Being Who You Naturally Are
Topics:
“Fingernail Heath”
“Mouth Breathing While Sleeping”
“Being Who You Naturally Are”
“Beneficial Consistency”
“Dollar in a Container Exercise”
“You Choose What You Feel”
Tuesday, May 3, 2022 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Jonathan (Sobini)
ELIAS: Good morning!
JONATHAN: Good morning, Elias.
ELIAS: And how shall we begin?
JONATHAN: I’d like to first ask, Elias, a health-related question. It has to do with my fingernails, that they peel on the ends of them. And I was wondering, is this a zinc deficiency? Or is there something else going on there that you could share with me?
ELIAS: (Pause) Zinc and Vitamin E.
JONATHAN: E. Oh, interesting.
ELIAS: And Vitamin E.
JONATHAN: E, yeah. So Vitamin E, that’s like… like avocado would be a good source?
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: And that’s found in seeds, right? A lot of seeds?
ELIAS: I would not suggest seeds for you, not with your digestive system.
JONATHAN: Okay. Maybe a supplement then?
ELIAS: Repeat.
JONATHAN: Maybe a supplement then would be a good option, Elias? A Vitamin E supplement?
ELIAS: I would say that that would be an avenue that would be helpful, yes.
JONATHAN: Oh, okay. Okay. Yeah, I was… I mean I have a little bit of zinc, and then I read that it can interfere with copper if you have too much, so I was trying to figure out a good amount there. But I can increase that, right, with no problem?
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: Okay. Okay. And that perhaps could be also related to my hair loss, right? Because the nails and hair are related?
ELIAS: (Pause) Somewhat, but not entirely.
JONATHAN: Okay. Okay. Well, that’s acceptable. Thank you, Elias. Another question has to do with mouth breathing. So when I fall asleep at night, my mouth is open. And I’ve played around a little bit with taping my mouth shut. I can’t say it’s the most enjoyable experience, but it’s something I would do if it was very beneficial. What are your thoughts on that? Would that be quite beneficial, to tape my mouth shut while I’m sleeping?
ELIAS: No.
JONATHAN: No. Okay.
ELIAS: And what position do you usually lie in?
JONATHAN: Ah, my stomach, and just because I have a difficult time falling asleep in any other position.
ELIAS: I would say that if you could, in a manner of speaking, train yourself to sleep on your side, that would be very helpful. And in that, what you can do is, you can incorporate pillows on the side of you and in that, lay on your side and placing pillows in positions that prevent you from rolling onto your stomach.
The reason that you breathe with your mouth open when you are sleeping on your stomach is because when you’re sleeping on your stomach, it puts your head at an awkward angle. It is not actually supportive of your head, because your head is pressed against a pillow or against the bed in a manner that creates pressure. Pillows are a design to raise your head to the level of your neck.
JONATHAN: Yeah.
ELIAS: But if you are using a pillow sleeping on your stomach, it puts your head at an unnatural angle. And what that does is, it actually creates pressure with your face, and that creates pressure in relation to your nasal passages and it generally is more likely to close your nasal passage or make it more difficult to breathe through your nose. Therefore, you automatically breathe through your mouth.
JONATHAN: Right. Yeah, I can understand this for sure. I see how the alignment’s thrown off. Yeah. Okay. Thanks, Elias.
ELIAS: Also, something that I would say would be very beneficial to you, to train yourself to be sleeping on your side anyway, because it is generating an unnatural position for your head which throws off the balance of your body. And that actually then translates when you awaken. You alter your posture.
JONATHAN: Right. I feel that in my back. Right?
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: Yeah. Yeah, I’ve tried to adapt with pillows under my pelvic region and things like that, but I think… I think I will put a little more effort into really trying to retrain, sleep on my side. I can position a pillow under my shoulder, for example, so I don’t turn.
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: Yeah.
ELIAS: And you can place pillows behind you, and therefore that will prevent you from rolling backward, which then influences you to flip.
JONATHAN: Okay. Okay. A question here about the howler monkey, Elias. One of the interesting things about that land animal that makes it so unique is, I was reading it’s like one of the loudest land animals, if not the loudest, and I was trying to… I was thinking about a comparison with myself, and you know I’m not really a loud person. (The line beeps) Hello?
[Connection is disrupted and is re-established]
ELIAS: Continuing.
JONATHAN: Okay, Elias. I’m not sure how much you heard there. I was talking about the howler monkey.
ELIAS: Yes, and expressing that they’re very loud and that you are not very loud. That’s not the point. I would say that it’s not a matter of making that comparison about volume, but rather in that, why is this monkey so loud?
JONATHAN: Um… The monkey’s loud, well, you expressed there’s two reasons. One, he expresses loudly, it can be fearful, it can be a fearful energy, and it can also be… I’m trying to remember the other aspect. Was it like a mating thing, Elias?
ELIAS: No. It is expressing its presence and its (pause) territory, in a manner of speaking.
JONATHAN: Okay. Right.
ELIAS: Therefore, what it’s doing is it’s establishing itself. And I would say that in both those regards, it does actually relate to you, and in that, giving you that awareness of your responses when you are uncomfortable or when you are afraid being somewhat extreme, and then also expressing that encouragement to you, to be confidently expressing yourself. It doesn’t mean it has to be loud, but it’s definite. And that when you are expressing yourself and you are being confident in that, it’s unmistakable.
JONATHAN: Okay. Well, that leads me into a question I had, which I didn’t realize that there was confusion regarding this question until after our last session. But you were talking about how important it is to just be me. And I was wondering if you could expand on that, Elias? What that means, to just be you.
ELIAS: And what is YOUR assessment about what that means, to be you?
JONATHAN: Well, at this point I feel like I’m learning more and more who I’m not. (Laughs)
ELIAS: Which is a significant piece.
JONATHAN: Okay.
ELIAS: Because in that, in learning who you’re not, then when you are expressing in certain manners, you are aware that’s not you.
JONATHAN: Right.
ELIAS: That’s not who you naturally are. Therefore, if you know what you are not, then you also to a degree know what you are.
JONATHAN: Okay. Yeah, when I think of expressing genuinely, I think of… I think of freedom. I think of like, just like a comfortable flow of… you know, what I’m kind of interested in. And it’s happening in the moment and there isn’t a lot of… I mean, I picture like a little toddler kind of expressing himself without really all the other crap. (Laughs) You know, not worried about taking responsibility for others, not worried about anything except for moving in the direction of what he’s interested in, curious about, and just allowing the energy to flow.
ELIAS: Correct. Correct. And in that, I would say that it’s not so difficult to discern who you are or what it is that you express. It is simply a matter of recognizing if you’re comfortable.
JONATHAN: Okay.
ELIAS: Or if you’re not. (Pause)
JONATHAN: Okay. Well, that really simplifies that. (Laughs)
ELIAS: Ah! THAT is the key, my friend, is simple. And the more that you move in the direction of simplifying, the clearer you will be.
JONATHAN: Okay. Okay.
ELIAS: I would say that’s also one of the points in relation to the exercise in clarity, because in that, you have five outer senses and when you are turning off one, you are simplifying. You are lessening the input.
JONATHAN: Right.
ELIAS: That’s only one aspect of the exercise in clarity, but it is one piece.
JONATHAN: Okay. I wanted to ask too about consistency, Elias. Like in one of our sessions you talked about how this would be a very beneficial thing for me. And at this point in my life, what aspect would you say in my life that could greatly benefit with more consistency?
ELIAS: Everything. I would say it’s a matter of being consistent with everything. And I would express that consistency is something that is significantly important for everyone. But in that, I would express that whatever it is that you want to do, whatever it is that you want to accomplish, whatever it is that you are practicing, consistency is the key. If you do something but you only do it occasionally, you won’t necessarily benefit from it.
JONATHAN: Right. Right. Yeah. So for example, I was telling Mary how I’m just starting to do the practice of “Who do you want to be today?”
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: And I found it to be extremely, extremely powerful and affecting. So that would be something to just continue, continue on every day, right? That’s a form of consistency.
ELIAS: Most definitely. Yes. And throughout the day, being consistent with it.
JONATHAN: Right. Right. Yeah, meditation’s another practice that… that I’ve never been consistent with.
ELIAS: And in that I would say to you, my friend, I advocate meditation with everyone. This is a practice that is tremendously beneficial. But yes, it’s also something that if you are not consistent with it, it won’t matter.
JONATHAN: Right. Okay. Yeah, I think I understand, Elias. And I mean, for me I’ve noticed that I’m more consistent when I do create a structure. You know for me, it’s creating lists and reminders and just something to look at to remind me. I find that’s really helpful.
ELIAS: And when you know these things about yourself, my friend, this is also an expression of simplifying. That when you know these things about yourself, then it is much easier to simply move in those directions rather than complicating and attempting to express in some different manner because someone else does something different and it’s successful for them. Therefore, you move in a direction of attempting to do something different. No. Move in the direction of what you know and what is natural for you.
JONATHAN: Okay. Yeah, that makes sense. I recently was listening to a session you had with Jason, and you gave him an exercise to do with money which I thought was really cool, in that every time he’s spending he would put a dollar in a sealed container.
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: I’m going to incorporate the exercise, but I mean, the statement you gave him just didn’t resonate with me. I was wondering if you would offer me a statement for when I put that money in my sealed container?
ELIAS: I would say for you, that each time you put the money in the container you express to yourself, “This is my action of appreciating me.”
JONATHAN: Yeah, I feel that, Elias.
ELIAS: Because in that, I would say that this is something that is more significant for you.
JONATHAN: Right.
ELIAS: If you are moving in the direction of appreciating yourself more, you will likely pay more attention to yourself and you will likely move in a direction of expressing yourself more.
JONATHAN: Yeah, that makes sense. Okay.
A while back I had chatted with you about my essence theme or intent. I don’t know the right word there, but you had talked about it is expressing without constraints and I was wondering if you could offer something a little more specific. Because in my mind, I was thinking really that’s… that’s… that could be applied to many, many people, expressing—
ELIAS: Not necessarily.
JONATHAN: Okay.
ELIAS: I would say I understand that you would think that, and I would say that it’s not necessarily a matter that this could be applicable to everyone. It’s that this is something that your essence, in a manner of speaking, focuses on in this reality. In this reality.
JONATHAN: Okay.
ELIAS: Therefore it may not be the theme in this lifetime, but it’s being expressed to some degree.
JONATHAN: Okay. (Pause) And so what would my theme be in this lifetime? That’s… this is your focus intent?
ELIAS: That would be your focus intent, and I would be encouraging you to be evaluating that for yourself first.
JONATHAN: Yeah. Okay. Okay. I could have some fun with that. (Laughs)
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: The other thing I wanted to talk about was… Like lately, between my wife and my dad, I find that they are, when they’re in a particular mood, that it’s very affecting of me. And I was talking to Mary about it and she was talking about just not being, not participating and not investing when they’re expressing in a particular way, and that can be really helpful with it not being so affecting of me. And I was wondering if you could offer any more insight into that, Elias?
ELIAS: I would say that that is definitely correct. I have spoken about this many times. And in that, it’s… It’s a matter of holding your attention on you. And what that means is you can be paying attention to the other individual, you can be genuinely listening to the other individual, but in that, you’re also recognizing that this is how THEY express themself. And to them, it may not necessarily be negative. They might not be thinking about what they’re expressing in terms of positive and negative. They’re simply expressing.
JONATHAN: Right.
ELIAS: And therefore in that, it’s for you a matter of reminding yourself of that and paying attention to you. Reminding yourself that you choose what you feel. Therefore, if you feel uncomfortable in relation to another individual’s behavior, then it’s a matter of evaluating what you’re doing that is uncomfortable. It’s not what they’re doing.
[The timer for the end of the session rings]
JONATHAN: Right. Right.
ELIAS: Now; in that, if it’s someone that you are intimately involved with, such as your partner or your father or family member, then it’s not necessarily a matter of choosing to not be participating with that individual. Although that IS (chuckles) a choice. But in that, it’s a matter of choosing what is the most effective and the most beneficial direction for YOU to move in, and to shift your attention with the other individual. Because in that, what are you paying attention to? You’re paying attention to how they are expressing.
JONATHAN: Right. Right. Rather than me.
ELIAS: And it’s bothersome to you. Therefore in that, you can pay attention to WHAT they are expressing and perhaps not necessarily HOW they are expressing. Therefore, if the other individual is expressing in a considerably negative capacity, you don’t have to be participating with the negativity. That’s YOUR choice, what you feel. The factor that another individual may be feeling angry or distressed or bothered or negative doesn’t mean you have to.
JONATHAN: Right.
ELIAS: And the factor that you love them doesn’t mean you have to feel the same thing they feel. And it doesn’t mean you have to do anything about it, to fix it. Therefore, you don’t have to be feeling the same thing that they feel, to be expressing that you love them. You don’t have to change or attempt to change what they feel, to be expressing that you love them. You can simply BE and you can choose what YOU want to choose, in relation to what you feel and what you allow to affect you.
JONATHAN: Yeah. I understand. So I’ll bring the attention back to me, and then I can choose how I want to feel.
ELIAS: Yes.
JONATHAN: And still… You know, still, still holding that space of love. Yeah.
ELIAS: Yes. And still be supportive.
JONATHAN: Yeah.
ELIAS: But you don’t have to feel what they feel.
JONATHAN: All right. Well, thank you Elias.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend. I shall be anticipating our next meeting and I shall be offering my energy to you in tremendous support and comfort.
Until our next meeting, in dear friendship and in tremendous love, as always, au revoir.
JONATHAN: Au revoir.
(Elias departs after 32 minutes)
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