Saturday, December 10, 2005 (Private/Phone)

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Terri (Uliva)

(Elias’ arrival time is 16 seconds)

ELIAS: Good morning.

TERRI: Good morning, Elias. It’s good to talk to you again.

ELIAS: And you also.

TERRI: I wanted to talk to you before the end of our year, because we have our tradition of New Year’s resolutions, and I always participate in that, so I wanted to kind of get a plan in place for the new year. Next year is also my fortieth birthday, and I wanted to make it my turning point year, so I wanted to get some advice on how to start that off right.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) And what direction are you moving in?

TERRI: Well, that’s what I was hoping you could shed some light on. I’ve been spending a lot of time…I started practicing yoga, which I really think has made it easier for me to pay attention in the moment, I guess because of the intense focus in the class—it seems to have kind of run over, and I think it’s easier. So, my impression is what I’m doing now is kind of putting a foundation in place of really learning to pay attention in the moment. And I’m trying to figure out where that’s going to lead me as far as financially.

I’m trying to appreciate the money that I already have. I took out another equity line so I could do some investing, so I’m trying to appreciate my ability to do that, but nothing seems to be moving. Some things that I’ve tried have stopped or haven’t moved forward like I thought they might, so I’m just trying to get a handle on it. And I keep going back to really appreciating my body and what I’ve accomplished with that. So, I’m trying to apply it to the financial part, but it just doesn’t seem to be moving. So, I wanted to ask about that first, because I really want to be financially secure next year. I want it to be like my breakthrough year, and I just can’t figure out where I’m getting hung up at.

ELIAS: And what direction are you moving in with that?

TERRI: Well, I tried to keep it open. I tried to be more open to creative avenues, to concentrating on there’s plenty of money in the world, that there’s different ways I could make money—it doesn’t necessarily have to come from real estate. You know, I’m not even sure if real estate’s the direction I should be looking in. Is it another direction I’m supposed to be going? I’m trying to stay open to see what comes to me, but nothing seems to be coming.

ELIAS: First of all, it is not a matter of what you are SUPPOSED to be doing; it is a matter of what you WANT to be doing, and how you can creatively express yourself. What do you WANT to do?

TERRI: Well, I want to as far as…I’m not really worried about whether it’s real estate or whether it’s something else. My biggest concern is I want to keep the flexibility to do what I want to do every day. I want to keep that flexibility. So, that’s my biggest want. I don’t want to have to be somewhere at a certain time. I don’t want to have to stay somewhere until the workday ends. I like being creative. I like working with investors, but none of that seems to be falling into place as far as the investors and going that route. So, I’m wondering what’s going on?

ELIAS: What are you actually doing with investors?

TERRI: Well, not much. The one avenue is with the company that I’m with, and I’ve tried to go a couple of different ways with that. And I keep hearing what you’re saying, don’t concentrate on what they’re doing, but my perception is that the things that they have planned just aren’t going to come forth, that it’s kind of shady. And I know those are my perceptions…

ELIAS: Such as?

TERRI: Like with my people that came in from San Diego this week, and the owner of the company didn’t tell me they were coming, so I met up with them and sat in on their meeting. And I was trying to notice my people and their perceptions, and they didn’t hold the perception that anything shady was going on, and they were moving forward, so I know it’s just the way that I’m looking at it, as far as I just don’t think very highly of them and the things that they do. I guess I just don’t trust that the projects that they’re working on are going to come to fruition. And I know that’s my perception, and the group from San Diego obviously doesn’t hold that perception, because they’re still moving forward in other avenues. So, I was just trying to sit there and be aware of what was going on there. But I just feel so stuck.

ELIAS: And what other avenues would you like to experiment with or what other directions would you like to move within?

TERRI: I have another partner, Mark, that I do trust, and we’re trying to do some projects, too, which are moving slowly because there was another man involved that was going to provide the houses, and both of us lost trust in him, too, because we felt he was kind of screwing up on another deal. So, we kind of moved off on our own, but it’s taking more time because we’re kind of back at the start. But I was trying to say, okay, maybe this is a better foundation. We’ll just move in a direction with people we can trust and work with. It may take a little bit longer, but in the end, I thought it would be a better move.

ELIAS: And is this what you want to do?

TERRI: You know, I want to do something that…I like the concept of buying the land and having some other investors come in, and being able to resell it. I guess the only thing holding me back would be where we would do this at. I’m not real familiar with the area, so maybe I’m holding it up because I don’t trust in my ability to get it resold, even though we can partner with other agents in that area and might not make as much, but we have that ability.

ELIAS: What you are projecting in your energy is a considerable doubt concerning other individuals, generating considerable attention with regard to other individuals. You are also projecting a strength in energy concerning certain guidelines, your guidelines, but projecting those to other individuals also. In this, what are you doing and what are you not doing?

TERRI: What I’m doing, I’m trying to pay attention to what I am doing, and what I’m choosing in the moment. And I think I’m recognizing when I am paying attention to what other individuals are doing, and I’m trying to bring the attention back to myself, and either remind myself that it doesn’t matter what they do, you know, and I’m trying to appreciate the money that I already have, but I don’t know, neither of those things seems to be working. I don’t know if I’m not trying hard enough or not doing it often enough or…obviously something’s getting in the way, because right now, nothing’s moving.

ELIAS: Which I pose the question again, what are you doing and what are you not doing?

TERRI: Well, I guess I’m not moving things forward.

ELIAS: You are NOT cooperating. What you ARE doing is opposing. When you doubt, when you express defense, when you express expectations, you are opposing, and that creates an obstacle.

What you are doing is intellectual. You are not genuinely paying attention to your energy and what you are expressing. You are paying attention to surface doing, physical doing. You are paying attention to interactions in which you disagree and you are noticing differences in perceptions, but you are not paying attention to what you are DOING with that, and what you are expressing with that with your energy, which is strong.

In this, recognizing the strength of your energy may be quite beneficial to you, for if you can express the strength in energy that you are now, in creating obstacles in the manner that you are, you can also express equal strength in directions that shall create successfulness. In this, it is important to be recognizing how you are projecting your energy.

Noticing what other individuals are doing or how they are behaving or how they are expressing is beneficial, but what is more important is how you are responsive to that, and what type of energy you are projecting. It is not merely a matter of noticing the interaction. When you move your attention back to yourself, in your terms, how do you do that? What are you paying attention to?

TERRI: I’m trying to pay attention to my perceptions, whether they’re accurate or not regarding the situation, and what’s motivating my perceptions of not trusting them or…

ELIAS: And what is the motivation?

TERRI: What is the motivation?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I guess it partly relates to past experiences, being lied to or my perception that deals have been shady or if they’re too good to be true, they’re shady, and just not trusting them.

ELIAS: But in this, let me express to you, my friend, honesty and dishonesty are tricky subjects, for they genuinely are a matter of perception, and they are a matter of your own truths. Therefore, they can create situations that are less than satisfactory to you, and can interfere with your own movement in success, for it is in actuality not a matter of the other individual and what they do or what they choose or how they express. It is genuinely a matter of how you filter, and how you associate, and the judgments that you express.

In this, remember also, whatever you reflect to yourself in any interaction with other individuals, you have initiated. The reflection is a response. It follows what energy you are projecting. This is another reason that the subject of honesty or dishonesty can be somewhat dangerous, for it begins with you and your trust or lack of trust of yourself, and your ability, and your guidelines for yourself in how you express. But as I have expressed many times, that is not necessarily applicable to other individuals, for their truths or their guidelines may be different. They are not absolutes.

In this, you project the energy of skepticism or doubt, and what you draw to yourself is a reflection of that. There are no accidents. In wanting to be successful it is important that you are aware of your energy and it is important to be aware of when you are opposing, and how many forms opposition can manifest in. You do not generate successfulness through opposition. You generate success in cooperation. And as I have expressed previously, cooperation does not require agreement. It is not necessary to agree with another individual. It is not necessary that you even like another individual or like how they express or what they choose. Those are not requirements for cooperation, for cooperation is expressed by you, not expecting another individual to cooperate WITH you. That is not cooperation. That is your own expectation of compliance.

Cooperation is an action that is expressed by you. In interacting with another individual that you may disagree with, or that the other individual may be moving in directions or generating choices or behaviors that you disagree with, or do not like or do not prefer or that generate a discomfort within you, the action of cooperation is to engage your own creativity and offer yourself avenues in which you can continue to accomplish what YOU want. And you can include the energy of the other individual that you are interacting with, configuring it in some manner that you shall perceive to be to your benefit. But it is not a matter of the other individual meeting your criteria or your guidelines. It is also not a matter of the other individual complying with your direction. You are not co-creating. It is a matter of YOU being aware of your energy and not opposing through any of these different expressions, but generating the acceptance, and trust, and confidence—which, confidence is merely a lack of doubt—within yourself concerning your abilities to accomplish what you want, regardless of what other individuals are doing.

TERRI: So, is there an exercise or something that can help me start moving in the right direction, because I seem to be staying on the hamster wheel lately.

ELIAS: I may express to you merely to notice initially, temporarily, each time within your day that you are expressing some energy of opposition. In this, remember, opposition may be generated quite easily, for it is an action that is very familiar and it is automatic. Therefore, the mere action of noticing it may be somewhat challenging initially.

Choose an action that is fun. What do you express as a fun action?

TERRI: One example would be the swing dancing, which is what I thought I chose to not only incorporate fun, but to also to accept differences in other people, because you dance with all kinds of different people.

ELIAS: Very well. Each time you notice yourself expressing some type of opposing energy, incorporate a step from your dance. In that, if you are incorporating a step from your dance, perhaps you shall incorporate laughter rather than generating the automatic response of opposing what you are opposing.

TERRI: Okay, I’ll try that.

ELIAS: Remember, there are many, many forms of opposition.

TERRI: I still seem to be extremely tired. Is this all part of that, too?

ELIAS: Yes. This incorporates much more energy, my friend, than allowing yourself ease. Trusting yourself is much easier than opposing.

TERRI: I guess I’m confused, because I thought I was beginning to trust myself more, and it doesn’t sound like it.

ELIAS: You are trusting yourself more and you are acknowledging your accomplishments, but you are also continuing to dwell upon what you are not accomplishing.

TERRI: Okay, so like with Jeff, I didn’t think I was dwelling on that. It just seemed like it was time to let it go, and I didn’t feel like I was dwelling on it like I have in past relationships.

ELIAS: I would agree.

TERRI: And I was wondering if the drive that Monday that took me three hours, is that what triggered everything? I mean, did I finally just make a decision that it was too long, too much effort, for too little gain?

ELIAS: That is your assessment, and not incorporating a willingness to be generating that much effort and attention in an area that you view is not offering you a significant enough payoff.

TERRI: Right. Was also part of it…I mean, I’ve been trying to appreciate the times that we did spend together, but I want to create it closer to my home, and I think I have this underlying thing that says if you have one person in your life then you won’t be creating exactly what you want, so I decided to get rid of him to try to create more of what I wanted closer to my home. Would that be true?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: Which is possible, I’m assuming?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I thought I was kind of moving in the right direction in that area as far as just trying to appreciate the times that we had and…

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: And kind of recognizing, like the email he sent back to me, I kind of pictured it as all the daggers I threw at him, he was throwing some back at me, so it was just reflecting back what I was doing?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: And when he said that we were too different, that was my reflection back, too, that I had come up with that also, that it was too different to be pursuing.

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: Okay, so I think I’m on the right track in a couple areas.

ELIAS: (Laughs)

TERRI: So, I just need to focus on the other one. I wanted to ask real quick, because we only have a half an hour, what the pain in my shoulder is about. I was hoping the yoga would help work it out, but it seems to be lingering there.

ELIAS: That may actually generate successfulness. I am encouraging of you to be continuing with that direction.

TERRI: As far as the yoga?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: Okay. Well, our time is up for today, but I will be scheduling another session soon because I have a lot more questions.

ELIAS: Very well.

TERRI: And I will also be reporting some progress from this as soon as I can figure it out.

ELIAS: Very well. And I shall be offering my energy to you also in encouragement.

TERRI: Thank you, Elias.

ELIAS: To you as always, my dear friend, in great affection and appreciation, au revoir.

TERRI: Au revoir.

Elias departs after 32 minutes.

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Copyright 2005 Mary Ennis, All Rights Reserved.