Soft Orientation
Topics:
“Sleep In Relation to Soft Orientation Individuals”
“Soft-Soft Relationships”
Thursday, July 19, 2007 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Axel (Ricarro)
ELIAS: Good afternoon!
AXEL: Good afternoon, Elias.
ELIAS: (Laughs) And what shall we discuss, my friend?
AXEL: You are always asking so innocently, huh? (Both laugh)
Two things, actually, that I have on my mind. One is my special friend and relationship, soft-soft relationship. And the other thing that I want to speak about first is my experiments with sleeping patterns.
ELIAS: Ah!
AXEL: We spoke about that briefly in the last session in November, that I had realized during my stay in the hospital that I was able to stay on less sleep than usual. Which is something that was always interesting to me because I have always felt that it's good for me, for my flow. That it's beneficial for my flow. And that I was able to do that, meanwhile, without getting overwhelmed because of an input of too much information. And I have continued with this and I have further reduced my sleeping time, a little bit, gradually, because I don't want to overwhelm myself. So, yeah. I'm very, very satisfied with this, I have to say.
And I was wondering… I mean, how can it be that such a, if you will, small thing, is having such a tremendous effect on me. But it seems to me, seems obvious enough, it IS definitely affecting me tremendously, how much I sleep. And I was also wondering where this is leading me to or how far I can go, so to speak, because somehow I have an impression that I can reduce my sleep time down to approximately four hours a night with an optional, very short nap sometime during the day or in the evening. And, yeah, I just wanted to hear your take on this; what you think about all that.
I also have the impression that naps, when I take naps if they are very short — like just fifteen, twenty minutes — that works better for me than longer naps. Yeah, and so that's basically just my things I notice and I just wanted to be able just to say about this.
ELIAS: (Laughs) Very well. I would agree with you that in altering your sleep time, you are allowing yourself more of your own natural flow. And this is the reason that it is generating what you would view to be a profound effect in your experiences and in your energy, and allowing you to generate more clarity. It also can allow you to generate a heightened sensitivity. For in generating that natural flow, you become more present. And in being more present, you become more sensitized to your experiences and your environment and your interactions. And that can be very beneficial.
I would express to you, you are correct, that you can reduce your sleep time to approximately four of your hours. You can even reduce your sleep time to incorporate less time framework than that. In actuality, sleep itself is not entirely necessary. And I will express to you that, dependent upon the individual and their natural expression of energy, with a soft individual, you can actually function quite well and without overwhelm and without fatigue, with the incorporation of very little sleep. The reason for this is that as the soft individual becomes more familiar with themself, and more aware, and more present, they generate more activities that allow them to be in touch with, in a manner of speaking, their subjective awareness. And in the incorporation of the subjective awareness being so much more surface, with a soft individual, they can actually function quite well with less sleep.
Now; understand that this would not apply to ALL soft individuals, for it would be dependent upon the individual's natural flow of energy. Therefore, some individuals of the soft orientation may incorporate more sleep time and that may be more in keeping with their own individual, natural flow. But, generally speaking, the reason that individuals incorporate extended time frameworks for sleep is not necessarily to rest. For the body consciousness can regenerate and can function quite effectively with the incorporation of REST without actual sleep. And in this, most individuals incorporate sleep as a time framework in which they disengage the objective and allow for subjective activity.
AXEL: Yes.
ELIAS: And that is their method of keeping a continuous harmony and interaction between—
AXEL: Yeah. I also realized that being in this flow I was able sometimes, even in the middle of activities — almost without much interruption or change of pace, necessarily — I was nevertheless able to relax very deeply—
ELIAS: Yes.
AXEL: —and I agree with you that there is more subjective activity coming to the surface, it's like of weaving into the stream of my usual, daytime consciousness. And these things together, then further lessen the requirement for actual sleep time.
ELIAS: Yes. You are correct. For in this, it is not necessary for you to incorporate actual sleep. Some individuals may even incorporate a substitute for sleep in generating specific time frameworks in which they incorporate a meditation, which allows for a deep relaxation and THAT allows the body consciousness to rest.
AXEL: Yeah. I'm wondering what, in your assessment — considering that you know me real well (both laugh) — what would you consider an optimal number of hours—
ELIAS: In associ—
AXEL: —for sleep and maybe optional nap time.
ELIAS: I would express, for you, an optimal sleep time would be between three and one half hours, and four hours. And the nap incorporation would be optimal at, perhaps, twenty of your minutes.
AXEL: How long a nap?
ELIAS: Twenty.
AXEL: Twenty minutes?
ELIAS: Yes.
AXEL: So just one nap of twenty minutes.
ELIAS: That would depend upon the day, perhaps—
AXEL: Yeah, I understand.
ELIAS: —for in one day you—
AXEL: (Inaudible) naturally, right?
ELIAS: Yes. It would be more a matter of paying attention to your energy and what your body consciousness is expressing to you. And therefore, being aware of listening to your body consciousness and responding.
AXEL: And would you… What would be more, let's say, effortless and comfortable, to move into such a time schedule. Would it be more preferably to do this gradually, or just to change and stick to it until I get use to it?
ELIAS: I would express, to avoid overwhelming yourself, that you incorporate alterations somewhat gradually.
AXEL: Yeah, I agree. That's also what I found out. I mean, I've read on the internet a lot of people are trying to enforce it, in a way, and then it's not really working for them. And then they give it up.
ELIAS: Yes.
AXEL: Yes. Good. I'm glad I've asked these questions so specifically. (Both laugh)
Okay. Maybe I can move on to my other item of interest, which is my soft-soft relationship with my very special friend, in Italy.
Yeah. Oh, my son is just coming home. (Speaks briefly to son.) That was my son coming home.
Yeah, I had this spontaneous idea for the session when we decided to meet next week. Because I have to explain a little bit that since the end of 2005 already, when we first met, since then we have been interactive more or less on a daily basis, but we never actually, physically, met again. But we have only been chatting on the telephone or in emails and so on. And now that we made the decision to meet… (Both laugh) As soon as we had spoken about this we both got very anxious and excited and partially even confused. About all the associations that we had… I think, well, at least that's true for me and, as much as I understood, also for her. (Both laugh)
So I had this idea, when we decided, when we fixed the date, in the next minute I wrote to Mary, “Can I have a session?” (Both laugh) Because I felt the excitement too.
ELIAS: And wanted to share. (Laughs)
AXEL: We actually shared all our emotions and what's going on in our mind of our anxiousness, our doubts, but also our desires and wants and dreams and everything that is associated with this ‘getting together.’
ELIAS: I will express my congratulations to you, my friend.
AXEL: Thank you.
ELIAS: (Laughs) And in this, merely offer you a gentle reminder of how important it is to be paying attention to yourself when you are engaging a relationship with another individual of the soft orientation. (Laughs)
AXEL: Yeah, thanks for the reminder. It is actually — it IS on my mind, a lot. (Both laugh)
ELIAS: But I will also offer an encouragement. For in DOING so, you CAN actually generate a very successful relationship with another individual of your own orientation.
AXEL: I think that I personally am mostly interested in relationship of this type, soft-soft. It is something that is… I guess I prefer this to the other two possible combinations. I don't know why, I just take it like this.
And well, yeah. I don't even know what to say, what to ask. (Both laugh) But it's very interesting that when we spoke about all our feelings and then associations and thoughts, in regards to this meeting, how similar, actually, how similar it was, what was going on inside us. And I also noticed that although in certain areas we may relate things to a different imagery, the common denominator is often quite similar. So, like for instance, I have my ways, my personal imagery of what I associate with doubt—
ELIAS: Yes.
AXEL: And she is having hers.
ELIAS: This may be an interesting relationship, my friend, and I am greatly encouraging of you.
AXEL: Would you think that this individual is one that would be, let's say, well, beneficial — sure everything is beneficial that I draw to myself, and I've certainly drawn this to myself — but kind of, in very common words, a good match, so to speak?
ELIAS: I would. (Laughs) But you already knew that.
AXEL: Yeah. Thanks for saying it anyway.
ELIAS: I offer you great supportiveness and encouragement, my friend.
AXEL: I'm almost speechless now. I thought I had so much to say but I don't even know what to say (both laugh).
ELIAS: I would be encouraging of you to be focusing your attention upon your new adventure.
AXEL: Oh, yes? (Both laugh) Let me tell you a little story. It was just, I think, two weeks ago, when in the middle of the night I saw a shooting star in the sky. And I made a wish. And the wish was: I want to have an adventure that excites me, that is maybe somewhat dramatic, but not overly, but an exciting adventure that I experience with fun, and that I enjoy.
ELIAS: And you have granted your own wish. (Both laugh)
AXEL: I didn't think of this in specific. I'm not sure if I even thought about this. Maybe I did, I don't know.
ELIAS: But it matters not, for that was your wish, that was the energy that you projected, and whether you wish upon a star, or you are thinking of your leprechaun, the energy is the same. And in that, your leprechaun has granted your wish.
AXEL: Yes.
ELIAS: (Laughs) And I express to you, again, congratulations.
AXEL: Thank you. So I presume that despite of many and strong, partially strong, reservations that my friend has, she has also drawn herself into this… has been drawn into this situation because she, more than the concerns that she has, she has a desire to actualize—
ELIAS: Yes.
AXEL: —certain dreams.
ELIAS: Yes. And I will express to you, and you can convey this from myself to her also, that it is important for each of you to remember that you are each very deserving of what you are creating.
AXEL: Uh-huh, that's a nice message.
ELIAS: Therefore, despite reservations or doubts or confusions, if you can remember that you are DESERVING of this adventure and fun and happiness, you will allow yourself to have it.
AXEL: That's really a nice statement. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend.
AXEL: When you say I can convey this to her FROM you, well I'm not sure how aware she is of you. I have sent to her, if I'm not wrong, both of the soft sessions that we did, but she never actually… She never really responded.
ELIAS: It matters not. When I express, convey this from myself, it is not necessary for you to express that ELIAS expressed this.
AXEL: Okay. Got it.
ELIAS: (Laughs) My energy will be present regardless.
AXEL: Well, I'm your spokesman. I'll be your spokesman, then.
ELIAS: Very well. I will express to you, my friend, there is a tumultuous energy occurring presently, and in that I shall bid you adieu and allow Michael to return, if you allow.
AXEL: Yeah, sure.
ELIAS: Very well.
AXEL: That's fine.
ELIAS: In dear friendship and in great encouragement to you, my dear friend. I shall be with you, in your adventure.
AXEL: Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: To you, in great lovingness, au revoir.
AXEL: Au revoir.
(Elias departs after 26 minutes)
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