Session 1393

Balancing Planning for the Future and Being in the Now


“Balancing Planning for the Future and Being in the Now”
“The Truth of ‘Limitation of Time’”
“What If”
“Receiving Requires Exposure”

Thursday, July 17, 2003 (Private/In-Person)

Participants: Mary (Michael), Peter (Marlyn) and Karin

Elias arrives at (time not available).(1)

ELIAS: Good afternoon!

PETER: Hello.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) Greetings.

PETER: How are you?

ELIAS: As always. And yourself?

PETER: Ja, I am fine, sir. (Elias chuckles) This is my record. It’s called “Acceptance.” It’s because I’m a fan of yours, obviously. I had this question whether you could help me to bring my music to the people, if you could give me some support in this result. I would love to bring my music to as many people as possible.

ELIAS: Very well. I shall offer my energy to you in supportiveness, and I may suggest to you that you attempt to not force your energy so hard.

PETER: Okay, thank you. That’s what I assume this is for, right? That is, I want to be patient and to feel good in the present time.

ELIAS: Correct, and knowing that patience is not waiting.

PETER: Ja. It is allowance.

ELIAS: Patience is allowance...

PETER: ...allowance to let the right moment slip into my reality.

ELIAS: To CREATE it into your reality. (Chuckles)

PETER: Sometimes, I think my problem is that I want to play more concerts and it’s always in the future, and I want to be in the present time. But planning is actually projection to the future, and that might be a problem of mine, to think in future terms. So, I don’t know.

ELIAS: Very well.

Now; this is a very common misconception and misunderstanding. I speak to many individuals concerning holding their attention in the now, for many, many, many individuals project themselves into the future and hold their attention in the future, and therefore are not paying attention to what is occurring now — which is significant, for this alters their reality for they are not paying attention to what they are creating.

As I have stated many times to many individuals, the future always follows the present; therefore, it is always after the present. For you plan of the future, but it is created in the present, and therefore, when the future arrives it IS the present. For you project into the future, and where do you return? After you have projected into the future, you return to the present, which follows the future.

Now; in this, there is a difference between being aware of certain directions that you are incorporating in relation to the future, being aware of what you are generating in relation to the future and continuing to pay attention to what you are doing now and what your direction is now, and projecting into the future to the exclusion of the now.

Now; for the most part, as you may be accessing the information in transcriptions, what you are availing yourself of is interactions that I am generating with individuals that are projecting their attention into the future to the exclusion of what they are generating now. Which, with some individuals, that becomes confusing, for you all lean in the direction of black and white: you either project into the future or you pay attention to the now, and if you are paying attention to the now, it must be to the exclusion of all else, which is not what I am expressing to any of you.

You naturally move between the past, the present and the future with your attention. This is a natural movement. That flexibility offers you information in relation to experiences, which is valuable. But if an individual is projecting their attention to the past or to the future to the exclusion of the now, that becomes dangerous, for that incorporates conflict and confusion for the individual no longer objectively understands what they are creating, and they generate conflict and confusion.

Now; in relation to natural movement, most individuals — not all, but most individuals — as you do incorporate linear time and this IS your reality, you move in a direction of balancing your attention with anticipation or what you term to be planning in your direction in association with the future, but not losing awareness of what you are generating now, creating a genuine understanding that what you do now is affecting of what is being created for the future, for it is all simultaneous.

Therefore, if your attention is merely in the future and you are not paying attention to what you are actually generating now, you generate a potential to sabotage what you want in the future. You want to be generating your concerts in the future. In that, pay attention to what you are generating now, what type of energy you are expressing outwardly. What are you drawing to yourself? This is an indication. For what you draw to yourself is a reflection of what energy you are projecting outwardly.

PETER: Ja, for instance, I have a big concert I did draw to myself which is on the 23rd of August. But I wonder why I don’t have more concerts, because I would love to have such a concert every week. Sometimes I wonder why it is just every second month or something, you know? I feel so much energy in myself, and I would love to give myself to the public. I love to sing in public and to speak in public and to bring my feelings to the public. I sometimes wonder why I don’t play more in public, because I practice every day and I love to practice, but still I love to play in public, too, you know?

ELIAS: I am understanding.

Now; once again, the manner in which you allow yourself an objective understanding is to examine what you are actually doing and to evaluate what is significant and valuable to you, and also to recognize what beliefs are influencing you — one (is) limitation of time.

Now; this is significant, for as we are engaging this wave in consciousness addressing to the belief system of truth, one of your truths is that there is limits of time.

Now; if there are limits of time, that suggests that you may limitedly accomplish.

Now; if you are examining what is significant to you and what you value — not merely performing, but also composing, also interacting, also friendships and relationships — which in association with this truth require time. If there is a limitation of time, in order to accomplish all of these actions, you must limit the time associated with each action. Therefore, you are also limiting your freedom and your expression.

PETER: So you think I should become aware that there are no limitations of time, really?

ELIAS: Time is flexible. It is not an absolute. Although this is one of your truths, for it has become an absolute, it is actually not true. It is a belief that has been set into an absolute.

Now; in this, time is flexible. The key to the flexibility of time is to be aware of the now and what you are doing. Let me express to you, most individuals within your physical dimension are unaware of much of their time, for they are NOT paying attention. Therefore, in your terms, essentially they are wasting much time, or they are not utilizing the time in manners in which they are aware of.

Example — and understand that this is not bad, it is merely an example — within one day, if you are incorporating two hours planning a future event, actually physically engaging the plan of the future event, and subsequent to those two hours you are incorporating in different intervals another two hours, perhaps not consecutively but within your day an accumulative two hours of projecting and thinking of that planning that you had engaged concerning that future event, you have occupied two more hours of not actually physically planning the event but projecting your attention into the future and not paying attention to those two hours that you may have been directing in a different manner to be accomplishing what you THINK you do not have time for.

PETER: So, it’s possible to plan in the present time?


PETER: Ja, this is probably the key, because I suppose I sometimes doubt it is possible to be in the present time and plan for the future. But I think it is possible to stay in present time...


PETER: ...and plan for the future.


PETER: And I do this by refocusing on the planning? How do I accomplish this now?

ELIAS: By being aware of what you are actually DOING rather than scattering your energy — focusing your energy and knowing what you want, generating your plan, not to the exclusion of the now (but) knowing what you are actually doing in this moment, and incorporating an objective awareness of your direction.

I am understanding of your physical reality, that there are certain steps, so to speak, that you incorporate to accomplish certain actions that shall be actualized in the future, perhaps traveling, generating arrangements to be incorporating that traveling to move to your destination. But the actual incorporation of the action of that plan or the arrangements of the traveling incorporates actually little time, but for the most part you continue to generate an attention in relation to it.

PETER: Ja. Worry, to worry about it.

ELIAS: Yes! And therefore, you incorporate the action repeatedly. Not physically...

PETER: Mentally.

ELIAS: Yes. Your attention is not present. And you project in association with the largest word, which is one of the smallest words, the “if.” What if, what if, what if. Once you begin to move into what if, what if, what if, your attention is occupied very much in the future, attempting to solve dilemmas that have not occurred, in anticipation of dilemmas which are not present and have not occurred.

Now; what are you creating and DOING in that action? In that projection, you are actually reinforcing an expression of energy outwardly to CREATE the dilemmas that you anticipate.

PETER: It’s a bit funny, because I never thought that there was... They had promised to record this session, and then I came in and Mary had blown her video recorder. We solved this problem quite easily because I didn’t worry beforehand. So I chose to be active in the present time and to solve any challenges which occur.

It’s a similar process because it is a technical thing, how the technical works and if the sound is good...

ELIAS: Correct!

PETER: ...and I often worry about the technical. Today I didn’t worry about the technical and I solved the technical problems.

ELIAS: Correct. It is a matter of addressing to it in the moment rather than anticipating into the future. If the “what if” occurs, can you solve that in the present if it is a projection of the future? No. What are you attempting to fix? It is in anticipation of the broken.

This is the reason that this has occurred this day as an example, the appearance of equipment that is broken. It is not, but the appearance that it is broken; it is interrupted. In the moment, what appeared to be a problem is not and it is solved. Therefore, it is unnecessary to be projecting in association with an anticipation of “what if.”

PETER: So you think because I would love to be a pop star, it is because I would love to help people to be happy in the moment? I think this is very important, to be happy in the normal, day-to-day work. I learned this in my practice as a musician. Our concerts are very short but we have a whole life being a musician. I think I can get this message to my listeners, and that is why this big wish to be famous and to be a pop star. Do you think this is okay?

ELIAS: Quite! (Peter laughs) And if you are paying attention to yourself and if you are trusting yourself, you may create that quite easily.

PETER: I have to pay attention to myself.

ELIAS: Yes, to pay attention to your influences.

PETER: Influences?

ELIAS: Yes, that we have been discussing. This association, this truth that you incorporate in association with time is a belief.

PETER: So there is plenty of time for me...


PETER: ...unlimited time.

ELIAS: Yes, and unlimited energy.

PETER: Ja, this is important for me to accept. Sometimes I fear that I have not enough energy to accomplish my goal to be famous and to play every day and to be on the radio and to be in public.

ELIAS: Now; I may express to you also another identification. If this is what you want as a genuine want, I may express to you a suggestion that you examine your association with receiving and exposure, for you may not receive without exposure in any manner. For receiving requires openness, and receiving is very significant if you choose to be generating that type of expression. Your association is that you are giving, but in this, you may be expressing yourself but you also must be incorporating a willingness to be receiving, for this is the key.

You express to myself, “Why am I generating these concerts once in this amount of time? I want to be creating this concert in this amount of time and this often, and I want to be incorporating a public interaction,” so to speak. Receiving is essential, for you are interactive with other individuals, generating a cooperation to create that type of expression. Therefore, you also must generate an openness to receiving, not merely giving. It is not an action one-way, and receiving requires exposure.

Therefore, my suggestion is that you examine your willingness for exposure and your capacity for what you allow yourself to receive. Your genuine capacity is unlimited, but what you allow is different from your capacity.

PETER: I sometimes see that I am a little bit shy. This means that I do not expose myself enough. It is hard for me to expose myself, to make myself open so that I can... Because I have to cooperate with other people if I want to be a public person. So I should let go of some fear, because there might be a little fear that it might be dangerous to expose myself, to open myself or something like this. (Laughs)

ELIAS: I am quite understanding, which is not unusual. But as I have stated, you may not receive if you are not exposed. It matters not what type of receiving you are incorporating, for you move together in balance and in harmony. You cannot receive if you are not open. And if you are not exposed, you are not open.

Now; also do not incorporate that statement in black and white — which is an automatic response — for I am not expressing to you that you, in your terms, bare your soul to your entire physical reality. This is your choice. But the willingness to be expressing exposure opens you to the allowance of receiving, and I may express to you also, the more exposure that you express, the more capacity you incorporate to receive and the more freedom you offer yourself. In freedom, you generate (inaudible).

PETER: So this wish to expose myself is a good wish on my journey to be a public artist, to work in public. I have this wish deep inside of me to expose myself to the public, but there were some people in my life who said, “Peter, it is just vain or something. It’s not good to expose yourself.” I think it’s good for me to expose myself.

ELIAS: Yes. It is not vanity and it is not arrogance. It is an acceptance of yourself, which in genuine acceptance and genuine exposure you are not attempting to be expressing judgment of other individuals. You are not elevating yourself above other individuals. You are merely acknowledging yourself in your trust and your acceptance of yourself and allowing yourself that exposure, and that generates a tremendous capacity to be receiving. Also, the more that you are receiving in that freedom that it generates, the more that you allow yourself to freely express outwardly your creativity.

PETER: That is very interesting, ja. Thank you.

ELIAS: (Chuckles) You are quite welcome.

PETER: I would like to ask for my essence family and things like this as well, okay? Can I give you my guess?


PETER: My guess is essence family is Sumafi, alignment Sumari, orientation is soft and political focused.

ELIAS: I am quite acknowledging of you! You are correct.

PETER: Oh! Good! (Elias chuckles) I have read your sessions a little bit the last three years, because I love to read them. And can you give me my essence name?

ELIAS: Essence name, Marlyn, M-A-R-L-Y-N (MAR lin).

PETER: Thank you. Merlin was a sorcerer.

ELIAS: Quite so, Marlyn. (Both chuckle)

PETER: And for my friend Karin who is present, I would like to ask as well these things. My guess is her essence family is Sumari and her alignment — what did we say? — the orange.

ELIAS: Gramada, correct.

PETER: And I think she is emotional...

ELIAS: Correct.

PETER: ...and she is orientation soft.

ELIAS: Correct.

PETER: So we are both orientation soft. I have been reading one of your lessons, that couples of this orientation soft are getting along very well because they speak the same language, but they must not judge each other because then the drama starts.

ELIAS: Correct.

PETER: I think this is very important for us, too.

ELIAS: It is also significant that you recognize that this one particular orientation almost requires you to pay attention to yourself, for it is quite easily expressed to project your attention outwardly to the other individual, and that, with soft individuals, generates extreme conflict.

PETER: Yes, and pain, ja.

ELIAS: This is the reason that with individuals that are coupled and both incorporate this orientation, it appears to them that they are either quite in harmony with each other or they are quite at odds with each other, and there appears to be little middle ground.

This is expressed in association with the manner in which your orientation is expressed, in which you do pay attention to yourselves but you also are quite easily distracted and project your attention to the other individual and generate judgments. For in those scenarios, what occurs is a type of mixture. Your attention is projected to the other individual, you are generating a judgment, but you are somewhat aware of yourself in association with what you judge within yourself, and therefore, you generate a stronger expression in association with your partner, which is another expression of exposure.

PETER: I didn’t quite get this.

ELIAS: I may express to you, this is not exclusive to the soft orientation, but it is somewhat more strongly expressed within the soft orientation, a challenge in association with exposure. For in relation to this particular orientation and the changeableness of your energy and your directions and what you create and the continuous input, so to speak, of objective and subjective, many times that creates somewhat of a volatile expression within individuals that incorporate the soft orientation. In that volatility, there is generated an uncertainness in the individual in association with your beliefs also, of whether you are expressing correctly or not and whether other individuals are expressing correctly or not.

Now; in partners, you immediately identify in your partner the reflection of yourself, but the awareness of the reflection may be somewhat of an incorporation of time following. For the attention becomes fixed upon the other individual and what their behavior is or what they are expressing, and therefore it becomes somewhat challenging to view that as a reflection of your own expression. For this is the difficulty of the exposure and the challenge of exposure — this changeableness and this continuous input in soft individuals generates an automatic retreat, so to speak.

PETER: Ah, ja. I think I do retreat too much. I think I should expose myself more. Because as a soft person, I sometimes feel that I can be hurt more easily than others or something and that’s why I was, for instance, hurt by my father when I was a kid. I think I should start to be more courageous, to be more exposing myself or trusting that I decide myself to be heard and nobody can hurt me.

ELIAS: Correct.

Now; in this, as you allow yourself more exposure, this is not to say that you shall discontinue natural expressions associated with your orientation. Soft individuals naturally generate time frameworks in which they appear to somewhat isolate themselves. That is not bad and does not need fixing. It is a natural action that you incorporate to balance the objective and the subjective, in time frameworks in which one or the other becomes what you assess as more dominant. In actuality, it is not, but your attention may be more concentrated upon one or the other, which may become overwhelming for the other awareness continues to be expressed and you are aware of it. But it becomes confusing, and therefore there are time frameworks in which you naturally recede for a limited or temporary time period. This is different than what I am expressing to you concerning exposure.

Individuals incorporating this orientation of soft many times not recede (but) retreat and shield, for they generate a fear of exposure that that shall be confusing and misused. The reason that that is perceived in that manner is that the individual is processing much information objectively and subjectively, and it occupies a lot of your attention. Therefore if you are exposing, now you must pay attention to what possibly may be projected toward you and whether you should deflect that or whether you shall accept that, or more frightening, whether you shall receive that and how shall you accomplish that if you are occupying your attention with all that you are generating yourself.

PETER: So this might be the thing, to receive. Because on the one hand, I know it, I am quite able to feel other people. For instance, I’m quite a good pupil, I’m a good student, I can feel from the teacher, learn from teachers very well and receive from the teacher, like I did with my last teacher. I know that I’m quite good at it. Is this the sort of receiving that you mean, like learning from a teacher from the very best of his character?

ELIAS: Which is not difficult. But exposing and receiving in other manners may be more challenging — receiving acknowledgment from other individuals, receiving energy from other individuals in many different manners.

PETER: This event, when I just went out of my house and I showed my CD to people who came to our place and then three weeks afterwards there was a fan club founded, we were all thinking that this might have something to do with exposure. They just go out, this is my CD, do you want to buy it? So I had this great experience of these young people, 16 and 17, who started this fan club for me, and I received a lot from them.


PETER: This gave me the feeling that I... Because I remember when I was that age, feeling that I am able to fulfill the dreams of my youth. This is one of my messages that I have to give.

ELIAS: And this is an interesting example that you have presented, for this is YOUR action. This is your choice and your directing of yourself. This is YOU expressing receiving, and you incorporate no authority in association with that action. No other individual generated involvement, and therefore there is no credit to any other individual, that you are acquiring rather than creating.

PETER: I sometimes think I’m not sure whether I need, for instance, a big record company offer or if I can record by my own. I’m not quite sure, because sometimes... I started to do it on my own. I was just selling my CD over the Internet and everybody in the whole world can buy the CD on the Internet. Now I contacted some record companies, but I think there is a bit of this problem, what you said about authority, that I should not give myself away to authority. I should trust myself.

ELIAS: Ah! But once again, do not generate the black and white. You may be creating cooperation and not necessarily be in agreement. Therefore, you may not necessarily be in agreement with authority, or you may be generating resistance to authority or what you deem to be authority, and you may also generate a cooperation. It is not necessary to be in agreement to generate cooperation. This is the acceptance of difference.

PETER: But the freedom of opinion, it’s the same, ja. So it’s possible to work with a record company and to cooperate with a record company...

ELIAS: And to create what YOU want, rather than allowing other individuals to dictate to you what your choices are.

PETER: And cooperation is important for me, because I am soft oriented, so. We love to cooperate, don’t we, this orientation? But we have to learn that this freedom of opinions, we don’t have to have the same opinion as our partner. We can still cooperate.

ELIAS: Correct.

PETER: (Laughs) This is kind of fun for me, Elias. (Elias chuckles) It is the same as Karin and I, to know that it’s possible to have different opinions and still love each other.

ELIAS: Quite. (Chuckles)

PETER: Good. Last I would like to ask for my mother, Gisela, her essence family — perhaps this Borledim, this bearer? I am not so sure about it. So she is...?

ELIAS: Essence family belonging to, yes.

PETER: The aligning to, she might have something to do with Sumari.

ELIAS: You are correct.

PETER: And her orientation is common...


PETER: ...and focus is emotional.


PETER: (Laughing) Okay, I can tell her.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Very well. (Chuckles)

PETER: But exposing, because I love to expose myself but I have to (inaudible).

ELIAS: In certain situations, you enjoy that action.

PETER: And sometimes I’m afraid of it, in cooperation and acceptance of different opinions is hope.

ELIAS: Yes. Not attempting to convince, which is significant in association with what you are choosing as your direction in association with these individuals that you deem to be authority. It is not a matter of convincing. It is a matter of trusting yourself and directing yourself, generating cooperation but also directing your choices.

PETER: I would love to know if in other focuses I’m a musician, in other times.

ELIAS: Yes, several.

PETER: And do I play the violin as well in other focuses?


PETER: That was easy for me to learn when I was a little boy. And what do you think about my compositions? What is your opinion about my songs?

ELIAS: Ah, my opinion! (Chuckles) Which, opinions would be associated with beliefs, therefore I do not incorporate an opinion. (Peter laughs) But I may express to you, I am aware of the energy that you have expressed in relation to your compositions, and I am acknowledging of you in your attention and I am encouraging of you in your direction.

PETER: (To Karin) Do you have a question?

KARIN: (Inaudible) ...because I am very involved in this and sometimes I don’t have much time for my art. (Inaudible) It’s not easy to handle it. I don’t know what question, but sometimes I need a direction for me, what I can do. What can I give that’s good?

ELIAS: And I shall express to you in similar manner to Marlyn, and that is to be focusing your attention upon you and not concerning yourself with the choices and the expressions of other individuals and what they want but focusing upon what YOU want, and allowing yourself the freedom to express that. Not what you EXPECT yourself to do, not what you anticipate other individuals expect you to do, but what you WANT to do.

KARIN: Thank you. That makes sense.

ELIAS: You are very welcome. Very well!

PETER: And our cooperation, that would be Karin and I, we’ve been together for nearly 20 years and I want to be together ever in this focus. Do you think this cooperation will be still created in the future, our cooperation, Karin and I?

ELIAS: As it is currently being expressed, yes. But I may express to you, this is your choice. (All laugh) Very well, my friends.

PETER: Thank you very much.

ELIAS: I shall be offering my energy to you both in encouragement, and continuing to do so. I shall be anticipating our next meeting and offering you great affection. To each, in great lovingness, au revoir.

PETER: Thank you very much.

Elias departs at (time not available).

(1) The transcript of this session was taken from a personal audio recording, as the video recorder was inoperable.

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