Sunday, September 18, 2005 (Private/Phone)

Participants: Mary (Michael) and Terri (Uliva)

(Elias’ arrival time is 16 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good morning!

TERRI: Good morning, Elias.

ELIAS: And what of your progress?

TERRI: Well, I think I’ve been doing very well. I’m very excited about today; I’m going to see Jeff, and I really think that I’ve worked diligently on relaxing — and that’s kind of a backward statement! (Elias laughs) I’m hoping, well, not hoping, I really expect to see lots of reflection of the progress I’ve made in the last couple of days when I’m with him today.

ELIAS: I am greatly encouraging of you.

TERRI: I was on the boat ride all day yesterday, and I was paying attention to all of my senses and relaxing. I thought that I spent a good amount of time not thinking of anything, just enjoying the surroundings. Does that count as the relaxing exercise that you gave me, also?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I thought I did a really good job on that. The other thing that I wanted to ask is am I catching all the times I’m discounting myself or do I need some more clarity on that?

ELIAS: For the most part you are, and as you continue to practice, you shall generate more clarity and it shall be more obvious to you. But I am acknowledging of you that for the most part you are noticing and you are paying attention and you are acknowledging in the time frameworks in which you are noticing that you are discounting of yourself.

TERRI: I feel like the last couple of days I’ve really done a good job of countering it with an accomplishment as soon as I’ve noticed the discounting. Would that be a fair assessment?

ELIAS: Yes, and I may extend my congratulations in your progress, for you are accomplishing well.

TERRI: I’ve been keeping a list of every time I accomplish something, just some of the little things you tend to forget as an accomplishment, and that way I at least have something to refer back to.

ELIAS: I am understanding.

TERRI: Can you build up like a bank of accomplishments? (Laughs)

ELIAS: If you are so choosing! (Laughs) And are you noticing that in generating this exercise you are also offering yourself more appreciation of yourself in acknowledging your accomplishments and you are also reinforcing your own confidence?

TERRI: Yes, I really have felt an increase in that and also my energy, too. When I did my 15-mile bike ride the other day, I really spent a lot of time appreciating how well I was doing and concentrating on relaxing my neck and taking in the surroundings. When I came home — and I remember years ago when I started riding, I would only ride 20 miles and I’d have to come home and sleep for four hours — I didn’t need to take a nap at all, and I was pretty much up until midnight. I really noticed an increase in my energy, too, I think.

ELIAS: Yes, which also is an automatic by-product of this type of action, in generating the combination of intentionally relaxing but also acknowledging all of your accomplishments. That actually lightens your energy. It allows it to lessen the thickness of your energy, and in that, you can express more and you actually generate the reverse action of what you create if you are generating a thickness in energy.

In generating a thickness in energy, it creates a heaviness, which can become actually fatiguing and limiting. But as you express a different perception by creating this type of action of acknowledgment of yourself and actually recognizing and noticing your accomplishments, you lighten your energy, which allows it to flow more freely. In that, you actually generate the allowance to be expressing more energy, which also moves in conjunction with this new circle that you are creating. As you allow yourself to express more energy and generate more, that also reinforces your perception of your own individual strength and power.

TERRI: I can really feel it when I ride my bike. When I start riding my bike, it’s easier to pedal. Some days when I’m not feeling as well about the way things are going, it’s harder to pedal.

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: Is that like a physical experience of the difference between the thickness and the lighter energy?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I also wanted to ask about the difference between discounting versus observation. I sent Jeff a text message last night and he responded, but it was not the response I was expecting. So, I had what I thought was an observation, that I know some phones are really hard to send a text message back, and men generally aren’t crazy about doing that because the keys are so hard to do. Do you have an observation, or is it always an automatic discounting?

ELIAS: No, it is not always an automatic discounting. At times, yes, you are correct that you may be observing your own responses, recognizing that you may be responding in a particular manner, and you may not necessarily be discounting of yourself but offering yourself information concerning your own responses, and at times, your own triggers in relation to expectations.

TERRI: When I sent it, I was checking to see if he responded and then I thought it’s not really a message that he needs to respond to; there was no question, I just wanted to share that with him. But then when he did respond, I guess I was expecting to hear more of “can’t wait to see you, too” or something like that instead of “thanks.” So I gave myself an appreciation and accomplishment, just in case I was discounting myself! (Elias laughs) But I also recognize that the phone he has it’s hard to send a text message, and I still thought that he appreciated getting that. So was I on the right track there?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: That kind of goes back to what you saying the other day about how much time I spend analyzing these things.

ELIAS: Yes, and at times that generates a contribution to your own confusion. In simplifying and allowing yourself not to interject added speculative information, but to accept and receive what is being projected to you, that shall lessen your confusion and also allow you more clarity in recognizing the difference between discounting yourself and merely noticing that you may have incorporated an expectation and that may trigger an initial twinge — which is not necessarily actually discounting yourself but offering yourself information concerning how you automatically respond to your own projections of expectations.

In which, I may be acknowledging of you in this scenario also, that you actually did not move yourself into significant disappointment but allowed yourself to perceive differently and accept the response without creating additional speculative information.

TERRI: Oh, good — that’s great progress! (Elias laughs) I know I do that a lot. It starts and kind of spirals. It’s good to have these specific situations that I can refer back to and remember how I handled it. I think that helps me a lot, too.

ELIAS: Yes, for it offers you an example of what process you engage and how you interact with that process and how you respond in relation to the other individual’s response.

TERRI: Can you ask people questions to see what their answer is, to kind of check on the reflection to see if you’ve changed your perception?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: You can use them as an outside gauge?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: As long as you remember that that’s what you’re doing and not to get caught up in their answer.

ELIAS: Correct. But paying attention to you...

TERRI: ...and my reaction.

ELIAS: Yes, and monitoring yourself.

TERRI: It makes sense, but I just wanted to make sure. Sometimes I think about doing that and it’s kind of neat, because the answer will make me think to myself that I have changed my perception on what I’ve been working on, because the answer that I just got was a different reflection than what I would have normally gotten.

ELIAS: Correct.

TERRI: Good! That’s a neat little tool to have. (Elias laughs) I like that. I wanted to go back to the EFT session that I had with Michelle that day and ask a couple more questions regarding what she was saying about my father. You said it was a distortion, so in that I was thinking maybe he was trying to give some information but she was distorting it?

ELIAS: First of all, as I expressed, she engaged an energy deposit and also was tapping into your energy and different expressions and probabilities of you, not necessarily him.

TERRI: I kind of had that feeling, because the daisies I thought referred to the necklace that I had on, and the comment about the red T-Bird, I recently bought a T-Bird and that’s connected to my father. He had a red T-Bird, or a shade of red. So, I thought she was just picking up on those things from me.

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: So I can just kind of ignore that whole thing?

ELIAS: I would express to you, if you are choosing or wanting to be interactive with this individual, it would be more efficient for you to allow that to be generated within dream state. That is an easy avenue for both of you to engage. It is a relaxed and easy avenue for you to receive and to allow, and it is an easy avenue for the other individual to project energy to interact with you.

TERRI: I just kind of give myself the thought before I go to sleep that I want to have a communication with him?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: That leads me into another question. A lot of times when I wake up, things just seem so much easier the next day; I just feel like I’ve done a ton of homework while I was sleeping. Is that accurate?

ELIAS: Yes.

Now; I may express to you that this is not uncommon. Many individuals engage this type of action in which you may present yourself with a challenge in one day and you may incorporate different types of responses to it, but if you are allowing yourself to not actually incorporate definitive action in that one day, you can engage more assimilation and an allowance to offer yourself information within your sleep state, for you allow the subjective awareness to address to the situation. In that, within your sleep state, the subjective awareness communicates with the objective awareness, and in the next day, your perception may be quite different and you may approach the situation of the challenge quite differently and with more ease.

TERRI: It just seems like I’ve grasped it all of a sudden, and it’s easier.

ELIAS: Yes. In that, this also can be a useful and a powerful avenue for you to accomplish and acknowledge yourself. For knowing that you shall incorporate a different perception in the next day, that also offers you permission, in a manner of speaking, to relax in different situations that may tend to automatically agitate you and therefore not to necessarily address to the situation in a heightened state, but to allow yourself to relax with the situation, knowing that your perception shall change and allowing yourself that patience. Therefore, in the next day, you can more efficiently and more effectively address to the situation and with more clarity.

TERRI: That’s a great little tool, too!

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I had a dream not too long ago about a cockatiel that had gotten loose. I don’t remember all of it, but I was trying to catch it, and then I sat down and put my hand out and it landed on my finger. I thought that was me giving me information of how to release some of the birds from the birdcages and validating that I can accomplish this."(1)":#1

ELIAS: Yes, and also it is imagery associated with struggle and striving. As you attempt to catch the bird, it eludes you and you expend considerable energy attempting to capture it. But once you relax and are not pursuing, it comes to you.

TERRI: Was that dream trying to give me information regarding what was going on with Jeff, and I just didn’t catch the clue?

ELIAS: Partially.

TERRI: Our dreams kind of go with our own symbols and the definitions that we put with the symbols.

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I was sitting in the park the other day waiting for my girlfriend who was late. She totally couldn’t understand why she was late, but I thought it was to give me a chance to sit there and notice the birds and think about how they were all the same birds but I could choose to focus on any of the birds, kind of like the birdcage and looking at the different aspects of beliefs. Was that correct?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: That was kind of neat. It was funny, it made me laugh that she was so baffled why she was late. It’s like well, that was for me! (Laughs with Elias)

Every time Jeff and I would talk on the phone, the cell phone would keep cutting out and he’d have to keep calling me back. Was that a projection of the intensity of my energy that kept cutting that out?

ELIAS: Partially, yes.

TERRI: Was it part on his end, too?

ELIAS: Yes, partially with himself also, interrupting himself, but partially that was an expression of your energy in the intensity of your energy. Notice how you generate more excitement and agitation, not in negative manner, but there is an element of agitation in your energy in the moments that you are actually connecting and interacting with this individual. In noticing that, allow yourself to be aware and allow yourself to move your attention to what is actually occurring in the interaction, and allow yourself to genuinely be appreciating of what you are doing, what he is doing, how you are interacting with each other. That shall somewhat quell that intensity of energy and allow you to relax in the interaction, which shall allow you to appreciate more and shall generate more of an ease between you.

TERRI: I think part of it is I start feeling anxious that I’m not going to have anything to say and that it’s going to end the conversation. I get all wound up because I know I’m only going to talk to him once on the phone and what if we run out of things to talk about and then I’m not going to hear from him again and he’s going to want to get off the phone quicker. Is that some of what’s going on?

ELIAS: Yes. Stop anticipating. Allow yourself to relax.

TERRI: I’m trying to counteract that by starting a list of conversation topics, because sometimes it’s so long between the times that we talk that I forget about the things that I want to tell him.

ELIAS: I am understanding, but also allow for the other individual’s sharing, and not generate the expectation of yourself that you must be directing of the conversation continuously.

TERRI: I get caught up in that, because I feel like if I don’t keep it going he’s going to say, “Okay, talk to you later.” I recognize that I do that.

ELIAS: You may also generate inquiries of the other individual and allow him to be directing some of the conversation.

TERRI: I think the list will help with that, because I wrote down some things like that. I’d like to generate seeing him twice a week, that would be my ideal. Is that possible?

ELIAS: Is it possible? Yes. Is it a potential? Yes. Does it depend upon you? Yes.

TERRI: So really, if I stay on the track that I’ve been on the last couple of days, that will move me closer to that goal?

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: I think that would be perfect. The two weeks, and I know I created that by everything I was generating — that’s just unacceptable. (Elias laughs) That’s just too long in between. So that’s good. If I keep working on this then I can do that.

I keep seeing series of numbers. I’ll look at the clock quite often and it will be a series of ones or a series of threes. Is that just me giving me imagery to remind me that I can create things and that I’m creating in the moment?

ELIAS: Partially, and also it is imagery of balancing. The threes are imagery of balance.

TERRI: What are the ones?

ELIAS: You. Balance is the combination of playfulness, gentleness and strength, expressing those three elements of yourself equally in balance and in harmony with each other.

TERRI: I actually thought that I’d added some gentleness in the last couple of days, too, with Suzanne calling me last night to apologize for Friday. She’s never done that before and there’s been plenty of times when a hike didn’t happen. And then with Mark saying after my bike ride — we were going to get together — it was like, “Oh, I forgot this appointment and I’m really sorry, and we’ll get together next week.” The two interactions kind of felt gentle.

ELIAS: Yes.

TERRI: That’s pretty cool. I’ve really never created that before.

ELIAS: (Laughs) You may be surprising of yourself what you may be creating now.

TERRI: I do that quite often. It makes me laugh and just smile at myself. (Laughs with Elias) Well, that’s all the time that we have for today. I’m going to go off and create a wonderful day with lots of positive experiences. I’m really excited about seeing him and all the progress that I’ve made, so it’s going to be a great weekend.

ELIAS: Very well.

TERRI: Thank you very much for all your encouragement and your help.

ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend, and I express my energy with you in supportiveness, in great encouragement and in tremendous appreciation. Incorporate fun!

TERRI: I will do that!

ELIAS: Very well, and I shall be anticipating our next meeting.

TERRI: Me too.

ELIAS: (Laughs) To you in great lovingness, my friend, au revoir.

TERRI: Au revoir.

Elias departs after 30 minutes.
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(1) From , 5/30/98: “Let me express to you, a belief system is as a bird cage. I have expressed this analogy previously, but I shall repeat it presently.

The bird cage is the belief system, but the bird cage holds many, many, many birds, and you may include many more birds into the cage, as many as you choose, for the cage expands and is accommodating of however many birds you choose to be placing in it, and it shall continue to expand, for it is quite accommodating.

This is the belief system, as the cage. The birds are all of the elements of the belief system, all of the aspects of the belief system, and I shall express to you that each belief system that you hold holds very many birds and may be quite tricky with you, for many of the birds are hiding behind other birds that you may not even allow yourselves to view. The point of acceptance is to open the door of the bird cage and allow the birds to fly away. Therefore, you continue to hold the cage, but it is empty.

The cage remains before you. You have not eliminated the cage, but the cage serves no purpose, for the birds are not contained, and in this it is merely a cage, an object for you to view and not maintain and not interact with, but merely just view, and in this you may express your opinion of the cage: “I view this cage to be quite lovely. I view this cage to be quite distasteful.” But it matters not, for it holds no purpose. It holds no function. There are no birds contained. And as the birds are allowed to fly away, they are transformed within energy and are no longer birds. Therefore, what shall you replace in the cage? There are no birds to put in the cage. It is merely an ornament.

(Intently) This be an action of your shift. This be one of your most affecting aspects of this shift in consciousness which shall be the most liberating of you, for in this action you allow yourselves to divert your attention, which has been held so singularly to your belief systems, away from the cage, which is merely ornamental. Therefore, in opposition to viewing this one cage within your room, you allow yourself to view the room. You allow yourself to view the vastness of all that is around the cage that you have not allowed yourself the openness in your attention to view, and all the wondrous creative elements that reside in that space, so to speak, that you have not viewed, for your attention has been directed to the cage and all of its birds.”

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