of yourself, and generating the acceptance and the appreciation, you automatically allow yourself the natural by-product which is to express this outwardly in association with other individuals. The more clarity you allow yourself of yourself, the more genuine clarity you offer in association with other individuals.

Let me express to you, my friend, each individual within your physical dimension allows themselves to view other individuals more readily than they shall themselves, for this is an aspect of the blueprint of your physical dimension. You incorporate the action of interacting with other individuals to provide yourself with a reflection of yourself.

Now; this offers you an efficient avenue to become familiar with you. Therefore, all of the expressions that you generate within you automatically reflect through other individuals. Therefore, a genuine expression of love in association with yourself automatically, in your terms, spills outwardly in association with other individuals.

Therefore, what you are expressing in this experience is a momentary allowance of yourself to genuinely experience this love of self, which you also recognized immediately translated to an expression of love in association with these other individuals. Are you understanding?


ELIAS: This you have offered to yourself as an objective evidence that you actually do incorporate the ability to generate this reality. This is a genuine expression of movement in association with this shift, and this is significant. For as I have expressed previously many, many times, you do not generate an actual assimilation and reality of any of these concepts unless you offer yourself the actual experience of it, and this experience is your evidence to yourself of your movement in association with this shift.

I shall offer my acknowledgment and perhaps you shall acknowledge yourself also.

JULIE: Thank you. Wow.

Let's see ... how many focuses do I have in this dimension?

ELIAS: Two hundred sixty-four.

JULIE: Wow, not so many. (Elias chuckles) And Paul?

ELIAS: Three hundred eighty-one.

JULIE: Was I involved or around with your focus in the Oscar Wilde timeframe? Did I have a focus around that time with you?

ELIAS: You do incorporate a focus within that time framework, although you do not express an involvement or a recognition of that focus of myself.

JULIE: I also have another impression. I had an evening out with a man, and my impression was that he slipped a "rufie" in my drink. Did that happen?



I want to talk a little bit about accepting beliefs, because I've really been trying to spot beliefs that I have.

ELIAS: Very well.

JULIE: If I have a feeling of jealousy, I'm having a hard time finding the actual belief that it comes from and the beginning stages of that belief, in my experience. Could you help me on that a little bit?

ELIAS: Offer a specific example, and you and I shall explore.

JULIE: I believe I'm jealous because of my interactions from childhood, my stepfather molesting me as a child, and at that point I think I brought it on as a belief system, that this is what I'm expecting from the opposite sex, this type. So when I'm in a relationship and I have a boyfriend who's looking at another woman, I'm thinking that this is the perception of what men are thinking of women, in a sexual context. I'm wondering if that is the essence of the belief that I have.

ELIAS: What is the expression objectively that you assess or that you associate with this emotional signal of jealousy? What you are describing presently is not an expression of jealousy, but you have specifically inquired concerning this particular expression of jealousy. Therefore, I am inquiring of you to offer one example in which you recognize that you are generating this expression of jealousy.

JULIE: Oh gosh, I'm so lost right now; I can't gather my thoughts.

ELIAS: If you are in relationship with another individual and that individual engages interaction with another female, shall you express jealousy?


ELIAS: Very well.

Now; in the expression of jealousy, you are generating an emotional signal. This emotional signal is created to move your attention to the message or the communication that is expressed in the emotion. The communication is offering you an identification of what you are actually generating in the moment, what you are DOING in the moment.

Now; what you are generating in that moment is a discounting of yourself and devaluing of yourself, and you are expressing within yourself a lack of trust of your ability to create what you want. This is projected outwardly in a lack of trust of the other individual, and therefore you express the signal of jealousy.

Now; the beliefs that influence this expression are varied. It is not merely one, but many. One belief that you express is the belief that experiences are absolute, and that once generated - as they become absolute - they shall continue to be generated in the same manner, for you do not incorporate or allow any other choice for you have set the experience into an expression of absolute.

This is expressed quite often in association with psychological beliefs. Individuals...

JULIE: That's why I was wondering if the belief was born at that point when I was small. I guess I'm trying to understand the acceptance and feeling the emotions, spotting the belief, learning about the belief, really trying to understand it, where it comes from, how it's evolved, so that I can really ease into this accepting. That's why I was wondering if that belief - like you said, there's a few of them - if it was born back then. (Pause)

ELIAS: Triggered, not necessarily what you term to be born; but prior to your experience, this particular belief of solidifying experiences in absolutes was not yet expressed. This is not to say that it was not latently incorporated, but it was not expressed.

Now; other beliefs were already being expressed in association with roles, relationships, family, behavior, expectations of other individuals' choices, right and wrong action - which continue to be expressed now also and are influencing.

What is the most challenging in this situation is your expression of absoluteness in association with experiences.

JULIE: How can I accept that?

ELIAS: Merely allow yourself, my friend, to recognize that experiences are not absolute and you create in the moment. Each experience is its own outcome. It is not continued in the next moment; the next moment is another choice. Each moment is a choice. Each moment you generate experiences, and in choice you incorporate freedom to allow yourself to create whatever you want. You are not bound to experiences that you have created previously.

In allowing yourself to recognize that you create in the moment and that in each moment you may offer yourself permission to choose what you want and your preference, you allow yourself to loose this hold in the expression of absoluteness.

JULIE: My orientation is soft, and I'm really trying to learn and accept the different languages of other orientations. I just feel like once you know that it is a different communication, it does get easier, doesn't it?

ELIAS: Yes. I may also express to you, allow yourself the familiarity with you, my friend, and your own natural expressions and your own natural flow, and do not complicate the expression of translating different languages of orientations. It is not quite as difficult as you may perceive it to be presently.

As you allow yourself to listen to you and to familiarize yourself with your language and to become accepting and trusting of yourself, you shall also generate much more of an ease with other individuals and the expressions of their orientations.

JULIE: Am I holding a belief that I can't support myself in the upper middle of my back? Am I giving myself pain in my back there because I'm feeling that I can't support myself financially?


JULIE: (Laughs) Well, I think I'm doing a lot better than the last time I talked to you. I feel as though I'm paying more attention and enjoying myself a heck of a lot more with everything.

ELIAS: I am in agreement. Ha ha ha!

JULIE: I'm just having so much fun with everything. I feel like I'm getting away from the trauma that I was putting myself through - not completely, but I do feel like I'm getting better. (Elias laughs)

Anything else you want to say to help me out?

ELIAS: Merely to remember, my friend, to be playful and to generate fun, for this is tremendously influencing with you individually. Therefore in the moments that you recognize yourself expressing agitation and seriousness, offer yourself a gentle reminder that you are incorporating a game and to be playful. This is a much more natural expression of your energy. (Chuckles)

JULIE: Thank you so much, Elias.

ELIAS: You are quite welcome, my friend. I shall express to you, vive la couleur! (Chuckles) I offer to you my genuine appreciation and knowing of you, and accompany this with my genuine expression of affection to you also.

JULIE: Thank you.

ELIAS: I extend my invitation that we may engage conversation once again futurely, and I shall in the interim time framework offer my energy to you in supportiveness. In lovingness, my friend, au revoir.

JULIE: Bye-bye.

Elias departs at 11:58 AM.

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