Gratitude
Topics:
“Gratitude”
“Touch with Intention”
“How to Genuinely Be Supportive”
“Intentionally self-directing”
“Intentionally touching others”
Thursday, April 1, 2021
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Julie (Fontine)
ELIAS: Good morning!
JULIE: Good morning, Elias.
ELIAS: Ha ha ha, my friend, and what shall we discuss?
JULIE: Well, I guess… I WAS going to ask you about, like, how are we doing in the Shift and the state of the energy. Mary and I started talking, and she says that everybody that she talks to is very excited about a new project or direction in their life and she is too, and I am too, so I wanted to ask you about that. Are we in the fun wave?
ELIAS: (Laughs) I would say that many of you are creating very much in that direction, are you not? (Both laugh) I would say that in this actually, this might be the part of the science wave that is exciting—not in relation to what you may have originally thought, but in relation to perception and probabilities and being intentional and moving in the direction of, in a manner of speaking, almost creating your own science; [inaudible] that what you are doing is moving in an empowering direction and actually almost generating new facts that the absolutes that people look at in relation to science are not absolute at all, which is tremendously empowering. And in that, if you want to name this part of this science wave the fun wave, I would express ultimate power to you. (Both laugh)
JULIE: Okay. So we've been in this long process since January—I guess that's only three months, but preparing our house to sell, and I've been really trying to give attention to what's important each day in doing that, and doing things the way that I feel is important to do them. Other people might accomplish things different ways, but like scrubbing this piece of floor or cleaning out this cabinet, or putting in shelf paper, I'm just trying to think of myself doing things the way that I think they're important to do and then feeling the satisfaction and appreciation of the way that I'm accomplishing things. And, for the most part I noticed wow, I kind of feel happy! (Both laugh) I feel satisfied with all of these little mundane chores and things that it’s really not my way to be so detail oriented, but I feel that when we're handing our house off to someone else, I'd like for them to feel comfortable in it and I'd like to hand it off the way I'd like to receive a house, which is in good condition.
ELIAS: I would say, that is tremendous, my friend. That is very important, and likely, because you are taking the time and the attention to move in that direction, that you likely will hand it off quickly, because what you are doing is creating an invitation for someone else to take this house. And in creating that invitation you are making the house inviting. I would say that’s tremendous.
JULIE: Thank you. I do envision myself doing that, because I have so much love for this house and all of the experiences we've had, and Michael does too. So we've been thinking about all of that and really appreciating it, and he's made little notecards to share some of those things that we've appreciated in different rooms of the house. And we're just giving it away with a lot of love, and I feel like it will sell fast.
ELIAS: I agree.
JULIE: (Emotionally) Yeah.
So then our next big step will be finding a house in the San Antonio area. We... Now I've kind of lost my train of thought.
But we want to find a place… I guess I would like to be very intentional about that too—you know, finding a place where we can do all of the things that I'd like to happen in Texas. Like, one of my number one things is I'm determined to have more friends and community in my life. And they don't have to be around every day, but I'd like to have more people coming in and out of my life on a more consistent basis, and interesting interactions with people that are interesting to me. And then also, nature is a really big important piece of the serenity and calm, and hearing the birds and having some trees and maybe having a creek. We're going to buy some acreage, like maybe five to 20 acres, something like that, like whatever works out with the place that we find. So all of that, it kind of seems like an unknown, like how to go about finding this place. And I'm thinking well, you just go and you start looking and you follow your intuition.
ELIAS: Precisely.
JULIE: Yeah.
ELIAS: In that, it is simply a matter of genuinely paying attention to what you are doing. And in paying attention to what you are doing, being intentional, just as you are now in relation to preparing your house to be sold and handed to someone else, in how you are preparing it you are being intentional. And what I would say is, the more you do that, the more you actually move yourself in that direction of beginning to see that interconnectedness; therefore, beginning to see how what choices you make WILL actually lead you in the direction of community and friends and relationships—that this isn't simply a choice about a house, that ANY choice you make, no matter what it is, isn't simply a choice about that one subject. Every choice that you make is interconnected with every other choice that you make. And this is what I have been expressing to all of you for quite some time, but now you actually are moving into a position in which you can begin to see it and understand it and experience it.
What we have discussed for more than a quarter of a century has been the opposite of what we are, as we'll be discussing now, because in that, I have given all of you information about what you're doing from the perspective of hindsight. Even in relation to information that I have offered to you about reflections and mirrors, it all is based in what has already happened, because what you reflect to yourself and what you mirror to yourself is what happens after you've projected your energy outwardly; but because you can't see, or you aren't necessarily objectively aware of what that energy is, then it is a matter of giving you information about how you can begin to see what you're doing by seeing the reflections or seeing the mirrors of what your energy is. Now, we move in the opposite direction of not looking at your choices and what you are doing through hindsight but through foresight, which is not predicting; it is knowing what you are doing and choosing intentionally because you know what you are doing, and that you are aware of directing yourself. You are aware of you are the one that is directing and creating your reality by choosing, by moving in directions of choices—and you are choosing in every moment. Every moment that you exist is a choice. And every moment that you exist in that choice, it is interconnected with everything else, regardless of what the subject is.
What you have been aware of to this point, what you have looked at to this point and having engaged is what we have discussed about compartmentalizing. In that, you see your choices based on subjects. Therefore, you have the subject of selling your house, and you see the actions that you are engaging in relation to doing that and preparing to do that, and then also seeing the subjects that are related to that such as what you will be doing in the next week or in the next few weeks or in the next month. And in that, you see the element of planning in relation to this subject. But all of the things that you are looking at have to do with this subject and are connected to this subject. And you will notice other pieces in which you might notice what someone else is doing that is similar to yourself, you will notice imagery that is also connected to this subject, and this is what you see in relation to that subject of interconnectedness, but you are seeing it through that lens of compartmentalizing.
What you are about to move into now is dropping that compartmentalizing and being able to see the interconnectedness not only of one subject but of many subjects, that they are all connected. It doesn't matter what they are; they're all connected, and in that, how one subject that seems entirely different from another subject is actually connected, and that you can see those connections. And because you can see those connections, it gives you more information, and therefore you have more of an ability to make choices that are even more to your benefit. THAT is exciting, because that is ultimately empowering and gives you ultimate freedom.
JULIE: It IS exciting.
ELIAS: In that, you can begin now in beginning to pay attention, remembering that this is the single most important piece, is how you are paying attention and what you are paying attention to. And in that, the more you pay attention to everything you are doing, that shelf paper may be very interconnected with how you engage a new relationship and friendship with someone in the new location of the new house.
JULIE: And I'll be able to see that?
ELIAS: Yes, yes, and that is the most amazing piece, that yes, you WILL be able to see it; yes, you WILL know; and you will, beyond being able to see it, be able to actually make choices in relation to that. That BECAUSE you can see more of that interconnectedness, it gives you more ability to actually see what your choices are and how you can engage them, and it increases your confidence because you begin to recognize how much power you actually have—which is, I would say, considerably astounding.
JULIE: Hm. So I've been trying—or, I've been wanting to see my interconnectedness of choices and how everything I do relates to everything else in my life and the world. And I have two examples that I'll just run by you, because that's like, I don't see all of the exact effects of my choices, but I do see things that to me are wonderful that are happening, and I have this feeling like it's related. I know it is, and...
So one example is, a friend came to visit recently. She had been estranged from her oldest son for about maybe a year and a half or two years. He wouldn't speak to her and he was angry, and she's cried a lot about it and didn't exactly understand why or how to make things right again between them. And so her son, she found out he's living in Colorado, so I said, “Well, you know, maybe if he's open we could go for a visit and see him.” Before that even transpired, it happened that he gave her a call the week before she was planning to come out here. She hadn't talked to him. And he was friendly, and he actually was open to getting together. So then when she came, we got together almost every single day and had some really nice interactions, like there was no problem, no rift between them. And I thought that it was significant that it happened when she came to see me; I felt like I was a part of that—
ELIAS: I would definitely agree. I would say that that was definitely instrumental, because in that, you were, in a manner of speaking, a type of focal point to allow this interaction and to allow this connection with these individuals. I would say that you providing not a neutral energy, but a compassionate and a loving energy, genuinely encouraged both these individuals to be open to each other—and not only open to each other; that is not entirely accurate. I would say more so encouraged to be grateful and to see what there is to appreciate.
JULIE: Hm.
ELIAS: And this is very significant, because this is something that people, in a manner of speaking, lose sight of frequently. They lose sight of it by having conflicts, they lose sight of it by being complacent, they lose sight of it in many different manners. But once they lose sight of it, it can be considerably challenging to regain that appreciation and that gratitude. And let me express to you that gratitude is something that is tremendously important and that so many people actually forget about and don't express. And it is tremendously important, because this is what actually in many capacities allows people to genuinely actually express that appreciation, that they are not taking for granted what is but that they actually are grateful for what they have.
I would say that this is a piece that I would encourage with everyone, to be actually realizing that gratitude in their lives. What are you grateful for? What is genuinely important? I would say, very much in the capacity of what you were expressing in relation to your house and being intentional in relation to the mundane actions that are important to you. And in that, the reason those mundane actions are important to you is that you are grateful to this house, or grateful to yourself for having this house for the length of time that you have and the experiences that you have had there, and the connections that you have made there. And in that, that has offered you value, and this is what gratitude is about: it is about the expression of value, what is genuinely valuable to you.
JULIE: Yes. So within interconnectedness, that’s how I rippled.
ELIAS: Most definitely! (Pause)
JULIE: Okay.
ELIAS: I would say that it is a matter of thanking yourself in what you were contributing. It also is an example of what you touch.
So many of you so often don't acknowledge what you touch, and I would say that it is considerably important, because it is also being grateful to yourself in relation to what you do, and acknowledging what you do. And the more you do that, the more you trust yourself.
JULIE: Mm-hm. (Pause) Okay. Thank you. I really want to be able to see that more and more, because it's very fulfilling.
ELIAS: I agree.
JULIE: I can't think of anything more fulfilling than seeing how my intentionality touches others, touches my world.
ELIAS: And it does! In tremendous capacity, which is extraordinary.
JULIE: So the other example that's very deeply touched by this one: For a couple years I've been helping out this homeless man. He lives in the woods. He was walking 12 miles each way to get to his place with huge bags of dog food. It was actually the dogs was the reason I started helping him, because he's this really little guy and he's carrying 50-pound bags of dog food, and he told me his ribs were being crushed and his backbone—you know, he was really struggling, but he was taking care of his animals. So I started helping him by driving him, at first occasionally and then we just got into a routine of doing it twice a month, and I ended up spending like almost a full day taking him to do errands.
At first he didn't have an ID, he didn't have a way to get an ID, he didn't have a birth certificate, and so I reached out to someone who could maybe help us get those things. And then I ended up spending, you know, a good portion of time helping him get those things. And I was always checking in with myself: like, do I really want to be doing this? What am I getting out of this right now? Is this important to me? Like I was really trying to be self-directed with the whole thing—and not just about helping Joe be better, because I did learn that when I did it for that reason, did anything for that reason, that he would falter and he would get in a fight with a neighbor or he would do something else to sabotage himself. And so I was really trying to ripple out an energy of just being supportive, because that's what I'm learning to do, but also being self-directed and making choices. And so I've been really focusing on that. Sometimes I would be impatient with him, and I've been learning patience, like allowing somebody to be in their own flow and do things their own way and make choices their own way and kind of just keep my own opinions out of it with him, so that's something I learned with him.
But as it turned out, he's ended up getting his ID, then he got his driver's license, he got benefits of $1000 a month, which he wasn't getting. He was like totally destitute before; now he's getting $1000 a month. He's saving it up. He bought a motorbike. He's going to be buying a vehicle in the summer. Like, by the time we move I think he's gonna not need my help! (Emotionally) And I'm just so grateful for the whole interaction with him. He's actually a friend to me now. I like him. He has his issues, but I see the good in him and I actually appreciate him, and I'm just astounded by all that we've accomplished together. And I feel like a lot of it was me shifting my own attitudes and beliefs and discovering how to genuinely be supportive.
ELIAS: I very much agree with that, and I would express congratulations. That is tremendous. And this is an excellent example of, in a manner of speaking, moving out of your own way and moving in directions of shifting your perception and expressing genuine acceptance and being aware of your motivation. And actually, BECAUSE you are aware of your motivation, you actually see what occurs when your motivation is somewhat off, which you wouldn't necessarily see if you weren't paying attention—not that it wouldn't happen, but that you wouldn't necessarily be aware of it because you wouldn't be paying attention.
I would be exceptionally acknowledging you, my friend. This is a wondrous story, a wondrous experience. I would encourage you to share that experience with other individuals, and I would express to you, take this with you where you move. Because this is, in a manner of speaking, a new-found acceptance and ability that you have, and that is tremendous, my friend. This is also another example of how you touch and what happens when you touch. And I would say that this is what you have been presenting to yourself as your initial movement into recognizing that interconnectedness and your own self-awareness and what you are doing. I would say that this is tremendous. It is genuinely tremendous, my friend. I would be exceptionally acknowledging of you and encouraging of you to continue.
JULIE: Continue being a support to others?
ELIAS: Continue paying attention to how you touch, and allowing yourself to touch. That is exceptional.
I would say congratulations—not congratulations in what you did, but congratulations in what you've allowed yourself to see in how you touch. I would say that THAT is a considerable accomplishment. (Pause)
JULIE: Okay.
ELIAS: And in that, I would say that this is tremendously significant because many, many, many times this is all that someone else requires, is someone to support them, someone to move in a direction of being willing to be helpful. It doesn't mean you have to support them financially; it doesn't mean that you have to move in directions that are tremendously difficult for you. It ISN'T tremendously difficult, and the more you do it the easier it is. It is simply a matter of recognizing that this is a piece of that interconnectedness.
Now; what I would also say to you, which is tremendously valuable about these experiences in which you are showing yourself or giving yourself examples of what you touch is that this, I would say, my friend, is the first step in a circle. This is the first step in a circle in which you notice the interconnectedness in relation to things and people around you, outside of you. Then you begin to notice that flow, that interconnectedness that we began this conversation with in relation to all of your choices: what you are doing, and how you are doing, and how one subject flows into the next subject, how one moment flows into the next moment. And in that, what you are doing, and how you are doing, in each moment, in each day.
Then when you are significantly aware of how you are generating choices, and how you are flowing from one moment to the next and empowering yourself and being intentional, then you move back in the circle to the part about other people and everything else—meaning other beings, other situations, anything that is outside of you—and moving in a direction in which you can see the interconnectedness with all of that also but now from an even greater perspective, because you see it from the perspective of the interconnectedness of yourself and all your moments and what you are doing.
Because ultimately, as I have expressed to all of you repeatedly, that is the most important, is seeing yourself as the center and placing yourself in that primary position, and in doing so, then from that being able to see all of those interconnected actions and subjects and moments with other people and with other beings. And that is ultimately empowering, because then you are aware of all of your reality: everything you are doing, all of your choices, and everything that you intersect with. (Pause)
I would say congratulations.
JULIE: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, and very deserving.
JULIE: Okay. I want to ask you, you've been talking about childhood trauma with a lot of people. I'm wondering, do I have anything that's interfering with my ability to continue shifting and moving forward?
ELIAS: At this point, I would say that you are tremendously moving through your own associations and your influences. I would say that it is exceptional to listen to you share about your experience with this one individual, because that in itself, in addition to whatever you may gain from that in relation to how you have touched and what you have accomplished, an enormous accomplishment is moving in a direction of allowing yourself to have this experience and to move beyond associations that have been very strong with you about other individuals and their circumstances, their situations, who they are—not necessarily actually KNOWING who they are, but making your own evaluations and assumptions based on what you see and then generating a perception and a judgement about the individual in relation to that. And I would say to you that this experience with this man—because that is another piece—that I would say to you, my friend, that the factor that you allowed yourself to move in this direction with a male individual is significant. And that, I would say, has been an experience of breaking down your own barriers and opening you to a genuineness that has always been a part of you that in part has been pushed away.
I would say that your trust of male individuals—in certain circumstances, in certain capacities and in certain situations—has been not tremendous. (Chuckles)
JULIE: You mean like being alone with them, or...? I don't…
ELIAS: Partially, partially, but simply in general, that I would say that that you have incorporated have a stronger association and judgment with male individuals in certain situations than with female—meaning that with some male individuals in certain situations or in certain capacities you would automatically not necessarily trust. And I would say even with this individual, what drew you was the dog, was the subject of an animal, [at this moment one of Mary’s dogs begins barking in the background], was the subject of this individual engaging with an animal, which opened the door. Now this is an excellent example, to you, of that interconnectedness about you, what is important to you and what directions you will more likely move in, and how you might be willing to extend yourself. I would say to you that if you had met this individual two years prior to when you did, you would not have engaged him. You would not have helped. You would have noticed, but you wouldn't have trusted being able to help.
JULIE: That's true. I didn't trust that I was able to help anyone.
ELIAS: And not trusting that the other individual would allow you to help and not take from you.
JULIE: Right.
ELIAS: Not demand from you, not put you in a compromising position.
JULIE: True, uh-huh.
ELIAS: Therefore it was, in a manner of speaking, a double-edged sword: not trusting yourself but not trusting the other individual either.
JULIE: Yeah.
ELIAS: But moving in that direction, taking that step, that was an enormous step that you took; taking that step, having this experience, trusting yourself and learning how to trust the other individual also, that their intention isn't to simply take-take-take from you, that their intention isn't to hurt you, and that you can trust yourself to extend yourself and be balanced in it. That was impressive.
JULIE: Yeah, that's been a lot of hard work and paying attention. Because sometimes I did lose my balance, definitely, but for a lot of the time I was doing okay, pretty well.
ELIAS: I agree. I definitely agree. And I would say that that is tremendous. And with all of that, this is the point: pay attention to what you naturally do, what you're naturally drawn to, what you naturally pay attention to, what is important to you, because therein also lies your opportunities for choices that may be significant for you and may allow you to touch, and you don't even realize it.
And you don't know where you will lead yourself in that. You don't know how you will proceed with that futurely and where you will lead yourself in what direction. You didn't know where you would lead yourself with this one man. It didn't end there. You don't know where that experience will leave you futurely, but it is. It has opened doors—and not only one, many!
That is the point of what you're doing and the choices that you are engaging, because they are so interconnected and because they keep being interconnected, and therefore it is a matter of being able to see. And this is about being self-directing, being able to see where your choices are leading you and that you are directing—YOU are making the choices. (Pause)
This is tremendously liberating, my friend, and moving you in such a direction of freedom.
[The timer for the end of the session rings]
When you move to your new home, only you will know how you will apply all of this wondrous power and awareness, and it will simply keep expanding. I would say congratulations.
JULIE: Thank you, Elias.
ELIAS: You are tremendously welcome. You are tremendously deserving. Congratulations. Keep moving in that direction of gratitude, my friend; it will serve you well. And pay attention to what you doing, because everything you are doing is a potential of touch, and THAT is of ultimate importance—because you are touching whether you are aware of it or not. Therefore it is a matter of how do you want to be touching.
Well done!
JULIE: Thank you Elias. I will definitely be paying attention.
ELIAS: (Laughs) I shall greatly be anticipating our next meeting, my friend, and more of your accomplishments. And I very much encourage your excitement and your appreciation. In dear friendship and in tremendous love to you, as always, au revoir.
JULIE: I love you. Au revoir
(Elias departs after 1 hour)
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