Distance As a Way to Heal; It Is Difficult To Receive If You Perceive That You Are Not Worthy
Topics:
"Feeling Betrayal"
"Elias Recommends Distance As a Way to Heal"
"It Is Difficult To Receive If You Perceive That You Are Not Worthy"
Session 200702151 (2201)
"Feeling Betrayal"
"Elias Recommends Distance As a Way to Heal"
"It Is Difficult To Receive If You Perceive That You Are Not Worthy"
Thursday, February 15, 2007 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Yinka (Adrianna)
[Note: This is a short session due to audio problems]
ELIAS: Good afternoon!
YINKA: Hello, Elias!
ELIAS: (Chuckles) And what shall we discuss?
YINKA: What shall we discuss? Elias, you know it’s about that relationship issue that we’ve been talking about for some years now. May I just ask you, you know in that relationship did I actually lose out? I felt a sense of loss.
ELIAS: Did you actually lose? This is an interesting question, for I could express to you, "No, you did not," but I also could express to you, "Yes, you did," for YOU feel a sense of loss, and that is real. Therefore, yes, you have lost, but in association with actually LOSING some expression literally, no, you did not.
YINKA: Why do I feel a sense of betrayal?
ELIAS: That is quite understandable, my friend. [Audio problems begin] When another individual generates expressions or behaviors that are very contrary to your own guidelines, it is not unusual to feel betrayed.
YINKA: Okay.
ELIAS: For you automatically personalize what the other individual has done, and in personalizing that, it DOES feel like a betrayal.
YINKA: You know, I’m tired of this relationship issue. It comes back always to haunt me all the time. What can I do? What can I do to help me?
[Audio problems continue]
ELIAS: Is there no manner in which you can distance yourself from this individual, even temporarily?
YINKA: (Pause) Elias, I can’t hear you at all any more.
ELIAS: Very well. Shall I engage Michael?
YINKA: Yes, please.
ELIAS: Very well.
[Mary returns to try to resolve the connection problem]
ELIAS: Continuing.
YINKA: Hi, Elias.
ELIAS: (Laughs) What I expressed to you was, Is there no manner in which you can create a distance from this individual temporarily?
YINKA: I don’t know. God. I don’t know. I don’t know, Elias.
ELIAS: I understand that you incorporate the same employment.
YINKA: Yes.
ELIAS: But is there a manner in which you can engage your employment and also distance yourself from this individual temporarily?
YINKA: (Sighs) Yeah.
ELIAS: I would suggest this quite strongly, for the more you continue to interact with this individual, the more you are opposing yourself, and this is what is generating this tremendous discomfort.
YINKA: Okay.
ELIAS: If you can allow yourself to distance yourself from this individual for a time framework, it will allow you a time to heal.
YINKA: Okay. I just have a little thing now. I’ve got a project – you know, one of my projects is coming up this month, I think at the end of this month or next month. We either have to do it together, or he said he could be having his baby then.
ELIAS: And therefore, you can generate your participation separately.
YINKA: (Pause) That will have to… Well, not have to but… Yeah. I don’t see what I can do about that.
ELIAS: I would suggest this quite strongly, my friend, for what you are doing is continuing to generate what you would term to be an open wound and not allowing yourself to heal. And in not allowing yourself to heal, you perpetuate the hurt by replaying it continuously. But if you allow yourself to distance yourself and disengage interaction with this individual, that will allow you a time framework in which you can redirect your attention.
YINKA: Okay.
Can I also ask you, Elias, did my baby go to him?
ELIAS: No.
[Audio problems continue]
YINKA: I'm asking a question. I said, "Is it hard for me to be loved?"
ELIAS: No. I would express that there is difficulty in you allowing yourself to accept yourself, and in that, difficulty or challenges in you accepting love from another individual, for it is difficult to receive if you perceive that you are not worthy of receiving.
But I would not express that you are a difficult individual to love. I would express that you incorporate a great capacity for sensitivity and –
YINKA: Elias?
ELIAS: Yes? And a great capacity for expressing love.
YINKA: Elias?
ELIAS: Yes?
YINKA: Will you give this phone to Michael again? I can’t hear most of the things you're talking about.
ELIAS: Very well.
(Elias departs after 12 minutes)
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