Sunday, August 8, 2004 (Private)

Participants: Mary (Michael), Jennifer (Margarite) and Jared (Skyllar)

(Elias’ arrival time is 19 seconds.)

ELIAS: Good afternoon!

JEN: Hi!

ELIAS: (To Jared) Welcome!

JEN: It will probably just be me asking questions, Elias.

ELIAS: Very well.

JEN: I’ve been studying a little bit about the Minoan period of time, early civilization. It seems like that was a time where people had a relative degree of harmony amongst mankind. I’m curious whether or not it’s possible for mankind to cycle back to something that holds a relative degree of ease — this is just my perception in reading a limited amount of material about that timeframe — whether or not it’s possible, or whether mankind is on a path of continually experiencing, and that experience includes trauma and drama and all the stuff that’s going on in our world right now, which seems very far away from an earlier timeframe of ease.

ELIAS: It is possible. I may express to you, in explanation concerning this shift in consciousness, that the point of this shift is be widening your awareness, therefore allowing you to expand your exploration within physical focus, within a physical reality. In this, I shall not express to you that you are generating a direction of creating a utopia in association with this shift.

What you are creating is a movement in widening that allows you the objective awareness of all that you are creating, individually and collectively. In that awareness, you generate creating experiences intentionally, knowing what you are creating and knowing what your choices are rather than generating automatic responses, but intentionally generating different creations to provide yourselves with different experiences.

Therefore, yes, there is a potential to be creating much more harmony within your physical reality but not necessarily utopia, for individuals may continue to want to experience some creations that you may deem to be undesirable. Some individuals may choose to explore experiences of illness or of violence, but they shall know that they are choosing, and whomever they are participating with shall also know what they are creating and know that they are also choosing intentionally to be a victim to experience that.

JEN: Consciously be choosing, consciously.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: So that’s happening through the shift in consciousness...

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: ...that people are becoming more and more aware?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: So that timeframe did exist, then.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: Interesting time. Do I have a focus in that timeframe?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: Did Jer?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: I’ve developed this itchy neck thing. I can’t figure out what it’s tied to. My gut feeling is that it’s energetic, not allowing energy to flow. That will bring me to some other questions about not allowing a certain level of, well, ease is not the right word because I feel my life is relatively easy, but feeling like there’s a build-up of energy.

ELIAS: Correct. And your assessment?

JEN: Well, it’s frustrating. The build-up of energy is scary on some levels. It’s extreme sometimes in the way it manifests, like for instance playing tennis and getting extremely frustrated and feeling it physically within my physical body just welling up and the heat associated with it. I can see it and be conscious about it, but I’m not always able to quell it or to dissipate it or to release it in a way that isn’t harmful to myself or to others. I’m really proud of all the changes that I’ve made in my life. From sitting in this room two years ago to where I am today has been relatively quantum. The feeling then was kind of like being on this wave of energy, and now it’s sort of feeling like the wave is pummeling me more than being on top of it.

ELIAS: Which is quite an accurate description, I may express. What are you all participating in, in this time framework?

JEN: Well, the Shift.

ELIAS: Yes, and?

JEN: Jared and myself, or all of us beings?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: It seems like there’s a lot of trauma.

ELIAS: And what is generating that? What are you participating in?

JEN: I think a lot of it’s fear, of the unknown and...

ELIAS: You are participating in a wave. What is the wave?

JEN: It’s a wave of energy.

ELIAS: No. You are participating in another wave, which is addressing to truths. That is what you are participating in in this present time framework, and have been participating in that wave for what you would term to be approximately somewhat longer than a year.

This wave, as I have expressed many times previously, is very powerful. It is generating polarizations, which you view throughout your world, and it is generating a tremendous ease to be creating extremes. I have expressed from the onset of this particular wave that it is different from other waves that you have participated in. This wave is experiential, and it is more powerful than the other waves that have occurred previously.

Now; I have offered a type of analogy visualization previously with other individuals, which I shall reiterate with you also, to offer you an example of the intensity of this particular wave. And remember, it is being expressed experientially. Therefore, what you present to yourself shall not be intellectual. It shall be through experience, and therefore also much more powerful. This wave also incorporates the potential to generate tremendous freedom and to move you tremendously into an expanded awareness. But it may also easily generate frustration, conflict and trauma. It is a matter of how you incorporate the energy and if you are paying attention.

Now; in this visualization, allow yourself to visualize energy being projected by all of the individuals within your physical reality. Each individual is projecting energy continuously. That energy, figuratively speaking, flows outward and begins to form a collective energy, which may be likened to an immense cloud. As energy continues to be projected to this cloud and it continues to accumulate more power, it becomes a storm. As it becomes more powerful, it becomes an immense storm. Each of you as individuals, in association with this storm, have become individual lightning rods.

Now; being that lightning rod, within your perception, can be good, or it can be bad. It can be conflicting, or it can be beneficial. It is a matter of how you incorporate the energy. The energy from the storm is continuously projecting energy to each lightning rod, and each of you are receiving it in different manners. Those individuals that are generating more of an openness in association with energy more easily receive the strength of that energy of the collective, but this is not to say that they objectively recognize or understand what they are receiving and what they are incorporating. Therefore, it is immediately translated into some type of manifestation or imagery. Many, many, many individuals recently are translating that energy in manners that are conflicting or frustrating or uncomfortable, and they are generating this in extremes. Extremes are very easily expressed in this present time framework in what you deem to be good or bad — extremes in excitement and extremes in irritation. This is an element of the polarization that is occurring now, and that is occurring in relation to strength of energy that is being expressed.

Now; the key is to be aware that there is a tremendous strength of energy which is being expressed, and to be aware that there is a tremendous potential for automatic and easy extremes, and to be paying attention to what type of energy you are expressing, to be aware of what you are doing, and therefore aware of what type of energy you are expressing. It matters not that you allow yourself to receive, for what is important is how you manipulate that energy, how you configure it, and being aware of how you are also projecting. The more intensity that you project yourself, the more of a lightning rod you become, and therefore the more potential to be receiving more of an intensity of energy.

You are allowing yourself to receive the strength of the energy, but you are not paying attention to configuring that and manipulating that in a manner that is generating more of an ease. That energy may be manipulated in a manner to be empowering of you in the recognition of your own strength and your own power of energy. But in being unfamiliar with it and not incorporating a clear objective understanding of it — although I acknowledge that you have generated somewhat of an awareness and an understanding of the strength of the energy and your not channeling it, so to speak — therefore, it is creating an irritation, and that generates a frustration.

In paying attention to the reception of the energy, you may manipulate that in different manners. You expressed an example of the game. You feel this energy, it is interrupting your game, and that is generating frustration. Rather than interrupting your game, it may be channeled in a manner throughout your physical body consciousness to enhance your experience with the game and to allow you to play the game with more power.

JEN: And I’d be doing that by focusing back into self?

ELIAS: Focusing your attention upon the energy and moving it, dispersing it, allowing it to move naturally with your body consciousness, and therefore incorporating it within your actual physical body and the movement of your body, creating much more of a strength in your actual physical movement — generating a dance with the energy in a strength and powerfulness that is moving in the playfulness of the game, but also in an expression of power and beauty in movements.

JEN: Versus taking the energy and discounting myself.

ELIAS: Correct.

JEN: Well, that seems to be what happens. Sounds easy, but I know that in practice it’s not. This wave has been going for about a year, and how long is it going for, this wave of truth? When will it be done?

ELIAS: That would be your choice. I may express to you that it is generating more strength as it continues.

JEN: But it’s interesting that it can create tremendous freedoms.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: And freedoms from beliefs, is what I’m interpreting that to be.

ELIAS: Not from beliefs.

Now; that is significant also, for this is another element that has recently been being experienced in significant strength. Remember, this wave is addressing to truths. What are the truths? The truths are those beliefs that you have generated into absolutes.

In this, regardless of how many times I have expressed to how many individuals that you are NOT eliminating beliefs, that is an automatic response — you automatically associate that you are. You intellectually express that you are not and that you are attempting to be accepting beliefs, but you continue to attempt to eliminate them.

And now this is being evidenced in many individual’s experiences, in what they have experienced previously that may have been uncomfortable or conflicting or generating fear in association with their beliefs. They have moved in a time framework of different experiences, an extended time framework, and therefore have reinforced their association that they have eliminated those old beliefs and now they are done, and therefore it is not an expression that they shall be plagued with any longer. And once again, individuals are experiencing different evidences of those old experiences that they have “moved beyond,” but suddenly they have reappeared once again.

This is occurring purposefully. It allows you to identify that no, you are not eliminating beliefs. Those beliefs have been being expressed throughout the time framework; you have been choosing different influences, and in choosing different influences of these beliefs, you generate different experiences. It is not that the beliefs are gone; you are interacting with them differently. You are expressing them differently, and you are allowing yourself to express them in a manner that is more in keeping with your preferences. That is encouraging, for as you allow yourself to view what you have accomplished previously, you also may reinforce your trust that you can also again.

JEN: The thing about preferences is kind of interesting, because it seems like there’s a fine line between preferences and beliefs.

ELIAS: Preferences are beliefs; they are preferred beliefs. Beliefs are not your enemy.

JEN: But it’s hard sometimes, like around the whole being a mother or choosing not to be a mom, the beliefs about feeling really strongly that that’s what you do, and noticing them. I know I can’t eliminate them, but noticing that I’m making a different choice and then working toward being accepting of myself that I’m making a choice that’s different, where I may not get a lot of support. But it’s still been difficult, because I seem to discount myself on that choice, but it’s my preference.

ELIAS: Correct.

Now; allow yourself to recognize the influences of the belief. In recognizing the influences of the belief, you may reconcile the influences that you choose with your awareness of your preference. Your preference is not to be incorporating the role of mother, but the belief concerning that particular role has many different influences. It is not necessary for you to choose to facilitate an entering essence, but you may allow yourself to express yourself in your qualities of that role.

What is the role of the individual of a mother, what is the belief that a mother is? A nurturing, supportive, in some capacities guiding individual. Those qualities may be expressed regardless of whether you choose to engage birth. Therefore, the reason that you are discounting yourself and struggling with yourself is that your association is there are certain expressions that are attributed to that particular role and experience, that they are synonymous, and that if you are not expressing that role, you deny yourself those experiences. This is not true. It may be one of your truths, but it is not true.

What is significant and tremendously liberating concerning truths is that in examining your truths, rather than viewing them as bad and limiting, it offers you an opportunity to actually recognize different influences, and also to recognize that it may be your truth but it is not actually true. Therefore, it is a guideline. It is your guideline of how YOU choose, how YOU behave, how YOU express yourself. It is not necessarily applicable to any other individual; it may not be their truth. Conversely, their truths may not be your truth. In recognizing that, it allows you to be more accepting of difference, whether it be another individual’s difference or your own difference.

JEN: Well, I notice a lot of differences. I don’t know if it’s the Milumet alignment or what, but it feels like I don’t really conform all that well to the mass.

ELIAS: And it is not necessary.

JEN: Right. I think what is necessary is for me to be a little more accepting, because it’s become really extreme lately, the discounting of self, and perhaps has to do with this wave of truth. But you know, I feel just a darkness sometimes. I don’t know if it’s depression. Honestly, I have such a great life, and from what I had five years ago, the stress and the darkness, to what I’ve created now, I’m so happy with that. Yet there seems to be something that’s missing, and I think it’s probably a discounting of self, the fact that I don’t really want to conform to the conventional way of being, and trying to figure out what it is that I do want to produce. If it’s not a child, then what is it I want to produce? Because there’s something that I want to do, but I don’t know what it is. I said that two years ago, and it’s a little frustrating to feel like I’m saying it again.

ELIAS: And what have I expressed to you of the repetition? Those beliefs have not been eliminated, and therefore, once again, you are expressing in a very similar manner to what you did previously. But in the interim time framework, you allowed yourself different experiences and different explorations, not the intensity of the concentration that you did previously and that you are now.

JEN: Right, so it’s like I’m back full circle. I don’t want to be back full circle.

ELIAS: I am understanding. And this is what I have been expressing to you, to pay attention to what you are doing and what type of energy you are expressing. In noticing that, allow yourself your freedom, pay attention to what you are doing.

You express that you are discounting yourself, but that is quite general. You are discounting yourself how, more specifically? You are discounting yourself for you are not conforming. You do not want to conform, but you also discount yourself for not conforming for that is rebellious and childish and you should be beyond that. You are discounting yourself for you discount difference, and if difference is expressed, it is not as good. It is again not conforming. This is what I am expressing to you, to express that gentleness with yourself, the mothering with yourself, that nurturing, that acceptance.

Let me offer you a slight example. Let us express hypothetically that you did choose to incorporate a child.

Now; let us also express that that child expresses itself quite differently from other children. Would you discourage that child? I would express to you, knowing your energy, the likelihood is slim. If you viewed the child to be creative but not necessarily conforming to the manner that other children express themselves, the likelihood is that you would be encouraging.

This is what I am expressing to you: recognize the different influences of these beliefs and choose the influence that is more in keeping with your preference. It is not that you cannot express those qualities merely that you do not incorporate a child, but that you may be expressing those qualities with yourself, and therefore generate the openness in your energy to allow you to listen to what it is you wish to give birth to.

JEN: So you think I already know what that is, on some subjective level?

ELIAS: Yes. But...

JEN: I’m not ready to do it, and I’m not trusting myself.

ELIAS: And you are discounting yourself. You continue to discount yourself, not express that gentleness with yourself, and not view those qualities within yourself that you already possess. You keep placing them in this tiny little box associated with a child, that that is the one avenue that these qualities that you possess may be expressed — and it is not true.

JEN: Well, that just covered a lot of questions! (Elias chuckles) Is it possible that negative thoughts create negative reality?

ELIAS: No.

JEN: I know you’ve said that before, but a lot of times my thinking, not always, goes in the direction of negativity and darkness and perpetuates that...

ELIAS: That perpetuates your concentration. It is your indicator, for thought is your translator. Therefore, it is translating to you what you are concentrating upon.

JEN: So by shifting my attention, that will help to shift away the concentration on negativity?

ELIAS: Interrupt your pattern. Incorporate a different action. In moments that you notice and recognize that you are generating this darkness, interrupt that expression in doing a different action.

JEN: Actually physically doing a different action?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: Okay, that might help. Because I tried to shift my visual...

ELIAS: Incorporate an actual action, physical action, which interrupts that circle and distracts you.

JEN: So this illness that we share, is that related to this whole discounting self and the child issue as well?

ELIAS: In what capacity?

JEN: Well, why we keep perpetuating it. I get sick and Jared gets sick, and it keeps going back and forth.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: So then I might be able to discount that physical illness by changing the concentration of attention?

ELIAS: Correct, and also by not continuously generating this concentration upon “shoulds.”

JEN: I’m living my life a lot differently than I was doing, which feels great. The feeling about wanting to produce something else, perhaps part of it is a should, but a part of it feels like a desire.

ELIAS: I am aware.

JEN: I don’t know if it has something to with the Milumet alignment. My sense is that it does, the objective, subjective. It’s so nebulous sometimes. It’s hard to know how to channel it, you know? The yoga is part of it. It’s like the body, mind, spirit, and I feel that I’ve got two of those three going. I guess they’re all going on some levels, but wanting to tap one a little more. That would be more the mind, I guess, what I deem to be production.

ELIAS: And the manner in which you accomplish that is what we have been discussing, paying attention to what you are actually doing — not what you think you are doing, but what you are actually doing.

JEN: Well, I’m not actually writing anything; I do notice that. Although, I think about writing things.

ELIAS: Ah, but thought does not precede reality, and it does not create reality. (Chuckles)

JEN: Okay, let’s see. (To Jared) Do you have any questions?

JARED: Well, I’d like to know my alignment and focus. I’m unclear as to what those things mean, but...

ELIAS: And your impression?

JEN: Mine?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: I did get his essence name once, and I can’t remember what it is, so that would be cheating if I actually could remember it. The family alignment, it’s not Milumet. I want to say Ilda, Ilda or Gramada.

ELIAS: As alignment?

JEN: No, his alignment is probably Sumafi — or Sumari. I can never really remember mine, except for Milumet.

ELIAS: (Laughs) I may express to you, Gramada and alignment Sumari.

JEN: Am I Sumari or Sumafi?

ELIAS: And shall you not investigate?

JEN: I could investigate, but you’re right here.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) You may incorporate that type of information with Michael.

JEN: Gramada/Sumari.

JARED: That’s a good first step.

JEN: Do you want your essence name?

JARED: Sure, sure.

ELIAS: Which has been offered.

JEN: Right, and I can’t remember what it is.

ELIAS: And you may incorporate with Michael also. (Chuckles)

JEN: Is there anything that you want to offer me or Jared before I ask some questions for my sister?

ELIAS: Merely to express a reminder that I am ALWAYS encouraging of you and that I am ALWAYS offering you energy and that I am always available.

JEN: Right, not just in sessions.

ELIAS: Correct.

JEN: I just see myself trying to offer myself this freedom. A lot has changed in moving in that general direction, and it would be nice to be able to harness this wave of energy and the aspect of freedom versus...

ELIAS: Restriction.

JEN: And conflict.

ELIAS: Remember your power, and in complement to your power, remember gentleness.

JEN: Is power somewhat related to the Milumet family, or is it just...

ELIAS: No, that would be an expression and a quality that is attributed to you all.

JEN: And after this wave, what comes next?

ELIAS: That is dependent upon your choices and what you choose collectively. You have not chosen yet, for you are concentrating upon THIS wave. (Chuckles)

JEN: That’s really interesting, because going back to that first question about that time period when they seemed to have a greater level of ease, I’m sure that this material wasn’t articulated in quite the same way, but it almost seems that people were much more conscious of their choices. Why would we as consciousness, exploring this physical dimension, move away from that to possibly be coming now back to a way where we...

ELIAS: To experience.

JEN: So it’s about experiencing, unfolding, folding in...

ELIAS: Correct.

JEN: There’s no finish line; there’s no utopian world that we’re looking to create. It’s just about being.

ELIAS: Correct. And exploring all that you may generate and all that you may experience.

JEN: It’s so funny. Maybe it’s just the nature of humans or consciousness to look for something greater and look for “this has to be the answer” kind of thing.

ELIAS: That is an expression of your beliefs. That is associated with religious beliefs, which are also not bad, for that is motivating. It motivates you to explore and to test yourselves and to explore your abilities.

JEN: And those abilities are far more reaching than what we allow ourselves physically to do right now.

ELIAS: Quite.

JEN: For instance, transporting ourselves. All of those are accessible if we were able to get beyond the beliefs, not to eliminate them, but to recognize them and then...

ELIAS: Not to move beyond them, to move WITH them.

JEN: But that means everybody in general has to be moving in similar...

ELIAS: Not necessarily. In your common vernacular, to USE your beliefs in accordance with your preferences rather than continuing to struggle with your beliefs and viewing them as hindrances, to view them and to recognize that EVERY belief incorporates many, many different influences.

Therein lies your freedom, for you may choose which influence you wish to express. Every belief incorporates some influence that would be more in keeping with your preferences. It is merely a matter of genuinely examining your beliefs and recognizing how they influence your perception, but how they may also influence your perception in a different manner.

JEN: Right, as in offering us freedom.

ELIAS: Correct.

JEN: It’s so exciting when it feels obtainable, and then it can conversely feel overwhelming. Because if you just look at the conventional things about needing to make money to survive, to pay bills, blah-blah-blah, trying to create something that’s not necessarily on that same conventional track, it almost seems like more energy is used to I don’t want to say fight it, because it’s more like understanding it and allowing yourself the awareness, the openness. But it does seem like it’s almost more energy than allowing yourself to slip into something that’s comfortable, not even necessarily comfortable, but what the norm is.

ELIAS: I am quite understanding. And this is generated for you complicate.

JEN: We make it more complicated?

ELIAS: Yes. Allow yourself to contemplate, even momentarily, how easily and how effortlessly you generate some manifestation that is uncomfortable. Do you incorporate thought previously? No. Do you plan? No, you merely do. And you do effortlessly, but with strength, with considerable power. That strength and power is not limited to what you may generate in a moment of uncomfortableness. You incorporate that same strength to be generated in accordance with preferences. And remember, preferences are beliefs also; they are merely preferred.

JEN: And that’s a tricky one. My sister and I were talking about preferring to be thin, for instance — seeing someone who’s overweight, recognizing that you hold a preference, but then possibly going in the direction of judging yourself for noticing your preference.

ELIAS: But why shall you judge yourself for noticing your preference? It is your preference.

JEN: And it’s that person’s choice to be overweight or not.

ELIAS: Correct.

JEN: That’s where the “it matters not” comes in.

ELIAS: Correct.

Let me express to you, as I have previously with many individuals, duplicity is a belief system, also, and it is not being eliminated, either. You continue to generate assessments, you continue to generate some type of judgment, but not the type of judgment that you have incorporated previously.

I have expressed from the onset of this forum that you are moving into acceptance, that you continue to express your opinions and your preferences, but what is being altered is that you recognize that those are not absolutes. They are YOUR guidelines. They are what you incorporate to guide yourself in association with how you present yourself, how you manifest yourself, how you behave, what you choose, how you interact, how you create YOUR reality.

But those preferences, those truths that you incorporate with yourself are not necessarily applicable to any other individual within your physical reality. Therefore, you may prefer to be expressing your physical form in a manner of slender, and that holds value to you; it is one of your preferences. It may even be one of your truths, and therefore, being expressed in a strength, you shall be strongly motivated to continue to incorporate a slender physique, but you do not incorporate a judgment of another individual that does not incorporate a slender physique. You recognize that that may be their preference or it may be associated with their beliefs, and it matters not for it is not threatening to you to be accepting of that difference. The other individual incorporating more weight does not diminish your value of thin, and that preference is not wrong.

JEN: Preference and truth, you use them as though they’re different.

ELIAS: At times your preferences are not your truths. Generally speaking, there is some element of preference in all of your truths, but you may not necessarily recognize the element of preference in conjunction with some of your truths.

JEN: I guess I thought truths were things like love, sound, color.

ELIAS: Those are truth-truths.

JEN: So, like energetic truths.

ELIAS: In a manner of speaking. Those are truths of consciousness that translate within all areas of consciousness. What we are discussing is associated with this wave addressing to truths, and as I have defined, the term of “truths” in this context is concerning beliefs that you have generated into absolutes. Therefore, they are unquestioned.

JEN: And restricting.

ELIAS: They may be. They also may be liberating as you recognize them and realize that they are not actually true but they are your guidelines, and they incorporate many different influences and that you may be choosing those influences.

An example of a truth: rain is produced by clouds and falls from the sky, down. Unquestioned, does not incorporate thought, it merely is. There is no need to question, for it is. Therefore, it has been generated into an absolute, and therefore has become one of your truths. I may express to you, it is not true, for at times rain may appear without clouds and does not always fall down. (Chuckles)

JEN: Let me go through some questions from Merrie — who’s not here, as you can see, but who is with us in spirit. Merrie had a question about a sense of fear of death, should she listen to it, i.e., is it her intuition — meaning, I think, when she rides her motorcycle at great speeds — or is it more of a belief that what she’s doing is a dangerous activity and more of a belief that’s impacting her, versus her own intuitive guide?

ELIAS: Both.

JEN: That will confuse her!

ELIAS: (Laughs) There is an incorporation of a belief that incorporating what you perceive to be dangerous activities expresses a potential to be harmful and therefore the potential for the choice of death. But there is also a communication which is being expressed within herself, recognizing the strength of that belief, and is, in a manner of speaking, her own cautioning to herself that in association with the strength of that belief, there is also a potential that she may create that in conjunction with that belief. Therefore, she generates her own inner cautioning.

JEN: Oh, so the caution is really about the belief.

ELIAS: It is concerning the belief and the potential to actualize it. It is quite similar to an action in which an individual may incorporate speaking to what you term to be a psychic, and the psychic expressing to the individual a future event and thusly generating the suggestion. There is a tapping into the individual’s energy and what is being expressed in that moment, but as a potential. But in expressing that to the individual, it generates a suggestion, and subsequently the individual quite likely shall create precisely what has been predicted. This is a similar expression.

The belief is expressed strongly, and inwardly she is offering herself a communication of caution in recognition of the strength of that belief and its being expressed quite strongly, and therefore generating a potential that she may actually actualize the fear.

JEN: She wanted to know if she has a focus in the 1700s as an African-American woman.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: And the significance of the color yellow — she sees a lot of yellow.

ELIAS: Emotion — pay attention to communications.

JEN: Emotional communications?

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: She asked about honoring her own needs versus diminishing those needs if another person can’t meet them. For instance, if she’s looking for a certain amount of attention/affection from a partner and that person isn’t able to provide what she would like, that she would diminish those desires in order to match, I guess. I think what she was asking was, to honor her own needs.

ELIAS: Yes.

JEN: But then that might mean that she’s becoming aware that those needs aren’t necessarily being met by...

ELIAS: And they shall not be. This is an expectation concerning other individuals and what she may acquire from other individuals.

I understand that this is confusing, but it is important that she pay attention to herself and recognize what SHE wants to express, not what she wants the other individual to express. For in allowing herself to express herself, that generates no expectation of the other individual, and in generating no expectation of the other individual, the other individual receives the energy and is much more open to be reciprocating.

The expectation creates an immediate threat and is experienced by the other individual regardless of any verbal communication, for the energy is recognized. Regardless of whether you actually express in words any type of expectation or whether you deny that you are expressing an expectation, the energy is immediately experienced and recognized by the other individual, and they know and that is responded to.

In this, it is not what she or any of you want FROM another individual. It is what you want to allow yourself to express. It is not that she wants the other individual to be expressing affection, but that she is not allowing herself to express the affection and the passion that she experiences; she reserves and therefore is not allowing her own expression, her own appreciation of not merely herself but of another individual, rather than focusing merely upon what she wants the other individual to appreciate. That is an automatic by-product.

JEN: That’s a big one. Awesome! Thank you.

ELIAS: You are very welcome, my dear friend. I shall be anticipating our next meeting, (to Jared) and perhaps you shall participate! (Laughs) I shall offer my promise that I shall not bite you! (Jared laughs with Elias) And perhaps we shall incorporate a game in our next meeting and incorporate somewhat more playfulness and less seriousness.

JEN: I’d like that.

ELIAS: Very well!

JARED: Maybe tennis or something.

ELIAS: Ah, in powerful swings! (All laugh) I express my affection to you both and my encouragement in your movement, and offer my energy in supportiveness to each of you. Until our next meeting, my friends, au revoir.

BOTH: Au revoir.

Elias departs after 1 hour, 6 minutes.

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