More Appreciation, Less Rigidness
“More Appreciation, Less Rigidness”
Saturday, December 4, 2004 (Private/Phone)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Letty (Castille)
(Elias’ arrival time is 13 seconds.)
ELIAS: Good morning!
LETTY: Good morning, Elias! (Elias chuckles) How are you, my good friend?
ELIAS: As always. And how are you interacting with your dirt?
LETTY: (Laughs) Well, I’ll tell you, there are times that I do remember, recall, and I try to have fun and remember who I’m whirling around. (Elias laughs) There are less times now that I forget and just want to get it out of the way or get it out of my house. But overall, yes, I do. The last two days, since I’ve been preparing for our session, I remember the fact that I’m not practicing. The fact that I haven’t been practicing paying attention in the now and most of your information has put me — which is the reason that I asked also for the session — in a funny position that I want to talk about.
But I first want to ask questions for two friends, one of them being Cindel.
ELIAS: Very well.
LETTY: She wants to know Robert’s brother’s essence name.
ELIAS: Essence name, Serge.
LETTY: Can you spell it, please?
LETTY: Her impression is that he is Sumafi/Borledim.
LETTY: And political focus.
LETTY: Wow! A 100 for her! (Elias laughs)
My friend Gregoria met my cousin, and she fell head over heels over him, regardless of the age — which there’s a big belief system about that. She’s had her ups and downs with him already, and the fact that he is in Arizona and she’s in California, but she’s still very much attracted to him. So I want to validate me first, where they connected. I connect to my cousin as being another one of my johns in my prostitute focus, and I think she was a prostitute in the same house as I was.
LETTY: He was probably her favorite.
LETTY: And that’s why the big attraction.
ELIAS: One of, yes.
LETTY: Okay, that was my validation. Her question is why did she meet him at this state in her life? I’m not sure exactly where she’s coming from; you’d probably know that better. There’s that attraction she wanted to work, yet she sees a lot of challenges.
ELIAS: I am understanding of the challenges, but the reason that she has drawn this individual to herself now is partially to be examining those challenges and becoming more aware of her own preferences and more familiar with her automatic responses, but also partially to introduce to herself new adventures and to infuse into her experience with these new adventures a new manner of perception. That involves allowing and offering herself more freedom in a manner that is encouraging.
Therefore, as always, she is incorporating interesting choices now, for she may choose to be continuing in the familiar and perhaps limiting herself or restricting herself, or she may choose to be moving into the unfamiliar and offering herself much more freedom.
LETTY: One of the things that I’ve noticed that is unfamiliar with her is that her energy since she’s been, quote-unquote, in love is much more relaxed.
LETTY: Which is not common for her.
ELIAS: I am aware.
LETTY: Okay, she’ll be very appreciative.
I have one more question from Cindel. She has a perception that Gregoria is a focus of Jennifer Lopez.
ELIAS: No. Counterpart.
LETTY: It’s been awhile since we last talked, and there’s a couple of things that have happened in the last few months — thank you for attending my wedding! We had fun.
ELIAS: And I may thank you for your invitation! (Laughs)
LETTY: We all had fun, so I’m sure you participated. (Elias chuckles) I wanted to ask you for a validation. After my wedding and on my honeymoon, I had that nerve pain again that I’ve had once before, only on one side of my leg. It wasn’t too drastic, but very uncomfortable. I picked up the purpose while I was still there, even though I still want to ask you why I had a hard time letting it go. I let it go the minute we got off the cruise. It had to do with personal responsibility for my husband, who is not as used to, like I am, traveling and experiencing and adventuring things. He’s more into his home. There were times I felt he wasn’t as comfortable as I planned. I felt personally responsible.
LETTY: It was incredible, the way that when we got off the ship the whole issue was over, and the pain was over. (Elias chuckles) I wish I could have dissipated it before, but I guess even though I recognized what was going on, I still wasn’t able to or couldn’t figure out how to let that go and I had it until the end of the trip.
ELIAS: Yes, and also to emphasize this action to yourself.
LETTY: I do that very well! (Elias chuckles) Which brings me to another experience. We had problems with the airline, in that we were very uncomfortable with our seats. Of course, we tried to upgrade. We’ve talked so much about creating and allowing ourselves to create, to be able to upgrade to be more comfortable. The interesting thing for me was that I ended up being even more uncomfortable, because when we could not upgrade, we still got our little seats and I ended up sitting next to a very, very, very nice but very heavy woman, and part of her was on my side.
So again, I think I was still in the same energy level that I could observe and see and understand conceptually what was I creating, yet I didn’t seem to understand why I couldn’t create what I wanted. I think it was because I could not get relaxed, and my belief system, number one, of money, because upgrading was going to be so much more expensive. In the moment, we said we didn’t care about the money, but maybe in energy I still doubted my ability.
ELIAS: Yes, and were associating with the amount of money that had already been incorporated. Generating an addition to that volume that was already generated was influencing of you to be incorporating tension and somewhat of an anxiety, and not allowing yourself to relax.
LETTY: So I perpetuated even my idea of comfortable and became even more uncomfortable.
ELIAS: Correct. That is an expression of not allowing yourself to follow your own communications, but rather succumbing to doubt and not trusting.
LETTY: I understood that so perfectly. Now that I think about it at this point, it was maybe not practicing with my breathing and how to relax, because I could not find... I just kind of closed myself to the relaxing.
ELIAS: I am understanding, which also offers you an example of how you generate experiences that you do not necessarily want and that may be uncomfortable, (by) not trusting yourself, not paying attention to your own communications and not allowing yourself your own freedom, and therefore also not allowing yourself to relax.
LETTY: I can even remember the feeling that I wanted to (inaudible). I tried to tell myself that it mattered not...
LETTY: (Inaudible) ...relaxing and letting the energy flow.
LETTY: Can we move onto the next question? I hope you can hear me.
My next question kind of goes the same way, that Brad and I are trying to sell at the swap meet. In our belief systems and our perception right now, we didn’t do very well. I understand completely that it has nothing to do with the product. It has to do with us creating the sale and the people that may want to purchase our items. At the beginning, I realized that we were both pushing energy in trying to force a sale with every person that came in. So I wanted to ask you, somewhere down the line is there another reason, other than doing that, that we’re not having sales?
I understand that the Shift has affected me in the familiar and the unfamiliar, and this is something that I thought in the past that I was not interested in and didn’t want to do, yet I find myself doing it. I have conflict with myself, that this is not what you’re supposed to do; you’re supposed to go on and find a job and get a resume. But what I’m doing is I’m blocking myself in being able to use my computer to do my resume to send it out or to look for information. I find myself doing stuff with the swap meet, which is just selling these tablecloths and doing spreadsheets on the inventory and buying things that we could use.
In trying to pay attention to what I’m doing, what I am, I have conflict. That’s the real purpose for this session. I want to understand my direction, because I’ve had some, as you well know, extreme frustration days. Reading the “Gem of the Month” for December, where you talked to Dawn about the Shift and understanding the choices between the familiar and the unfamiliar, that’s where I really want to go. I’m looking for other preferences that may not be familiar to me right now. It’s still uncomfortable. I’m allowing some of my belief systems to influence my perception, so I’m blocking myself and I feel like I’m not moving anywhere. I mean, I know I’m moving within energy, but I’m not moving in the sense that I’m understanding or feeling that this is what I would like to do.
ELIAS: I am understanding.
Now; in this, first of all, recognize that one of what you are generating is a rigidness, holding to that familiar in a rigid manner and not allowing yourself a flexibility.
In this, what did we discuss previously in the time framework in which you were attempting to allow yourself to explore other avenues? Are you remembering?
ELIAS: I expressed to you to experiment and play with imagination.
Now; I am aware that although you thought that you were playing with imagination, you were not playing with imagination in the manner in which I was suggesting. But the reason that that exercise was significant was to allow you to explore different areas, different perceptions, and allow for more creativity, and not be expressing that rigidness in one direction, which would also allow you to generate new inspirations.
Now; in this, as you are aware, you are clearly offering yourself imagery in association with your preferences, wanting to allow yourself more flexibility and more freedom in your expressions and in your creativity, and also generate money. Therefore, as you continue to move in the familiar direction in association with your resume and moving into structured establishments, you are ignoring the exploration of your preferences.
Now; in association with selling different articles at your marketplace, the reason that you are blocking that action from generating a successfulness is closely associated to the other direction of the structured establishments, for that is what is familiar. Therefore, when you engage this activity in your marketplace, you are generating a similar perception of structure and rigidness, that you must be incorporating specific actions to sell, which is not the point. The manner in which you shall accomplish successfulness is not necessarily to be selling, but to incorporate the action in your marketplace of appreciating what you are offering to other individuals. As YOU express that appreciation, the other individuals receive that energy and reflect in like kind in appreciation also. And if the other individuals are appreciating, they may choose to be acquiring.
In this, you engage an action of sharing with the other individuals in an expression of appreciation. Not that you are selling, so to speak, or exchanging, but you recognize and express the energy outwardly that you have generated this creation of this particular article, so to speak, and you appreciate its esthetic beauty. You are sharing that appreciation with the other individuals.
In shifting, remember, there are many different aspects to this action of shifting. One of those elements that is being accomplished is the dismantling of this concept of exchange. Eventually, at the accomplishment of this shift, exchange shall be obsolete, for it is unnecessary. That action is already beginning.
You and many other individuals are moving in that direction and are generating different types of actions that allow you to create money. There continues to be the element of exchange that is incorporated now, for it has not entirely been generated into the obsolete yet. But you are beginning to move in that direction by incorporating different types of actions, moving in different directions and altering your perception, rather than continuing to generate the perception of acquiring money in exchange for actions or goods. You are moving into more of a realistic perception of sharing actions or goods with other individuals and sharing the appreciation of them, and therefore creating the money or creating the action or goods.
The other individual is creating the goods; you are creating the money. Therefore, you are moving closer to the perception and the reality that you are not acquiring, but you are actually generating. Are you understanding?
ELIAS: Therefore, in your action of incorporating your marketplace and your goods, if you are generating a different perception and projecting a different type of energy in sharing and appreciation, your successfulness shall be much increased.
LETTY: Yes, I think the optimum word for the day is appreciation, and recognizing that it’s a word I have forgotten not only in my vocabulary but also in my everyday life. I have not been appreciating what I am creating or generating, and I have given myself conflict because of that.
ELIAS: And you do not acknowledge your accomplishments.
LETTY: And what a great person I am, and fabulous!
LETTY: I recognize that. Oh, Elias, you are such a wonderful reminder! (Elias laughs) I noticed that I had allowed myself, but I need to be continually doing it. I recognize it, and I’m okay with that; I accept it. It’s something that I need to continue doing to remind myself, you know? I’m finally at the point that many times I can say you’re uncomfortable or you’re unhappy with where you’re at at the moment, but pay attention to the now and yourself. Then I forget the value, the appreciation of myself or whatever it is that I have created.
ELIAS: Correct, and that is ultimately significant.
LETTY: I had three dreams that probably tell me the same thing, but there is one that I had a difficult time relating to, and maybe you can help me. This was with my friend, Letty, same as my name, who passed away many, many years ago. She actually came back from the dead in my dream, and I was telling her all about her death. The way I was feeling was that I had to be very careful because she was very fragile. There was another person involved, my friend Christina, who married Letty’s husband when he became a widower. There was a lot of emotion. Then all of a sudden, there was construction in the room that had to be done. There were changes, like there was a big wall and then it was decided that it had to be short.
I couldn’t really figure it out, and there may be more, but it tells me that I’ve been having conflict between those, and that it really doesn’t matter whether it is tall or short or whether it’s Letty or Christina, who I see as opposites to a certain degree, that everything can come together and it’s okay.
ELIAS: Yes, and also you are offering yourself imagery once again concerning rigidity and not allowing for the expression of difference.
LETTY: “Rigidity” is another word that I need to remember. I remember flexible but without letting go of the rigidity. (Elias laughs) I know it’s like forcing a square peg onto the circle.
LETTY: I now relate this to another of my questions. My eyesight is getting worse. The doctor told me, and I could believe him about aligning with a mass beliefs, my age, everything. But something tells me that I create it as objective imagery to communicate. That’s the easiest way for me to communicate. I think that I’m looking closer for clarity. I can’t see clearly far over there, and I’m telling myself you don’t have to look that far.
LETTY: It’s right here.
ELIAS: Correct, and to be allowing yourself to focus upon you, rather than continuously projecting your attention outwardly in association with other individuals or situations.
LETTY: And why did I hit my head with a can of cranberry sauce, Elias?
ELIAS: (Laughs) I may express to you that this is quite creative and humorous also, for this is what you have generated in association with slapping yourself in the head to gain your attention. Your attention has not been held with yourself or in the now recently, and you have not been listening to your own communications. You have been attempting to ignore them, or you have been generating struggle with them. You have quite efficiently distracted yourself recently!
LETTY: Yes, I have, and I do believe that that all has to do with the familiar and the unfamiliar.
ELIAS: And you have moved into unfamiliar.
LETTY: Yes. I’m also not only married, my husband is at home all day, I’m at home — you know, is this right or wrong? Trying to do what I should be doing, the way...
ELIAS: And those are the familiar expressions, the old familiar expressions, expressing that rigidity with yourself and the expectations of yourself. In those expectations, you express to yourself what you should do, what you should not do, what is the right and wrong, what is the good and the bad, how to be expressing better. In all of these expectations of yourself, you also express many conditions with yourself. That is another expression of rigidity and not allowing yourself. In all of that, you are projecting your attention outward, and you are forgetting to be paying attention to you and listening to you. Therefore, you hinder your freedom.
LETTY: Yes, for liking and enjoying change. I think this is one of the times — I’m sure I’ll have other ones — that going into the unfamiliar has been more difficult for me than at other times.
ELIAS: For you are attempting to incorporate old familiarities with the new unfamiliar direction, and they do not fit.
LETTY: No, they don’t. Some of it has been almost guilt, that I feel guilty because I’m not cooking — because I’m at home all day, you know — or I’m not looking on the Internet for all the hours that I can to search for a job. I’ve allowed myself to kind of get on that little hamster wheel day to day, but I am telling myself to break from that.
ELIAS: Very well, for what do you create if you move in that direction? You create conflict, and you shall reflect that in your new environment with your partner.
LETTY: Yes. I know we reflect each other so well in many instances, as you well know, and within energy. But there was one that I wanted to ask you about. I know my attention goes to him a lot, and I’m trying to practice supportiveness in allowance of his creations, allowing it, that it’s okay and accepting it. But I’m curious. I know it’s an attention signal to him when his car alarm goes off, whether he presses the button or a car passes by, but it’s something that just irritates him a lot. He gets angry to where he can’t even turn it off. Is there more to it, other than getting his attention? Because it’s loud!
ELIAS: It is acquiring his attention, but in a specific manner to allow himself to recognize one of his automatic responses, how he generates an automatic response of irritation so very quickly and immediately in certain situations. This is an example to him to be recognizing this automatic response, and therefore being more aware of what type of energy he projects in the moment in which he is expressing that automatic response of irritation, how it is triggered and what type of energy is expressed by him in that irritation and the intensity of it.
LETTY: So it’s like practicing, maybe, not being so irritated, or recognizing at the moment that he probably could turn it off in the moment.
LETTY: I don’t think I have much more, because I think you gave me the most important information. Before I forget, though, Marta sends his love and regards. As you know, he’s going through his little ups and downs right now, but he told me that he’s talking to you twice a day. He really didn’t have a question, but he wanted me to give you objectively a hello.
ELIAS: And you may offer the same in response from myself to him. I acknowledge our interactions, and I shall continue to be expressing my energy with him in supportiveness.
LETTY: Many moments I call for your energy and I do feel it, but then I notice that within the moment I turn my attention away.
ELIAS: And perhaps you shall allow yourself to be more relaxing and receiving.
LETTY: Yes, thank you so much. Let me see. Oh, there was another dream where Brad, my husband, turned into a small crab who could sit in the palm of my hand. I could touch him and feel him, and all of a sudden he disappeared. I could not find him, and it was so important for me to find him and look for him. Before I allowed myself to find him, I woke myself up. Is there more to the fact that obviously I had my attention on him instead of on me?
ELIAS: And also offering yourself imagery concerning your value of him and your relationship and the threat of loss.
LETTY: Why, is there a threat of loss that I’m...?
ELIAS: No, but...
LETTY: You mean just on a general...
ELIAS: Yes, for as you move into an expression and experience of valuing, there is an automatic threat underlying of losing what you value so tremendously — but that also concerns appreciation. The threat of loss dissipates if you allow yourself to be expressing the appreciation in each day.
LETTY: At the end of our last conversation, our previous session, again you reminded me. Obviously, I believe my rigidness sometimes does not allow me to easily play with my imagination.
LETTY: I guess I’m discounting myself in the moment and thinking that if I really have not been... When I’m trying to figure something out, I always need examples. I need objective examples to help me understand or make it easier, I should say. The way Stella and I used to play with our imaginations, is that the kind of exercise that you were talking about? I mean, not necessarily imagination maybe with our selling, but just imagination out of the blue, like when we talked about I’m on a beautiful island...
LETTY: ...and here’s what’s happening.
ELIAS: Yes, and to incorporate your magic.
LETTY: I know. I love my magic, but I have left it outside. All this works around also with my everlasting concern, with everybody including myself, with the fact that I’m not working and I’m not bringing in money. I’m allowing my beliefs and my insecurity that I can’t sell enough to support me, but that’s not true...
LETTY: ...if I allow myself.
LETTY: (Sighs) Yes, thank you. I just relaxed in this moment.
ELIAS: Congratulations! (Both laugh)
LETTY: Oh, Elias, I love you so much. This has been wonderful. A lot of it has been review, I know.
ELIAS: Ah, but at times review is significant, for it reminds you to be generating that appreciation once again.
LETTY: Thank you.
ELIAS: You are very welcome, my friend. I express to you my great affection and tremendous fondness in our friendship.
LETTY: You too, my friend.
ELIAS: I anticipate our next meeting, and I shall be offering my energy to you. In great lovingness, Castille, au revoir.
LETTY: Au revoir, my dear.
Elias departs after 45 minutes.
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