Also, perhaps you may, in moments that you view yourself to be beginning to generate frustration or anger, allow yourself to stop and inquire within yourself what you want in that moment — not what you want of the other individual, but what YOU want. As example, if you are interacting with this particular individual and you view yourself to be becoming irritated, rather than expressing the inquiry to yourself 'what do I want' and responding to yourself 'I want this individual to disappear' — which is an action in which you are projecting your attention outwardly and generating some expectation of another individual — rather, express the question to yourself 'what do I want in this moment.' Once you discover ANY expression that you want — it matters not what you offer to yourself — but once you offer any identification of what you want in that actual moment, allow yourself to act. Not merely think, but incorporate action.