Soft and Common,
Topics:
“Orientations: Soft and Common”
“The Natural Desire for Intimacy”
Saturday, December 11, 1999
© 2000 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael), and a new participant,
Michael (Micheline).
Elias arrives at 2:26 PM. (Arrival time is 17 seconds)
ELIAS: Good afternoon!
MICHAEL: Good afternoon!
ELIAS: (Chuckling) You may proceed!
MICHAEL: Okay! First of all, I would like to know my essence
name, family, alignment, and orientation.
ELIAS: Very well. (Short pause) Essence name, Micheline;
M-I-C-H-E-L-I-N-E. (mik-o-lene’) Essence family, Sumafi....
MICHAEL: I’m sorry?
ELIAS: Sumafi. Alignment in this focus, Sumari. Orientation,
common.
MICHAEL: Really! That’s a surprise. (Elias chuckles)
Okay ... ‘cause I would have thought that I was soft.
ELIAS: I am aware. (Grinning)
MICHAEL: Hmm.
ELIAS: Now express to me your assessment of why you shall align
yourself with the orientation of soft, and I shall express to you your
orientation.
MICHAEL: Okay, and I also would like the information for my friend
Tim and my friend Debbie.
ELIAS: Ah, but you have not responded to my question!
MICHAEL: Oh, I’m sorry! What was the question?
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha ha!
MICHAEL: It’s a little hard to hear.
ELIAS: The question posed to you is, what is your assessment of
the orientation of soft, that you would align yourself with that particular
orientation?
MICHAEL: Oh. The information given as pertaining to being
aware of more than my environment — my essence and other essences — and
that discussion.
ELIAS: Very well.
Now; let me express to you, individuals that hold the orientation of
common DO hold a tremendous awareness of their environment, other individuals,
and all of their objective reality.
Let me express to you, you may look to your interaction with other individuals,
and this shall express to you a clear indication of your orientation.
You are quite responsive to other individuals that you engage relationships
with. Individuals that you participate with in interaction, regardless
of the intensity of your relationship with those individuals, you create
responsiveness to how they are creating their reality and different situations
that they participate within.
Let us express an example hypothetically.
If an individual that you participate with engages a situation and they
may be responding sorrowfully in that situation, you shall respond also
and be commiserating. You shall allow yourself an affectingness as
other individuals are affected that you participate with, but in other
situations, you may not hold a tremendous expression in relation to situations
such as mass events.
This is not to say that you are not responsive to those mass events
that you offer yourself information with respect to. You may be offering
yourself information in conjunction with certain mass events, and you may
hold an opinion, and you may also be at times partially responsive to those
particular situations.
An individual holding the orientation of soft shall be responsive to
those situations regardless of their objective knowing or awareness of
the situations. Many times they shall be experiencing quite emotionally
to these mass events that occur within your world. They experience
these types of events in the same manner that they would be experiencing
them were they to be actually physically participating in them themselves.
This is a key difference between the orientation of soft and the orientation
of common, for those individuals holding the orientation of common are
very responsive to the individuals that they interact with. Are you
understanding?
MICHAEL: I am totally understanding, and I totally feel that then
I would be common. That would be obvious, because I am very empathic
in the sense that I am always picking up feelings from other people and
translating those and adapting to those feelings in my responses, and yet
mass events, or even like the news in the newspaper, does not concern me
most of the time.
ELIAS: Quite, and....
MICHAEL: I don’t pay any attention to it! (Laughing)
ELIAS: Quite, and this is a basic element of difference in these
two orientations, for those individuals that are manifest within the orientation
of soft are very responsive to mass events or your information which is
presented within your news, so to speak.
MICHAEL: The ... what was I gonna say? In terms of what
I believed to be my orientation, I have been, I guess, operating under
a faulty presumption, which is that I should be interacting more with other
people and therefore was failing somehow because I wasn’t interacting more
or wanting to interact more with other people.
ELIAS: (Chuckling) This also is an expression of individuals
which hold the orientation of common. You may allow yourself to move
into expressions of interaction in conjunction with other individuals,
or you may be expressing singularly and not experience conflict in those
time frameworks in which you choose to be expressing yourself singularly
and not interactive with other individuals.
An individual within the orientation of soft shall experience not a
chastisement or judgment of themselves in a lack of interaction with other
individuals, but shall experience a tremendous element of conflict and
what you identify in physical focus as tremendous unhappiness. Despair
shall be expressed in the focus of an individual that is manifest as soft
and is not allowing themselves to be interactive with other individuals.
This is a situation of isolating, and this is quite different from the
expression of an individual in the orientation of common as they may choose
to be experiencing or creating singularly. They are not expressing
a situation of isolation necessarily, but allowing themselves an expression
singularly and allowing themselves to be exploring of their reality within
self, and....
MICHAEL: I understand. I’d like to move on to my friends,
Tim and Debbie.
ELIAS: Very well. (Pause)
First individual, essence name, Kane; K-A-N-E. Essence family,
Vold; alignment, Ilda. Second individual, essence name, Angelica.
Essence family, Tumold; alignment in this focus, Sumari.
MICHAEL: And their orientation?
ELIAS: Orientation, both individuals, common. (Pause)
MICHAEL: Okay, that’s very interesting.
I’d like to talk a little bit about my recent expression of what is
basically a month or more of illnesses, a string of illnesses, sort of
one after the other, and trying to figure out what I was trying to tell
myself there.
ELIAS: This situation you have presented to yourself in a response
to energy which is being expressed presently.
Now; this moves in two expressions, one in conjunction with the wave
in consciousness which is occurring presently which addresses to the belief
system of sexuality, and the other is an expression of energy which is
directly related to this shift in consciousness.
But both of these expressions of energy are quite intense presently,
and in this intensity, as you are allowing yourself recently, so to speak,
to move into a new expression of widening your awareness, you have also
incorporated an allowance for an influx of these mass expressions of energy,
which has been slightly overwhelming, and in this, as you become confused
in the manipulation of energy and how to be manipulating this influx of
energy, you have incorporated a series of creations in projecting the energy
into physical manifestations.
Now; let me express to you also, this is a manifestation that you need
not necessarily be viewing as negative, so to speak, for although it may
have presented elements that have been uncomfortable, it also has allowed
for an efficient expression of this surge, so to speak, in energy, in which
you allow yourself to release some of this energy rather than holding the
energy and creating an ongoing situation of painfulness in any particular
area of your physical body form.
MICHAEL: I freed myself up to deal with the next part of the wave,
so to speak?
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking. You have allowed yourself
to be experiencing surges of energy, therefore familiarizing yourself with
the situation which is occurring in consciousness, which IS reality and
IS quite affecting within your objective waking reality.
Therefore, as you have allowed yourself to incorporate some of this
energy and you have responded with it, you have also not held to it.
You have allowed movement with it, and have merely created certain physical
expressions in responsiveness to it. You may allow yourself subsequently
to not necessarily incorporate this energy physically, and allow yourself
the expression of incorporating without holding.
MICHAEL: So in a way, in a sense, I’ve learned how to get around
that expression ...
ELIAS: In a manner of speaking, yes.
MICHAEL: ... to change that expression, or I’m about to change
that expression, so it doesn’t affect me as what I view as negatively.
ELIAS: Correct.
MICHAEL: ‘Cause that was a very tough period of time! (Laughing)
ELIAS: I am aware, and I shall express to you that many individuals,
as this energy wave becomes objectively quite intense, they are experiencing
also an intensity in many different expressions that they create objectively.
MICHAEL: There is one thing that I want
to ask that I think I might have missed in the transcripts. You say
a lot that as we move into this and/or as it is progressing to an intensity.
What is the time frame on that objectively?
ELIAS: I have not offered a time framework for the reason that
you collectively have not in actuality created a definition of a time framework.
MICHAEL: Oh, I see.
ELIAS: This is dependent upon your movement individually and how
that is translated collectively in addressing to the belief system, and
recognizing the aspects of that belief system and allowing yourselves to
be moving into an addressment of the belief system, and also into the beginnings
of an acceptance.
MICHAEL: Okay. I definitely feel
this shift individually very, very much in terms of intensity. I
also see that the energy individually can be used by an individual either
negatively or positively as they choose, and one of the things I’m trying
to do is to choose to use it positively on a conscious level, on an objective
level.
ELIAS: Quite. I am understanding, but let me also caution
you in this action.
I am not discouraging you in the direction of turning your attention
or in altering your perception, that you may be viewing your reality more
efficiently, so to speak, and with less conflict, but I shall also caution
you in the expression of attempting to be viewing all of your reality in
the positive, for this is equally as much, so to speak, of a judgment as
viewing your reality....
MICHAEL: Right, because there is no negative or positive?
ELIAS: Correct, and either of these expressions is not an expression
of acceptance.
MICHAEL: I see. But isn’t it an expression of less conflict?
ELIAS: Temporarily.
MICHAEL: Ah.
ELIAS: And this be the reason that I am cautioning you, for temporarily,
yes, you shall experience less conflict, but this is a temporary expression.
I have recently offered information which shall be available to you
in an explanation of the definition of acceptance and tolerance.
In this, as you begin movement into viewing your reality in what you
express as positive, you move yourself into an expression of tolerance.
But tolerance is not acceptance, and it is a temporary expression, for
there are expectations that you attach to tolerance, and there are also
expectations that you attach to positive.
MICHAEL: I understand.
Some of the despair I’ve created throughout
my life has been attached to the concept of being alone and the importance
that society puts on being in a relationship. Have I chosen not to
for a reason? (Pause)
ELIAS: Let me express to you first of all, this desire or drive,
so to speak, of wishing to be creating an intimate relationship with another
individual in partnership is expressed quite commonly within your physical
reality, and partially, this is a natural expression.
It is a desire for objectification in the recognition of the lack of
separation, and as you have created a reality in which you manifest singularly
into solid matter which appears objectively to be separated, you also hold
a tremendous desire to be interconnected with another individual, which
offers you a reminder, so to speak, in objective terms, of the lack of
separation within consciousness. Therefore, the desire is quite natural.
Now; as the desire is natural, it is also recognized en masse, not merely
individually, and as it is recognized en masse, there are also mass expressions
which emphasize this desire, but the desire is distorted into the expression
of need. A desire is not a need.
Now; in this, as you align yourself with the mass beliefs and mass expressions,
you also allow yourself to be affected. In this, I shall express
to you two responses. One, that as I have stated, it is quite natural
for you to be drawn to this desire in objective terms. Two is that
you shall actualize that desire as you allow yourself to be turning your
attention to self.
I have expressed previously with other individuals in different subject
matters, as you concentrate objectively upon certain wants, many times
you thwart your actualization of those wants....
MICHAEL: ‘Cause the universe is quite literal.
ELIAS: Mmm, YOU....
MICHAEL: When you say you want something, you literally do, and
therefore you will continue to. You haven’t chosen it yet.
ELIAS: You choose what you....
MICHAEL: You choose to want instead of choosing to have.
ELIAS: You choose what you concentrate upon and you choose what
you believe. You do not necessarily choose what you want.
Therefore, objectively, you want to be manifesting a partnership.
Subjectively, you desire to be manifesting a relationship in intimacy with
another individual, but your concentration also moves into your beliefs
concerning self, and THIS is the movement in energy which is projected
and THIS is what is creating of what you manifest, for your want is not
always expressed in conjunction with your belief.
You may express objectively that you want many different expressions
within your reality, but you may also simultaneously hold a belief that
you do not hold the ability to manifest those wants, and the belief is
the source of your concentration.
Therefore, many individuals express objectively, “I do not understand.
I am concentrating intensely upon this subject matter in my attempt to
be manifesting this thing, and it is not manifesting, and it is confusing
to me.” I shall express to you, you may create a thought process
in any direction that you are choosing. This is not necessarily an
expression of concentration. Your concentration lies in your beliefs,
and THAT is what shall be manifest.
MICHAEL: So how does one ... ‘cause I believe that I’ve tried
many different quote/unquote “methods,” and I know that you say that we’re
very fond of methods, and of course physically, in this objective physicality,
we have to sort of use those.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha ha!
MICHAEL: But methodically, I’ve tried many ways, for instance,
to boost my self-esteem and try to attack the belief system that I have
that I’m not worthy or that I don’t deserve certain things, and I was wondering
how I’m doing with that, ‘cause I’m a little confused.
ELIAS: In certain expressions, you are accomplishing an allowance
of some acceptance within self, and in other expressions, you are perpetuating
a lack of acceptance of self.
MICHAEL: What would those be?
ELIAS: Let me offer to you a different method, so to speak, for
in the methods that you have engaged previously, you are attempting to
be positively reinforcing objectively of yourself, and expressing to yourself
an acknowledgment of what you identify as positive or good qualities of
self.
Now; let us engage discussion in a different direction that may be helpful
to you in your methodology. (Chuckling)
Where obstacles are created is in the moment, and in actual interaction,
and in actual manifestations and circumstances and projections of energy.
You do not create great obstacles within yourself in moments that you
occupy singularly in which you are reinforcing yourself. Therefore,
it is quite efficient to be reinforcing yourself singularly, for there
is no opposition to that reinforcement.
MICHAEL: Right.
ELIAS: Within actual engagements in situations that you may participate
in, there are many opportunities for your underlying beliefs to materialize,
so to speak.
MICHAEL: I understand.
ELIAS: Therefore, it may be beneficial to you to be addressing
to the elements of opposition in the moments that they are opposing.
MICHAEL: Ah!
ELIAS: In this, you may express to another individual — that you
engage a relationship of friendship — that you are acknowledging of yourself.
This individual shall be also reinforcing to you and shall be supportive
of your action, and shall be validating to you of your movement in your
acknowledgment of self. Or, you may stand before your mirror and
you may look to your reflection and you may express to yourself, “I am
a wondrous being.”
But you may move into a situation in which you are introduced objectively
to an individual which you are encountering for the first time objectively,
and within that moment, many elements of your beliefs begin to play.
They are not within play as you are engaging your friend and they are not
in play as you are engaging yourself, but they become manifest and interactive
as you place yourself in situations in which you interact in unfamiliar
situations, in which you begin to question self.
MICHAEL: I understand.
ELIAS: Therefore, in these situations, regardless of the circumstance
and regardless of your intention in any of these encounters with other
individuals, in the moment that you are engaging interaction with another
individual, allow yourself to be noticing you, for your attention automatically
objectively moves to the other individual.
MICHAEL: Ah.
ELIAS: Your attention is not objectively upon self, but is occupied
within the movement and expression of the other individual and the assessment
of the other individual, and therefore you are not paying attention to
self and what you are manifesting in automatic response, and once you begin
noticing, you have already created many steps into your expression.
MICHAEL: Is this why I’ve chosen the particular job that I’m in,
in that environment, to work on that?
ELIAS: Partially. This offers you the opportunity to be
engaging many different scenarios, many different individuals, and it offers
you the opportunity to practice.
MICHAEL: Ah. Am I a final focus? (Pause)
ELIAS: Yes.
MICHAEL: I’ve always felt out of place, and I’ve never been terribly
drawn to our historical past. Are many of my focuses in the future?
ELIAS: You do hold many future focuses, in your terms, although
you also do hold many focuses which would be identified as past.
Partially, the expression of lack of interest, so to speak, in past
focuses or historical events is related to the expression or the designation
of the final focus. Partially, it is also an expression of this individual
particular focus, in that you hold much more of a fascination with this
now and your movement as the final focus in this now. This is an
expression that is quite commonly expressed by individuals that are designated
as a final focus.
MICHAEL: I feel in my life
that especially after the mid-twenties, I’ve almost become a different
person. I know I’ve worked on and changed some of my belief systems,
but there are whole segments of my past that I seemingly have no access
to anymore. Is that partially because I’ve chosen to turn my attention
away from them?
ELIAS: No. This is an expression which is quite natural
as you exchange positions of the primary aspect of self. What you
have created is an exchange in the expression of the primary aspect of
self. One aspect of self within any time framework is designated
as the primary aspect. That is the aspect of you that objectively
expresses and that you recognize as you overall, so to speak.
This is not to say that other aspects of you are not continuously interactive
and exchanging positions momentarily, but for the most part, one aspect
of you shall be expressed as the primary aspect, and that sets a guideline,
so to speak, in which you shall create and manifest your behavior, your
expression of creativity....
MICHAEL: Yeah, I was gonna say, that’s one of the things that
has changed the most in the last few years, is that music used to be a
much bigger part of my life, and all of a sudden that drive toward music
has stopped, and the same thing with my acting.
ELIAS: These are all qualities of you, and they are all elements
of your creativity, and they are all aspects of your focus that are expressed
in certain aspects of you.
Now; I have expressed many times, there are countless you’s of you.
MICHAEL: I understand.
ELIAS: In that, what I am expressing is, all of these aspects
of you are present continuously, but one is expressed as the primary, and
in exchanging positions of primary aspects, you also create at times dramatic
alterations in your focus, in....
MICHAEL: What we would call our personalities?
ELIAS: Correct, or your expressions within what you would term
to be your creativity or your talents or your interests.
MICHAEL: But those are still accessible to me at any given moment?
ELIAS: Yes.
MICHAEL: So I can choose to activate, say, an aspect of me that
displays that talent?
ELIAS: Yes. You have merely chosen to be exchanging positions
with another aspect of you into the primary position to offer yourself
a difference; in a manner of speaking, a different flavor, so to speak,
in your reality that you may explore and that may offer you an awareness
that you hold the ability to be altering your perception.
For within this physical reality, as you do align with the belief that
there are absolutes — which there are not — you also lean in the direction
of viewing yourself and your perception as an absolute and that it may
not be altered, and this offers you the opportunity to view and experience
that your perception may be altered quite easily and quite effortlessly,
and it shall be tremendously affecting.
MICHAEL: And once that realization comes, then I begin to change
that old belief system?
ELIAS: You may. It may be quite influencing in your creation,
and this may allow you to relax your hold upon your beliefs, and allow
you the movement into an acceptance of your beliefs.
MICHAEL: I’d like to talk a little bit about my other
focuses, what I would consider my past focuses, and any interaction I might
have had with you as well as the two friends that I mentioned previously,
as I don’t have a lot of ... since the aspect change, I don’t have a lot
of memory of dreams. That seems to be one of the side effects of
this. (Elias chuckles) My memory of dreams has lessened, where it
used to be very vivid and now it’s not, so I’m asking for a little help
with some other focuses that may be useful to me.
ELIAS: I shall point you in a direction and I shall encourage
you to be investigating yourself, and you may be accessing this information
in other manners and you may be incorporating meditations, not merely your
dream imagery, to be offering you this information.
But as to your interaction in other focuses with these individuals designated
as your friends, I express to you that you interact with each of these
individuals in two focuses that are influencing in relation to this focus
presently. All of your focuses are affecting, but these two may be
interesting for your investigation.
One — in which you participate in the physical location of Prussia,
all three as engaging friendship once again, all three as male individuals,
and all three as quite mischievous. These individuals are creating
within their focus tremendous expression of curiosity and daring, so to
speak, and in this, you may find them to be quite colorful.
I shall also express to you that you may be investigating of a future
focus in which you all participate, and within that focus, you occupy the
physical location of this same land mass, which is not identified any longer
as this particular country, for there is much less of a separation of countries
futurely.
In this focus, you hold a relationship to your female friend in the
expression of brothers, and the relationship of your male friend is that
of a cousin.
MICHAEL: I’m sorry?
ELIAS: A cousin.
MICHAEL: Okay. There is one other thing that I do remember
about a focus that was a male prostitute, I want to say?
ELIAS: Correct; continue.
MICHAEL: Where and when was that?
ELIAS: (Chuckling) And what is your assessment? Do
not be discounting of yourself!
MICHAEL: I remember the image, and I knew that it was me.
It felt like it was either here or eastern Europe.
ELIAS: You are correct.
MICHAEL: And I’m gonna say eastern Europe.
ELIAS: You are correct.
MICHAEL: Like maybe Czechoslovakia or Yugoslavia?
ELIAS: Romania.
MICHAEL: Romania. Was my friend Tim there?
ELIAS: Yes. Let me express to you, you hold many focuses
with these individuals. I have merely offered you two as a starting
point, so to speak.
MICHAEL: Okay, and the other question was, briefly, which focuses
have I shared with this woman I work with, who I’m having problems with,
named Donna? There’s definitely a past there.
ELIAS: I shall be encouraging you to be investigating of this
also, for this shall offer you information in the influence of energy and
how you may be manipulating energy within this focus to not necessarily
incorporate the effect that you incorporate now. But you may be investigating
another focus in which you both participate in the physical location of
Brazil, and in this, you also participate in a type of relationship which
creates much conflict. You are not friends.
MICHAEL: We are not friends. (Elias chuckles) No question
there! (They both laugh)
ELIAS: As to a direction of a focus that you have engaged with
myself, I shall express to you that within a physical location of England,
you have engaged participation in a focus with myself in which I manifest
as a sorcerer and you engage counsel with myself.
MICHAEL: Okay. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are quite welcome.
MICHAEL: I guess that’s all the time we have.
ELIAS: Very well. I express to you encouragement in your
noticing of self and your noticing of your automatic responses within self.
This shall be helpful to you. As you familiarize yourself with you,
you shall also begin creating those elements in your focus that you are
most desirous of. To you this day, I offer great affection and anticipation
of our next meeting, and express to you very lovingly, au revoir.
MICHAEL: Thank you.
Elias departs at 3:27 PM.
FOOTNOTES:
(1) I have changed one word in this sentence:
“Quite, and this is a basic element of difference in these two orientations,
for those individuals that are manifest within the orientation of soft
are very responsive to mass events or your information which is presented
within your news, so to speak.” Elias said “within the orientation
of common,” but within the context, it seems he meant to say soft.
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