Acknowledgment and Trust
Topics:
“Acknowledgment and Trust”
“How Much Detail Do We Need to Give Elias?”
“Moving Your Attention to Your Senses”
“The Acknowledgment Exercise”
Friday, April 26, 2013 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Nuno (Lystell)
“Acknowledgment is the expressing of recognizing what you are doing or what you have done and accepting that as your expression and allowing it. And when you do that, you relinquish that control, and you ease into that trust of yourself. The control is expressed in not allowing, not accepting, discounting yourself, “Why did I do that?”, attempting to fix. When you are allowing, the change that you seek will occur naturally.”
ELIAS: Good morning!
NUNO: Good morning. I’m not going to ask how you are, ‘cause I know what you’re going to say.
ELIAS: (Laughs heartily) Very well. Perhaps I should inquire of you!
NUNO: Okay. I am doing quite well, but I would like a second opinion.
ELIAS: (Laughs) I would agree.
NUNO: Okay. That’s excellent then. Let’s see. So, I’ve got a question first that is kind of procedural. I sometimes wonder just how much information do I need to give you in order that you know what I want to know.
ELIAS: It is dependent upon the situation. I would express to you that what I do is, I tap into and am aware of your energy.
Now; what that means in relation to specific subjects is that it is dependent upon YOU and what you are expressing in energy and what you are experiencing. For, at times you may present a subject that you want to discuss or a question and it is not necessary for you to offer background or explanations, for your energy is very focused in that particular subject. In other time frameworks, you may THINK you are focused in a particular subject and you may ask a question and, dependent upon your energy, I may request more information to prompt you to focus and to move in a specific direction.
Generally, most individuals in any given time framework are engaging several, if not many, directions with their energy simultaneously. Therefore, at times, if I am requesting more information or I am asking questions of you, what I am doing is I am, in a manner of speaking, prompting you to choose which subject is the most important in the moment and to focus upon that subject. And when you are prompted by a question to explain, that directs your attention more fully in one direction rather than several.
Generally speaking, individuals’ attentions are divided much more than you think. You are doing more actions in each moment, and you are engaging more directions with your energy, than you are even aware of. Therefore, it is not actually the type of situation that you think of. It is not as black and white as a question of what am I aware of, what is required, what information must you offer for myself to engage you. It is not quite that black and white.
I am aware of all of the directions that you are engaging; but in that, YOU may not be fully engaged with a particular direction. Therefore, in relation to promoting the greatest clarity that is possible in a particular moment in relation to a particular subject, it is important that we are both engaging in the same direction at the same time – which requires YOU to be more focused in a particular direction.
Therefore, if you pose a question, if you are not as directed with your attention, regardless that you may be thinking about that question, that is not necessarily to say that your energy is focused in that direction. In that, to allow you the greatest opportunity to assimilate what I am expressing to you, and to allow us both to more clearly engage the subject, it is important that YOU be paying attention to that subject, and therefore I may request more information, which will prompt you to focus your attention upon that subject.
In other time frameworks, you may already be quite focused in a particular subject, and in those situations it is not necessary for me to prompt or to engage questions or to request additional information.
NUNO: Very well. Thank you. I think I understand.
And then, on the subject of attention, I would like to continue our discussion from last time. I have been practicing with paying attention to things that I want to pay attention to as opposed to things I don’t want to pay attention to, and the area that I find challenging in doing this is that shifting my attention from an area that I recognize – I will often recognize that I am paying attention to something which is not desirable, something I do not want to pay attention to, but then I’m faced with, “Well, what do I pay attention to and what subject should I move it to?” And I often don’t have a ready subject or a ready thing to focus on to do that.
This is particularly true with a physical feeling, for the reasons you already described, but it applies generally to everything. So, if you could speak to that.
ELIAS: I would express that this in actuality is easy, for it is not as much a situation of finding or discovering another subject to move your attention. It is simpler than that.
When you find that you are paying attention to some expression or action or direction that is not beneficial to you or is not comfortable, the easiest manner in which you can move your attention immediately is to move your attention to your senses. All that is required is to interrupt that concentration, or that expression of thinking.
It is not necessary to engage lengthy time frameworks of thinking in a different direction; it is merely a matter of interrupting what you are doing, noticing that “this is not productive, this is not beneficial to me,” and therefore moving your attention away from it and interrupting that pattern. And that can be accomplished very quickly – and very easily – by moving your attention to your senses.
I would suggest that you choose a sense other than sight, for sight is a sense that is predominant for most individuals, and therefore, it may not be as strong of a distraction. But – if you move your attention to one of your OTHER senses, it requires you to concentrate and to focus, which immediately interrupts that thought process and that other concentration that is not beneficial.
When you move your attention to one of your senses and you are focused upon “What am I inputting with this sense presently in this moment? What is stimulating this particular sense?” – your senses are always inputting information. Every moment that you exist, your senses are inputting information. Therefore, they are always active. This is the reason that they are an excellent distraction and very effective, for they are never dormant. Even when you are sleeping, your senses are inputting information. And as they are always active, regardless of whether you are noticing or not, when you turn your attention to them you are giving your thought mechanism actual, present information to translate – which is what your thought mechanism is designed for, to translate information.
In this, when you move your attention to your senses, let us say your sense of touch, immediately your thought mechanism is now directed to be translating: “What is the information that is being inputted through my sense of touch? What do I feel? What is physically touching me? What are the fluctuations in temperature? What do I physically feel?” And that will very quickly, and very effectively, move your attention away from that repeat thinking.
NUNO: Okay. I’ll definitely give that a try.
I was wondering if you could try and focus on an experience that I had recently in the past few days. It has to do with I missed a dosage of my blood pressure medication; I forgot to take it – and you can put “forgot” in quotation marks. I understand I didn’t really forget it, but— (Elias laughs) But anyways, be that as it may. I was perfectly fine during the day and then “suddenly,” in quotation marks, I remembered that I didn’t take the medication, and everything went downhill from there.
And of course I know exactly what’s happening; no need to go into this. (Laughs) I know exactly what’s happening. The problem is, is that my attention immediately got put onto that. And I start feeling the physical symptoms, and I struggled for two days to get out of that, because it was a physical sensation and it was… you know, very disturbing, very destructive. Could you address that please?
ELIAS: This is an excellent example of attention. Now, in this, what is also excellent and quite automatic is that when you remembered that you forgot to incorporate your medicine, you automatically, immediately, moved your attention in the direction of what? Of “this is bad” and of what that will cause, rather than moving your attention to the acknowledgment, “Ah! I forgot to incorporate the medication, but I have been fine. I have been unaffected.”
NUNO: Okay. Can I just ask a question here? I understand that.
ELIAS: Do you? For I would express to you that in that simple acknowledgement, it is very likely that you would have avoided those two days of repercussion – or, in your terms, consequence. Remember: Consequence is of your own invention. YOU invent consequences. They are not absolute. They are not automatic. They are not a matter of cause and effect. They are what you invent and you believe, and therefore you enact them.
In this, in relation to many consequences that you invent, that simple action of an acknowledgment of the accomplishment diminishes the consequence. Therefore, what would likely occur would not be the consequence and rather merely you choosing to engage the medication at that point, recognizing that from that point it would be doing its job, so to speak.
NUNO: Okay. I understand that.
Two things: I’m not sure I understand the acknowledgment piece other than saying to myself what you just said, that I recognize that, and I DID recognize that. What I was trying to avoid was keeping my attention on that subject, because what I understood you said last time was I should not keep my attention on that subject, I should go to another subject, otherwise it is equivalent to paying attention to that subject.
ELIAS: Correct. But that is also a part of the acknowledgment.
Let me express to you, my friend, perhaps in terms that can be more easily recognized and understood. (Pause) A significant factor in relation to subjects that you or other individuals deem to be a problem or a negative, their base is rooted in non-trusting.
Now; in relation to that, the single most greatest influencing factor in relation to not trusting is not thinking you incorporate control. The aspect of control, the concept of control, is what determines what you allow yourself to trust and what you do not trust. If you can control, you trust. If you do not perceive that you incorporate control, it is much more difficult to trust.
This is a concept that is expressed and reinforced over and over and over in a daily capacity throughout the entirety of your life, from the time you are an infant. Even infants generate a concept of control: what they can control and what they perceive they cannot.
Now; in this, when you acknowledge yourself, if you are merely thinking, “I see I did this” or “I see I did not do this,” that is merely thinking. You may be noticing, but that is not genuinely acknowledgment. An acknowledgment is a genuine knowing of what you did or what you are doing, and an acceptance of that. That is a key piece. It is not only the knowing, not only intellectually but actual knowing of what you did or what you are doing, but also the acceptance of it. Which, in that expression of that acceptance of it, you are expressing a willingness to relinquish control, that it is not necessary for you to control, and that allows for an expression of trust.
In this, I speak to you and to many individuals repeatedly, over and over, about the subject of trust. I am also aware that for the most part, most of you incorporate a partial understanding of what that is.
Trust and control are, in your terms, opposites. Therefore, in like manner to magnets, they repel each other. One is not expressed simultaneously with the other. You are either trusting, or you are controlling.
When you are controlling, that is not a genuine trust. It may SEEM to be trusting, for when you are controlling in many situations you do create in a direction that you want, and therefore you THINK you are trusting. But trust does not coexist with control.
In this, when you acknowledge, let us say in a different direction, that you did not accomplish, such as you recognize or you remember that you did not incorporate your medication and subsequently you began developing the physical expressions and you became uncomfortable.
Now; a genuine acknowledgment of that is not only the good or positive actions, in your terms, that require being acknowledged; it is any action. For when you acknowledge it and accept it, it removes that control factor and allows for a free flow of energy.
In that, if you are acknowledging genuinely, “I see that I created this reaction. I created this consequence to not incorporating my medication. I genuinely acknowledge that I did this. I may not be aware in this moment what motivated me to do this, I may not be aware of HOW I am doing this, but I acknowledge that I am creating this, and I acknowledge to myself that there is some reason. Even if I do not see it yet, I acknowledge that to myself and I accept it.” When you accept it, you what? You do not change it. You are not looking to change it. You are not expressing to change it. You are accepting it and therefore allowing it.
When you are allowing, your attention is not fixed any longer. If you accept what you are expressing, what you are doing, it is not necessary to concentrate upon it any longer, and you automatically won’t. In that, you have acknowledged its existence, its significance, its importance in the moment, and it is not important to concentrate upon it any longer.
You are correct, you will not be successful if you are merely thinking. If you are merely thinking, “I acknowledge this. I did this,” that merely encourages you to think more. And what will you likely think more of? How to fix it, or how to change it, or “Why did I do this to myself?” – all of which is doing what? Discounting you. That is not acknowledgment. Acknowledgment is EMPOWERING you, not discounting. Therefore, thinking that you are acknowledging is merely noticing what you did. It is not actually acknowledging.
Acknowledgment is the expressing of recognizing what you are doing or what you have done and accepting that as your expression and allowing it. And when you do that, you relinquish that control, and you ease into that trust of yourself. The control is expressed in not allowing, not accepting, discounting yourself, “Why did I do that?”, attempting to fix. When you are allowing, the change that you seek will occur naturally.
Your body consciousness automatically moves in the direction of its natural state. It only changes that when it is being instructed to change it. And how it is instructed to change that is when you are discounting of yourself and devaluing of yourself, and therefore moving your own energy in manners to be destructive to yourself. And from THAT point, it is perpetuated by you continuing to express that instruction to the body consciousness by continually paying attention to the manifestation. For you are not paying attention to the manifestation expressing to yourself, “I adore this,” are you? You are paying attention to it expressing to yourself you dislike it; it is uncomfortable. And that continues that judgment and that discounting, and it continues to reinforce you paying attention to that same instruction to the body consciousness.
But it all begins in relation to those simple factors of trust or control – acknowledgment in genuineness, which includes that factor of acceptance and allowing, or the control: “I see I did this, but why? And I dislike it.” This is not to say that you will like every choice that you engage, but every choice that you engage does not necessarily develop a consequence. And every choice that you engage, even those that you dislike, is not necessarily ongoing. It is those choices that require the method of acknowledgment, for you have forgotten how to trust.
I would express to you that trust is an innate quality that you all possess, that you all express. But – it is also an expression that, for the most part, within your daily experiences, your daily actions, is dampened. There are expressions all around you that reinforce not trusting, and you engage them in daily activity and are not aware of them at all.
And, as this occurs repeatedly, over and over and over, you become more and more and more accustomed to not trusting, and you become more and more accustomed to replacing that trust with the control, to the point in which most individuals express considerable difficulty in trusting in most directions and think that they are trusting when they are expressing control.
To be genuinely aware and to be addressing to situations such as this that you have created in a physical manifestation in relation to a considerably vital aspect of your physical expression – your blood pressure – in this, it is a matter of becoming aware in relation to practicing not controlling. And I will acknowledge to you, my friend, that is challenging, for it is very unfamiliar.
But in genuineness, it is a matter of moving your attention in the direction of genuinely acknowledging you and accepting, and therefore empowering and not controlling.
And this is done in increments, none of which is too small – none of which is too small. Therefore, even if you are acknowledging and accepting and relinquishing that control for ONE MINUTE and you recognize it, that is an accomplishment. And the NEXT minute that you do it, that is an accomplishment.
Therefore, I can say to you, my friend, that had you genuinely acknowledged what you accomplished, what you did, and empowered yourself and accepted, that consequence would likely not have occurred, for it would not be necessary.
Why should the body consciousness express a reaction if you received the message and are acknowledging and ARE trusting? There is no message to continue. There is no consequence to empowering yourself.
NUNO: Very well. Thank you for that.
I just want to clarify that I don’t view, quote-unquote, “forgetting” my medication as a negative thing. I actually –
ELIAS: I am aware of that.
NUNO: Yeah, I know you are. (Both laugh)
ELIAS: And I am aware that you recognized what you had done, and I am aware that you thought, or were thinking, that that was in some capacity good, but that is not an actual acknowledgment. But I will express credit to you that you noticed. Now you understand the difference between noticing and acknowledging. But noticing is a significant step also. (Laughs) For you cannot acknowledge if you do not notice.
NUNO: Okay. Are there any exercises or something that I can practice on acknowledgment?
ELIAS: I would express that you can begin in expressions that perhaps you think of as being less significant, none of which IS less significant. But I would express to you that any action that you engage within the day… Let us say hypothetically that you are engaged in a conversation with another individual, perhaps a family member or a friend; it matters not. And let us say that the other individual expresses in some manner that your immediate response is to either correct them or to defend in some manner. In this, if you notice – for, that WILL be accompanied by a signal. You WILL generate a feeling if that type of situation occurs. It may not be incredibly strong, but there will be a moment in which you will generate a feeling that prompts you to dispute.
Now; in that moment, if you are aware and pay attention, a practice – an excellent practice – would be to stop yourself, do not respond, and express to yourself inwardly, “It is not necessary for me to express.” And when you do that, that will offer you an intentional opportunity to acknowledge yourself, to genuinely express that you accomplished and you accept that. You accept that it is not necessary for you to correct, it is not necessary for you to defend, and no subsequent action, no consequence, will occur in either direction.
And in that, you have allowed. You have chosen the acknowledgment rather than the control, and that is a success. That is moving in the direction of trust.
And I would express that you can do this in any number of situations; that is merely one example. Any situation that you notice any factor of control – and I would express to you genuinely that within your average day, in like manner to every other individual, there are countless expressions within your day of control. It may involve other individuals, it may involve creatures, it may involve inanimate objects; it matters not.
NUNO: What is the difference between control and taking action?
ELIAS: The factor of control is that you will determine the outcome, or you think you will determine the outcome.
NUNO: But isn’t that the whole point of it?
ELIAS: Rarely. Do you want to determine the outcome in relation to consequences?
[The timer for the session rings]
NUNO: I want to determine the outcome in terms of…
ELIAS: Of what you want.
NUNO: Yes.
ELIAS: And what is comfortable.
NUNO: Yes.
ELIAS: But in that, you automatically WILL move in the direction of what you want, and what you are expressing is important to you, when you are allowing and when you are trusting, without planning. And in that, you will easily generate that.
When you are expressing control, you are expressing in the manner that, in your awareness in this present moment, that YOU can determine any outcome in relation to what is best, so to speak, or what should be.
NUNO: Okay.
ELIAS: I would express to you, control in actuality is a defense. And that may be the easier manner for you to determine, for control IS a defense. When you are confident and satisfied, it is not necessary for you to express control. You allow.
NUNO: Okay. You’ve given me quite a bit to think about today.
ELIAS: (Laughs) As always.
NUNO: As always.
ELIAS: (Laughs) Very well, my friend. I would express to you a genuine acknowledgment of that accomplishment, that you did actually create a very different expression physically, temporarily, and that was tremendously significant, for now you know you can.
NUNO: Okay. It wasn’t the first time I’ve done that.
ELIAS: But perhaps there is a different awareness of it now.
NUNO: I think what you said about acknowledgment is going to be very helpful. I didn’t understand acknowledgment. I’m not sure I still do, but I definitely will listen carefully to what you have to say on that.
ELIAS: Very well. I am very encouraging of you, my friend.
NUNO: Merci beaucoup.
ELIAS: (Laughs) I shall be anticipating our next meeting and offering you my energy in tremendous support and encouragement in the interim time framework.
NUNO: Very well. I’ve done much better with getting these sessions, by the way.
ELIAS: I agree. Another factor to be acknowledged. (Laughs) Expressing more of your natural flow. Congratulations.
NUNO: Thank you.
ELIAS: In tremendous lovingness and great affection as always, my dear friend, au revoir.
NUNO: Au revoir.
(Elias departs after 1 hour 3 minutes)
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