Session 20051127 (1874)
“Forms of Opposition”
“Stopping the Circle”

Sunday, November 27, 2005 (Private/Phone)

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Christine (Lurine)

“The point is to be aware of your energy and whether you are generating a centered, calm, balanced energy in cooperation or whether you are generating opposition and extremes.”

ELIAS: Good afternoon!

CHRISTINE: Good afternoon, Elias.

ELIAS: And what shall we discuss?

CHRISTINE: Well, you’re probably pretty familiar with what’s going on, but I will address these issues pretty directly. There has been a lot of conflict in my immediate relationship, and I think it has a lot to do with acceptance and acknowledgement and so forth.

Most recently I’ve had a rather large obvious rash occur. (1) I was thinking perhaps, in trying to analyze what it was showing me, that it was a double action display—maybe even more than that. But I picked up two things, both around acceptance and acknowledgement: one, that I feel that my nurturing of my marriage has not been accepted by my partner that well or not acknowledged enough as I felt perhaps I needed to be acknowledged, and also that I have not been nurturing myself. Thus, I’ve created this violent irritation in a very, very visible display across my chest, which is an area of nurturing in a female. I was wishing to inquire of you further information about that and to see if I’m on the right track about understanding it.

ELIAS: Partially, and also partially it is associated with imagery that you are presenting to yourself to somewhat isolate yourself to offer the opportunity to be paying attention to YOU rather than paying attention to other individuals and distracting your attention and your energy.

CHRISTINE: Ah. That makes a lot of sense to me. I realized, in addressing to these issues of energy that have been a topic for a while now, that I have a very difficult time in identifying and isolating my own energy from other people.

ELIAS: Yes, and paying attention to how you are projecting, and what you are receiving in energy and what you are doing with that energy—whether you are generating an evaluation in relation to your own energy and what you are projecting and therefore evaluating what the reflection is, or whether you are receiving energy from another individual and in that action generating a personalization of the other individual’s energy.

CHRISTINE: Taking things personally?

ELIAS: Correct, which generates a discounting of yourself and a questioning and doubt within yourself.

CHRISTINE: If I can reiterate that a little bit, I am oftentimes receiving energy and taking it personally as a reflection about me not being good enough or something. I’m taking it so personally that I’m discounting myself in that regard, as opposed to recognizing that this is energy that’s being projected at me and it’s not necessarily what I really am? I’m not sure if that’s the right word.

ELIAS: Yes, in part. But remember, in interaction with other individuals what you generate is very specific. Therefore, you specifically choose or draw to yourself other individuals in any moment that shall specifically reflect some aspect of your energy to you, which offers you information. This is not a mirror—although at times, you do generate that action.

CHRISTINE: Myself, personally?

ELIAS: Yes. You do create mirrors in certain interactions. But generally speaking, most interactions with other individuals present you with a reflection. In that reflection, the point is to be evaluating what type of energy you projected that created that reflection. You created the energy first; the reflection follows.

CHRISTINE: In all cases? So it’s for the other person as well?

ELIAS: Yes, but their reasons may be entirely different. This is the reason that I continue to express not to be focusing your attention upon the other individual and their choices and their behavior and how they express, for this is not your concern. What IS your concern is what YOU are expressing, what type of energy you are projecting that is creating the scenario that you are participating in; for YOU begin it, and you thusly specifically draw individuals to you to interact with that shall reflect the energy that you are projecting.

In actuality, this is HIGHLY efficient in your reality, for it offers you the opportunity continuously to be aware, if you are paying attention, to what kind of energy you are actually expressing in any moment. But what is unfamiliar is to be paying attention to your own energy and, if you are generating conflict with another individual, to evaluate what you are expressing within yourself that is generating the scenario, what are you generating in opposition.

Remember, there are many expressions and forms of opposition. Expectations are one—in which, if you are generating an expectation of another individual, what type of energy are you projecting?

CHRISTINE: I guess I have formed an idea already of what I want from that individual.

ELIAS: And how is the other individual receiving that energy?

CHRISTINE: Probably as a demand?

ELIAS: As a threat. Expectations create threat; therefore, that creates opposition. Threat is opposition. Therefore, generating expectations is projecting an energy of opposition, and that is what you shall reflect.

Comparing is an energy of opposition. Complying is a form of opposition. Competitiveness is a form of opposition. Incorporating personal responsibility is a form of opposition.

CHRISTINE: How is that?

ELIAS: In generating personal responsibility, what are you doing?

CHRISTINE: You’re accepting the expectations of someone else, right?

ELIAS: No.

CHRISTINE: Oh, not necessarily, I guess.

ELIAS: Correct.

CHRISTINE: But that could partially be it, correct?

ELIAS: At times. But more so, if you are assuming personal responsibility in relation to another individual, you are discounting the other individual, for you are setting yourself in a position and a role of authority, that you can generate the choices and the situation better or more effectively, or your methods are more acceptable than the other individual’s—they are inadequate.

If you are generating the association that you are generating personal responsibility for the other individual, you are also discounting yourself. For if you are expressing personal responsibility, you are expressing that the other individual in some manner is inadequate at generating their own reality, and that is your own reflection to yourself that you doubt your abilities to be creating your reality efficiently and effectively for yourself. Therefore, rather than focusing your attention upon yourself, you focus your attention upon another individual and project your energy outside of yourself and your attention outside of yourself, for that is perceived as easier. But that neglects self, which discounts self.

Therefore, what are all of these actions doing? They are opposing. Therefore, assuming personal responsibility is another form of opposition.

Concerning yourself with how other individuals perceive you is another form of opposition, for that generates competition within self. You compete with yourself and your ideal self of what should be the best you, and that is what you should project, that is the persona you should generate.

CHRISTINE: That becomes another comparison issue, in a slightly different form.

ELIAS: Correct, which is another form of opposition.

The point is to be aware of your energy and whether you are generating a centered, calm, balanced energy in cooperation or whether you are generating opposition and extremes.

What would your assessment be in what you have been creating recently with your energy?

CHRISTINE: (Laughs) That’s pretty easy! Opposition and extremes.

ELIAS: Correct.

CHRISTINE: Maybe you can tell me if I’m correct in this. Sometimes I go automatically into opposition because it’s an automatic response. But maybe other times I’m wondering if I’m, in a way, playing with opposition to kind of understand it. Does that make sense?

ELIAS: Yes, I am understanding. Let me express to you, my friend, this is a dangerous game. I would suggest there are much more efficient manners in which you may familiarize yourself with opposing energy. Playing with opposition is dangerous, and what occurs is more likely what you do not want. For even playing with opposition is not, in actuality, playing; it is deliberately expressing opposing energy. And how do you view that ripples in association with the collective consciousness?

CHRISTINE: I felt that I was doing it automatically initially, but then afterwards I realized that I was, in a way, testing it to try to understand how it functioned. But I get it: the collective ripple, yes.

ELIAS: Yes. What you do in your individual focus, in your individual experiences, is not limited to you; it is affecting within consciousness, and therefore it generates a contribution. There can be no mass without individuals. That is what masses are comprised of. There can be no mass events without collective energy. Therefore, it is important, especially in his time framework in association with this particular wave in consciousness, to be aware of what you are contributing to.

CHRISTINE: Are we still in the wave of truth?

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: This particular part of the conversation reminded me of an event just the other night. I was sitting on the couch with my husband, and he got into a very heavy political discussion about world events. I’m always aware that there’s a correlation between what goes on between him and I and what we are viewing on the news.

I kept thinking that if this is the reflection I’m getting, I must be projecting this type of energy in some way, and that during the entire length of the conversation it would be projected at me. I kept trying to feel into my energy to understand how I was generating this from him and trying to remember how to neutralize this in some way. I did go into your description of appreciating a button on the other person’s shirt, or some form of appreciation expressed outward towards yourself and towards the other person to help neutralize it, and eventually that worked. But I spent a lot of time trying to think about how that got generated and how to stop it once it was in motion.

ELIAS: First of all, remember, a reflection is not a mirror. Therefore, a reflection can be generated for many different reasons—one of which may be a presentment of an expression that offers you the opportunity to be aware of your automatic responses, to be aware that you incorporate choices, and to notice your energy and whether you are being triggered within yourself and what is associated with that trigger. How are you responding within yourself? This is significant.

You may be generating a situation in which you are interactive with another individual, and they may present to you a type of debative expression, in a manner of speaking—not that the other individual is seeking to debate but is expressing their opinion and their preference, which may differ from your own. This may be the presentment of the opportunity for you to pay attention to what you do with your energy in response to that: whether you generate a trigger and engage opposition, debate; whether you automatically question yourself and your preferences and your opinions; whether you engage the other individual to match energy; or whether you allow yourself the openness to receive the other individual’s energy, evaluate your own direction within yourself, and generate the cooperation and balance in which there is no necessity for response, and therefore there is no conflict and no necessity to change the scenario.

CHRISTINE: To allow the other individual their own expression and also to be aware of how I’m configuring their expression?

ELIAS: Correct, and to be aware that it is not necessary for you to agree with the other individual, [and] it is not necessary for you to like the manner in which the other individual is expressing, to cooperate. Those are not requirements of cooperation.

If you are confident in your acceptance of yourself and your choices and your preferences, if you are acknowledging of yourself in your opinions and not opposing another individual, there is no necessity to compete or to debate or to defend—which is another form of opposition—or to challenge. It is not your responsibility or your job to challenge another individual; that is another form of opposition.

Many of these forms of opposition can be couched in expressions that are camouflaged in a manner that they do not necessarily overtly appear to be opposing, but they are, regardless.

CHRISTINE: I have felt that this is perhaps something I do that I’m not aware of.

ELIAS: Yes. As an example, noticing your action of nurturing the relationship, in your terms, and noticing your disappointment in the lack of appropriate response to that nurturing...

CHRISTINE: Which is my expectation, correct?

ELIAS: Correct. The nurturing of the relationship in itself is a form of opposition, for it is a form of personal responsibility.

CHRISTINE: So there’s a multitude of overlapping oppositions in that one action.

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: So that’s expectation and personal responsibility. Is there another one there? Is there a form of competitiveness there?

ELIAS: Yes, quite definitely. For you generate the competition in the expression of the personal responsibility in conjunction with the expectations, for you set yourself in a direction and a role expecting of the other individual [and] also expecting of yourself.

But in that, you are continuously forcing energy in the attempt to force the other individual to generate actions or responses that you want, which merely perpetuates the opposition, for it generates disappointment within you; and as you generate that disappointment within yourself, you begin to discount yourself. Therefore, you are not merely opposing the other individual or the situation or the idea of the relationship, you are also opposing you.

CHRISTINE: In that series of actions, is this one of the reasons I am expressing extremes, out of frustration that I’m going in a circle?

ELIAS: Yes, and you are. The manner in which you stop the circle, the manner in which you interrupt that, is to pay attention to what you are doing, recognizing that you incorporate choice. This is the reason that it is important to pay attention to what you are doing.

As I have expressed many times previously, I am not merely expressing pay attention to what you are doing in what you associate as significant, large actions or events, but paying attention to what you are doing in every mundane action; for these are the actions that are very familiar and automatic, and they are the actions that generate the energy that creates these hamster wheels, these circles in which you are generating tremendous frustration or conflict or irritation or fear. (Pause)

Rather than paying attention to how you may or may not be matching energy with another individual, my friend, I shall offer the suggestion that you pay attention to how you are matching energy with yourself.

CHRISTINE: How am I matching energy to myself?

ELIAS: In precisely what I have expressed to you. How many repeated actions do you incorporate within a single day that are automatic responses that you continue to engage? And what do you create? The matching of your own energy in conflict, in frustration, in irritation, in fear, in association with what you view to be large issues.

Therefore, if you are aware of what you are doing, you can also choose to express differently. Each time you express differently, you interrupt that automatic direction and the concentration of the hamster wheel.

CHRISTINE: That is the challenge.

ELIAS: And so it is.

CHRISTINE: The odd dream I had just two nights ago: at first I was perceiving it to be my house; however, it was in extreme decay and quite different looking. I felt that I was aware that it was a dream, and there was at first one individual there. Was that first individual you?

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: Then another individual appeared. Both you and this other individual appeared to be male, and eventually a third individual appeared. Was the third individual Patel?

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: Was the second individual Tomkin?

ELIAS: No, Ordin.

CHRISTINE: What was the imagery of the decaying house showing me? My feeling was that it was a desire, in a way, or an illusion of the old falling away, so to speak, that the old forms don’t work anymore and that they have become decayed and decrepit. The forms that the three of you took seemed to melt back and forth between something that resembled human and then other aspects that did not at all resemble human qualities that I’m familiar with. Was that symbolism to myself of future forms, or was it other-dimensional aspects?

ELIAS: No. The imagery that you are presenting to yourself in this dream is [that] the house is you. The alteration of forms is merely the imagery of changeability and flexibility, and the possibility of change as an encouragement—that regardless of how the reality appears momentarily, it can be altered, and the alteration can be expressed quite easily.

CHRISTINE: Yes, especially in the dream state—at least from this point of view!

There was a time I came over a big hill in my neighborhood and I had a vista of a very unusual sky cloud formation. [2] I was wondering if this imagery was symbolic of and contrasting the objective physical life that I’m drawn to and participating in. There were extreme fronts with dramatic, black swirling clouds nearby, and then next to that were these incredibly clear blue skies. One side had a front line showing one dark gray one, one had a big white one, and ahead of me there was a brilliant blue one that was full of patches of fluffy white cloudlets. This was on a day when I had felt that I was allowing myself to just do what I wanted and appreciating what I was doing as I felt like it, without trying to "should" myself like I would normally do.

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: The air was very vibrant, cool, and refreshing. Chimes were ringing out at the pumpkin patch when I spent money unnecessarily on decorations for my home. [3] (Elias chuckles) So I was correct in my interpretation of that?

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: My choice of a small container to use for my stones, which is not exactly what you suggested, but I’m rather pleased with it because it reminds me of Patel in a funny kind of way, being an orange and rather playful little crab: I am enjoying that, and I am hoping that that is lending me some support in an exercise that you had suggested.

ELIAS: Yes.

CHRISTINE: Thank you very much for this very solid session.

ELIAS: You are very welcome.

CHRISTINE: I hope that I will be able to continue talking with you sooner rather than later!

ELIAS: Very well. Remember, my friend, I am always available. And also remember, pay attention to you. Interrupt the circle.

I shall be offering my energy to you in supportiveness and helpfulness, and perhaps offering periodic reminders for playfulness, also.

CHRISTINE: I should tattoo that on the inside of my wrist: “Be gentle with myself, be playful, and pay attention!” (Both laugh)

ELIAS: Very well, my dear friend. In great friendship and appreciation and tremendous affection, au revoir.

CHRISTINE: Thank you.

[1] Christine's note: I picked up a bad case of poison ivy from raking leaves.

[2] Christine's note: I love watching the sky in general, but this particular time is was so very dramatic that I actually stopped the car and got out to really observe it fully 360 degrees.

[3] Christine's note: Ringing chimes were unexpectedly in the background sounds of my first session tape. I couldn't figure out why this was on the tape, but later realized that Mary has a lot of them on her front porch. I hadn't noticed them when I was there doing that first session. Since then I have associated hearing them with Elias, and sometimes I feel it's Patel “tapping me on the shoulder,” so to speak—pun intended—to “pay attention.” Elias has confirmed this with me.

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