The Illusion of Feeling Not Safe
Topics:
“The Illusion of Feeling Not Safe”
“Using Your Awareness More Effectively Than You Do Now”
“Catch Yourself”
“When a Feeling Is Not Reactive”
“Stress Trumps Everything”
“It’s More Possible Because You Look for Magic”
Thursday, October 6, 2022 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Ann (Vivette)
ELIAS: Good morning!
ANN: Good morning, Elias.
ELIAS: (Chuckles) And how shall we begin, my friend?
ANN: Well, I had a lot of different odds and ends questions, and then I had this one get-to-the-point question that I was going to save until the last. I went, “Why the hell am I going to save it to the last? This is really the essence of everything, so just cut to the chase.”
ELIAS: (Chuckles) Very well.
ANN: So before, just for fun, I pulled a card out of my little fairy deck, just to see what direction I should take this conversation with you in today. And it’s kind of to my surprise that “Feel Safe” card, safety card, came out. I was like, “All right. No accidents.” So I’m adding that to my statement, that really what I want now, I want to feel safe and I want to know my power. I want to know my power. I want to understand my power, how I am creating. I want to understand how I am creating my whole world, everything. And my question for you is, is there anything that you can add or remind me of, that you think at this moment in time would be helpful for me to really – you know, obviously I understand it conceptually – but really dig it in and know it? Know that I’m safe. Know that I am creating. Understanding it. Understanding my power. (Pause)
ELIAS: What I would say to you, my friend, is feeling not safe is actually an illusion.
Now; in that, I am aware that most individuals would argue with me on that point, and would cite different situations that would reinforce that idea of not being safe. But in actuality, you are speaking about wanting to know that you’re safe and also wanting to know that you’re creating your reality, and they’re both interlinked. Because creating your reality IS what makes you safe.
Now; in that, that doesn’t mean that everything that you create is comfortable. But I would say that what is significant to both of those concepts, both of those subjects of creating your reality and being safe, have to do with trusting yourself. I know that seems to be an answer that is almost a non-answer, and that—
ANN: Well actually, let me, let me interject here because about trusting myself. Because you know obviously, hearing these concepts and thinking about them as I’m living my life, one thing, like I was just talking to Mary that I had a… like we have the… I had… we had this spell of quote-unquote “bad luck” or things going wrong. And… but some of the things going wrong that, you know, are uncomfortable obviously, in the back of mind is, “Oh my god! I… Okay. If I am creating my reality, which I am willing to admit, I am creating my reality, then in the back of my head goes, “Ah! I don’t have the ability to create it in a manner in which I want. I don’t know how to create it in a manner in which I want.” Which scares me, because it’s like, “Okay it’s me doing it. It’s me doing it, but obviously I don’t know how to do it properly.” That’s the thought that sneaks in.
ELIAS: And why do you think you don’t know how to do it properly? Because you’re not creating everything perfectly?
ANN: Yeah. Not necessarily perfectly, but because I make things… Like especially when there is this series of things that are… like almost I have to shake my head and go, “I can’t believe this is one after the other.” But then, just as I’m saying this, I did have this experience with John that I would have said I’m creating, it was very uncomfortable and it was very scary for me. But after it happened – and I was actually going to ask you about it, and I was toying with the idea – but I do think I really know. Like you said sometimes, you know, when we shift, we will create, we will still create things that we don’t like or uncomfortable things, but the difference will be you’ll know why you’re doing it. And I created this very uncomfortable thing and I thought… I knew why I did it. It felt like very clear that I… It just was a good reminder or kind of a wakeup call. John is under more stress than I realized and I want to be very supportive of him, and I don’t want to do anything to add to that stress. And it refocused how I really want my relationship with him to be.
And so, the reason I bring this up is it feels like maybe, for myself, okay, so maybe I was creating perfectly. Because maybe that’s a scenario that… It felt like it like shocked me. It’s kind of like if someone’s in hysterics and someone comes up and slaps them. Yeah, you don’t want to be slapped, but sometimes that shakes it, shakes it out of them. So maybe… I’m just saying this to myself. Maybe in this creating an extremely uncomfortable or frightening situation, actually it was very beneficial. So I see that.
ELIAS: Very well.
Now; what I would say is, also the point is being more aware.
Now; you’re definitely much more aware now than you were a year ago, and you are tremendously more aware now than you were five years ago. In that, I would say that can you become still much more self-aware? Of course you can. But I would also say that the awareness that you have now is enough that you can actually use that more effectively than you do.
ANN: Oh! Well, that’s good.
ELIAS: The first part is what I have been expressing to all of you over and over and over again, is to remember not to follow feelings.
ANN: Yeah. (Laughs) It’s been a theme.
ELIAS: But to acknowledge your feeling and then question yourself. What am I doing in this moment that is creating that feeling? That feeling is alerting me to something I’m not entirely aware of, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be aware of it. All I have to do is pause, and look at what I’m doing. I simply need to move my attention from the feeling to what is it that I’m doing.
This is such an important piece, my friend. And this is one of the biggest pieces that will allow you to use your awareness more effectively and more efficiently, which ultimately will also allow you to feel safe and will reinforce to you that you are creating your reality. Because YOU are the one directing it.
The reason that you have these experiences, the reason that you have these questions, is because you’re not using the awareness that you have to its fullest potential. You’re slipping into what is familiar, which is being reactive and following feelings.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: In that, it is something that is so tremendously important and so integral to how you intentionally create your reality, that’s the reason that I continue to express about this subject over and over and over again. And I am aware that most individuals are most definitely sick of listening to me express that. (Ann laughs) But the factor remains that they’re still doing it.
ANN: Well, yeah, it’s—
ELIAS: And in that, I would say that what is significant is that when something happens, generally when someone or something is creating something that you don’t expect and that is bothersome to you or that frightens you, that’s when you STOP paying attention to what you’re doing and when you STOP directing yourself and when you START moving in the direction of following feelings.
ANN: Mm. You know, if—
ELIAS: When it’s only you and you are creating something, you might question yourself but many times you will give yourself an answer at this point, because you ARE more self-aware and therefore when it’s only you that is creating something – even when you create something that perhaps surprises you, that was unexpected – even in that type of scenario, you will at some point stop and look at the situation and evaluate what you’re doing and what you’re creating. And in that, not necessarily asking yourself the question, “Why did I do this?” but rather “What am I doing?” Because that question, “Why did I do this?” is a question that you generally don’t answer.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: But in this, what I would say is, what generally will throw you off, so to speak, is when other people create in directions that you don’t expect and that are scary to you.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: But in that, once again, it’s a matter of recognizing that even when someone else is creating something that is scary to you, it’s simply a matter of pausing and asking yourself, “Why is this scary to me? What am I reacting to?” And in that, rather than moving in the direction of following the feeling, which then leads you in the direction of loop thinking and moving in expressions of exacerbating the feeling and thinking in directions that are usually illogical and are simply feeling-based thinking. Therefore, you’re not giving yourself any new information and you’re not evaluating properly whatever the situation is, because you’re not actually listening to yourself.
In this, what I would say is you do have enough information at this point and enough self-awareness at this point to know if you aren’t moving in a direction of following feelings or being reactive, what precisely to do. You do know. It’s simply a matter of implementing that.
And I know that simple doesn’t necessarily mean easy, because—
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: (Inaudible) is to actually stop and remember to—
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: — question yourself. And that is challenging when the automatic is to react. But in this also, let me say to you, as I have expressed pastly, that even if you react, even if you don’t pause immediately, it doesn’t matter. If you pause eventually and allow yourself to evaluate what is it that you’re doing, the more you do that, the more you will do it more quickly the next time.
ANN: Yeah. Yeah. Sometimes it’s kind of like when I… Sometimes I’ll just be, like in my awake state during the day, whatever, and I’ll have a thought and then I’ll maybe want to pursue that thought. And it’s like a minute later, I forgot what the thought was and I can’t like get it back. Or it’s kind of like a dream. You wake up and you want to remember the dream and you can’t. And that also is a feeling of powerlessness a little bit, that… Like it almost feels like my thought – and I know this is giving my power away, but I think, you know, it’s a step in stopping it, maybe expressing this – but it almost, it’s like, you know, you’re in the stream and those thoughts are going by and they like drag you away from this other thought that you were at. And then when you get dragged away by this thought, you forget that you wanted to pay attention or you wanted to ask yourself that question. And it’s like if I don’t remember…
But I hear what you’re saying and I agree. Obviously the more I do it, the more I will remember. But that’s also that feeling of powerlessness, of not remembering (laughs) things. Like sometimes, I know things and I’ve got this all figured out, and then other times I don’t even know what that information is. That information is not accessible to me.
ELIAS: I understand.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: And in that, it’s a matter of continuing to catch yourself. Even if you catch yourself days later—
ANN: Yeah Yeah. And I will eventually.
ELIAS: Even if you eventually give yourself information, if you can also stop and acknowledge to yourself, “Ah! That was me following a feeling.”
ANN: Yeah. Okay.
ELIAS: It’s not only a matter of giving yourself information about what has happened or what you did or what another individual did or how this situation was a benefit to you. I understand all of those thought processes. But what is also tremendously important is for you to pause and acknowledge: “But what I know that I did was react and follow a feeling.” Because the more you do that, the more you are making an association. When you actually express that to yourself, you’re making an association that your physical brain will remember, even if you don’t remember in a thought process. But your physical brain will remember and it will send different signals to your nervous system. And what that means is, when I say you’ll remember more quickly, I will express to you that that’s part of it.
ANN: Yeah. Okay.
ELIAS: That your body will be moving with you to remind you.
ANN: And when I say, when I stop and ask, “What am I doing in this moment that is causing this feeling?” just the awareness that I’m following, sometimes I feel like if I don’t have the answer to that question, just the awareness that I know I’m following a feeling is probably enough, at least for that moment. Right?
ELIAS: Yes. But you may not be following a feeling if you are asking that question, because following the feeling is—
ANN: Oh yeah, yeah. Yeah.
ELIAS: — not asking that question.
ANN: Okay. So—
ELIAS: And in that, it’s a matter of reacting. But let me say to you that you may not be moving in that direction if you stop and you ask yourself, “What am I doing in this moment?” Even if you don’t give yourself a definite answer, even if you can’t decipher what you’re doing in that moment, other than being reactive, that’s enough.
ANN: Okay. That’s good. Because like if you… I was going to ask myself, “What was I doing in that moment?” I mean obviously I knew I was being reactive, but I don’t know if I could have necessarily answered that question.
ELIAS: That’s enough.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: If you can stop and see that you’re being reactive, that’s enough. Because that’s the first piece of following a feeling.
ANN: And let me ask you this. Is the feeling of fear always reactive?
ELIAS: No.
ANN: So obviously like if a lion is chasing me and I start running… Oh, it’s not always reactive. Interesting. Really?
ELIAS: No.
ANN: Is it not reactive when it’s a signal that is causing something that I need to do in the moment?
ELIAS: Correct.
ANN: Okay. But if there’s nothing—
ELIAS: Sometimes, sometimes, you might be alerting yourself to danger.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: And in that, you might be prompted in a particular action and that’s not actually a reaction. It’s a response to danger and moving in a direction to ensure your safety.
ANN: Yeah. So, well, I would have said in that situation with John, that was… It felt like danger. It felt like a big threat. (Pause)
ELIAS: Now; this is a difference.
ANN: Okay.
ELIAS: Because danger is your body alerting you that something is imminently about to harm you.
ANN: Yeah. Okay.
ELIAS: A threat isn’t necessarily the same.
ANN: Right.
ELIAS: You can be threatened in many, many, many different expressions and that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in an imminent situation in which you are about to be harmed.
ANN: Yeah. I kind of know the difference. Yeah. I get that. Practicing, practicing, practicing. I feel kind of a little, obviously still a little fuzzy on this following feelings thing. (Elias chuckles) I mean I think I understand it on some level, but I also feel fuzzy. So it’s just a matter of practicing. (Elias chuckles) Okay. All right.
Now, my other… I don’t even know if I have questions about this, but it would be interesting to just to talk it, or just to express it to you, just to see what you have to say about it. So you know I have stopped working now for over a year, and sometimes it doesn’t feel like really big, but especially when we have money issues come up, which have come up recently, a little bit of guilt will come in. I’m like, “Oh you know, maybe I should try to get a job and get some money coming in.” And I’ll play around with, like things I could do to generate money, in my head, a little bit. And some ideas, I have some kind of fun a little bit, and then just know that I’d never really go there too far, or don’t even take many steps towards them.
I don’t feel bad about it per se because I am so enjoying (laughs) not working, I cannot even tell you. And going with what I… And one of the things I really love about it, like I know you’re talking about structure, and self-structuring and everything, and maybe I’m under an illusion with this, but I almost like the fact of not self-structuring. I have a little bit of structure but not much, because I in my head have this belief that I just like to go with the flow of myself in that moment. And I also have this belief like when I have the impulse or the inspiration to start doing this or start doing that… An example would be let’s say the house is a mess, and if I don’t feel like cleaning it and I try to clean it, it just doesn’t even seem to get clean or organized. But if I just feel like I want to organize or I want to do this, and then boom-boom-boom, all this stuff gets done. So I have this belief that if I follow my inspirations and my impulses, that you know, my life just works better. And I have the other belief that if I were going to introduce a job or a career or something that I had to quote-unquote “dedicate a certain amount of time to,” that that would stop my flow, or that would impede upon my flow. And then I’m also thinking you know, why do I need a job? Why can’t I just live my life without having to earn money? I mean obviously the fact that we live in a world right now that… (Pause)
Oh that was weird. Okay, so obviously we live in a world right now that we’re utilizing money and that’s kind of part of our blueprint. Anyhow, I have all these thoughts, but I am very much enjoying not working. (Both laugh) I had to say it! I had to say it! I have to say it. It’s just divine. (Elias laughs) Mm.
ELIAS: (Inaudible) word. (Chuckles)
ANN: (Laughs) Right. But I am working. I mean I am doing a lot, but I guess I should rephrase that because I AM doing a lot, but it’s just not necessarily generating money in the old-fashioned way.
ELIAS: Ah! But—
ANN: But in a weird sort of way, it does generate money, I think, but not in a way I could trace. You know? It generates money in a way of energetically kind of. I mean… I don’t know what I’m trying to say here. (Elias laughs) But… I don’t know. You say it. You talk. You talk. You talk. (Both laugh)
ELIAS: I would say it’s not necessary for you to justify.
ANN: Okay.
ELIAS: It doesn’t matter. And in that, you don’t have to justify yourself by attempting to find some manner in which you are generating money directly or indirectly. It doesn’t matter. Why do you have to justify yourself? You don’t. You don’t have to move in a direction of justifying yourself in relation to working or making money. I would say that you made a choice to stop working and you’re happy with that choice.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: What else is important?
ANN: (Laughs) Good point. Yeah.
ELIAS: I would say that that is quite enough.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: Stop thinking to make it not enough.
ANN: Yeah. Okay. All right. (Elias laughs) But the only… And I think I can do that, except the little hiccup – it’s not much of a hiccup because he’s so good – would be, and I know this is taking responsibility for somebody else’s feelings, but like I wonder if like… if I were contributing, then maybe John wouldn’t feel under so much stress. Which I think… Yeah.
ELIAS: And I would disagree with you. I would say, look at the situation realistically. Was he never expressing any stress before this past year?
ANN: He was, but I’m wondering if it has intensified, because he keeps saying, you know, “I don’t know if we’re going to, how we’re going to have enough money to retire. I don’t know how we’re going to be able to live.” You know, he keeps saying that and he didn’t used to say that, but he’s saying that more and more.
ELIAS: And I would express to you that perhaps you might remind him that the more he keeps moving in that direction, the more likely he is going to be to create more difficulty.
ANN: Ah, yeah, that’s a good reminder.
ELIAS: In that, I would say that it’s important that he be moving in a direction of not incorporating stress, and reminding himself that the more stressed he becomes and the more stress he expresses, the more he is moving in a direction of eventually creating some physical manifestation with the body. Because that’s what happens.
ANN: Is he close to that now?
ELIAS: (Pause) Close enough. Close enough that I would be cautioning him.
ANN: Okay. And just focusing and directing himself in ways to alleviate stress will be sufficient?
ELIAS: Yes. I would definitely be advocating looking at how much he works and looking at that more realistically. Is it absolutely necessary? No, it’s not. It’s him pushing. And in that, it’s important to stop doing that.
ANN: Okay. (Pause)
ELIAS: This is one of those situations, my friend, that I would express in which health is not the priority, but perhaps it should be. And what I would say to that is that it should be now, rather than generating some physical manifestation to scare himself, and then motivate him to move in a direction in which he stops pushing.
ANN: So I think if you asked him, he would say health is a priority. And how he prioritizes that is he takes all his vitamins and he’s started exercising. Which is all good and fine, but none of that does what he needs to do, as long as that stress factor is there. Right?
ELIAS: Correct.
ANN: Right.
ELIAS: Correct. And I would say that it doesn’t matter. You can be, in your terms, “doing all the right things,” so to speak, in relation to food and exercise and yes, vitamins, supplements, and if you are pushing and expressing stress, it doesn’t matter.
ANN: Yeah.
ELIAS: Because stress trumps everything.
ANN: Mm.
ELIAS: In that, let me say to you that there are two systems in your body that affect everything in your body, everything, literally, and that would be your circulatory system and your nervous system. And stress is an expression of your nervous system, and therefore it affects every aspect of your body. Everything. Even your teeth.
ANN: Wow.
ELIAS: Therefore in that, it’s ultimately important to look at that and address to that, and to recognize that when you move in directions of expressing constant stress – and don’t be fooled, I am expressing that directly to him – in the idea that you’re not always working or you’re not always expressing that stress. Don’t fool yourself. It’s become so automatic and so familiar that you don’t even recognize when you’re doing it, AND it’s one of those situations in which it’s so familiar that you wouldn’t recognize it until it’s not there.
ANN: Mm. So could he continue with this same job, but just approaching it in a different manner to alleviate stress?
ELIAS: Definitely.
ANN: Or is this job just something he should let go of? What did you say?
ELIAS: No. I would say most definitely, could he move in a direction of simply altering? Most definitely. Absolutely. And what I would say is, the first piece would be to begin engaging a daily meditation. I would express doing a meditation every morning. Even if he can only maintain ten minutes for a meditation, that is enough. And I would say that in addition to that, it’s a matter of beginning to be aware. Just as we were discussing about following feelings and not being aware of what you’re doing, but that you have enough awareness to BE moving in a direction of being aware. It’s merely a matter of whether you are using it or not.
In this (sighs), he becomes so caught up in what he’s focused on that the rest of the world disappears. He’s so intensely focused on what he’s doing that that’s all the fills his objective awareness.
Now; how can you break that? Because it would be very, very difficult for him to simply interrupt that himself. But you live in a time in which you have many devices and in that, those devices have many, many, many functions. I would say, use one or more of those devices to set reminders, to remind you if needs be every fifteen minutes, to break that concentration. And then to simply do a very quick breathing exercise, to generate that breathing exercise of breathing in energy into your heart energy center and then to breathe out all of the energy of stress and moving in the direction of all energy of thinking. Emptying the body of stress and thinking.
In that, he won’t forget what he’s doing, but he can be more aware of how he’s doing it and he can be more aware of his body. That I would definitely suggest that that reminder be set for every fifteen minutes. And I would say not to be aggravated by that, but rather to be encouraged by it. That that is simply a moment in which he pauses and lets go of all of that tension in his body. And then he can begin again.
And then after fifteen minutes, he’ll notice that that energy, that stress accumulates in that short amount of time. That even after he has engaged that breathing exercise and letting go of the stress fifteen minutes prior, that within that amount of time, he will already have accumulated it all again.
Therefore, this will be an excellent exercise to show him how important this is and how automatic it is that he moves in those directions.
ANN: All right. Wow. Good stuff, Elias.
ELIAS: And I would say that the meditation in the morning is also very important. What I would express in relation to that is to set the intention that he be centered throughout the day, and that he will be successful in reminding himself about the tension and the stress, and that he will successfully abate it. (Pause)
ANN: Okay. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome.
ANN: Wow. That is very important.
ELIAS: Remind him for me that I express to him exceptional love, and therefore am acknowledging to him what is important to him. (Pause)
ANN: Okay. Okay. (Sighs) All right. Thank you.
ELIAS: You are welcome.
ANN: Thank you. Thank you. (Pause) (Sighs) Interesting times, we’re living in, Elias. Interesting times.
ELIAS: (Chuckles) I would very (inaudible)
ANN: Hm. I was going to kind of talk about magic or… It seems like lately in some sessions, and it may just be because you’re talking to other people, that instead of pursuing not only magic – because I know some people aren’t interested in magic – but infinite possibilities, and how you know, we can create whatever we want, that it seems in some things I’ve been hearing, you’ve been going in more of a direction of quote-unquote “a reality check” or like… And even in the one group session, when people talked about creating, you know, becoming young and the fountain of youth, and you’re like, you know, reality check. You can look good or whatever but you’re not going to go back to your twenty-five-year-old self or whatever.
And you know, that all is understandable. And that’s fine, it doesn’t really bother me, other than like a curiosity. Because one thing that really drew me to all of this material, whether it be Seth or Abraham or you, just was the possibilities of everything, and how everything was possible. Anything was possible and everything is magical.
And it just… I have this sense of like being lassoed and kind of brought back to earth, so to speak. And I don’t necessarily feel like it’s inhibiting myself, because I am at a place where I want to believe what I want to believe, and if I don’t believe it yet I don’t feel discouraged about moving into those directions and pursuing them. But has there been some kind of a change? I don’t know, in this shift or in something that… or even in myself? Because obviously if I’m aware of it, that it’s more of a reality check going on, that now we’re not going to be able to maybe do the impossible. You’ve got to, you’ve got to—
ELIAS: Ah, but you, but you can. And I would say that for an individual such as yourself, it’s perhaps more possible for you than for some individuals, because you look for magic.
ANN: Yeah. Ah.
ELIAS: Because it’s so important to you and it’s so much a part of your life that you look for it. And in that, it’s not that you’re simply moving in a direction of wishful thinking. There’s a difference between knowing that anything is possible and then looking for that magic in everything, which is what you do, and an individual that is not looking for magic in everything but is simply wishful thinking—
ANN: Ah. Okay. Got ya.
ELIAS: — who doesn’t actually want to DO anything. And this is a significant difference also, is that there are some people that are wishful thinking, and in that, they don’t want to implement any actions. They don’t want to do anything. They want magic to simply appear. That that’s part of their definition of magic, is that it should simply appear from nowhere and from nothing. Therefore, they aren’t actually doing anything that is magical.
[The timer for the end of the session rings]
ANN: Mm-hm. I think I get that. Okay. That’s….
This has been an excellent session, Elias. I’ve really enjoyed this, and as always, I am so appreciative that you are in my objective reality. (Both laugh) And I just… I just love you so much. Thank you.
ELIAS: And I express unending love to you, my friend. I express tremendous friendship and dear affection, as always. I shall be expressing my love and my energy to you continuously. And express to your partner that that extends to him also.
ANN: I will. He will be listening to this session. (Both laugh)
ELIAS: Very well. I express tremendous love to you. Until our next meeting, au revoir.
ANN: Au revoir.
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