Session 955


"Why We Choose What We Think We Do Not Want"

Friday, November 9, 2001 (Private)
Participants: Mary (Michael) and Donnalie (Mallory)
(This session begins at the end of #954, at 4:55 PM, so no arrival time.)

ELIAS: And to you, you may proceed.

DONNALIE: (Laughs) Well, it’s hard asking questions for other people. I can’t interject. It’s their time; I can’t give my input!

I am not going to keep you much longer. I just have a couple questions for you. First of all, I wanted to get ... I know that Michael and Vicki and the others refer to them as the "cosmic vitals."

ELIAS: Ah!

DONNALIE: (Laughs) I would like to get those on two friends I have made here in Vermont, and that would be Jenaro and Melissa. I’d like to get their information. I’m curious.

ELIAS: Very well. First individual (pause), Merlyn (mur LEEN).

DONNALIE: This is Jenaro?

ELIAS: Yes. M-E-R-L-Y-N. This is not Merlin. (Elias chuckles) Essence family, Gramada; alignment, Zuli; orientation, common.

Second individual, essence name, Flowral, F-L-O-W-R-A-L (FLOR uhl); essence family, Sumafi; alignment, Ilda; orientation ... ah. And your impression?

DONNALIE: What is my impression of her orientation? I know she’s not common. I don’t get that impression at all. I think she’s either intermediate or soft. I know she’s not common; I told Michael that.

ELIAS: Soft.

DONNALIE: Definitely not surprised. (Laughs and Elias chuckles) Not at all!

I would like to know my friend Chris, what his orientation is. Is he common?

ELIAS: Yes.

DONNALIE: That’s what I thought.

I only have one other question and I will let you go. I’m going to try and re-word this. I had spoken to my friend, Peter - you’ve spoken to him, actually - and told him I was going to be having a session with you, and that if he had any questions ... he asked me, and your answer will be "it’s your choice," I would assume. His question to me was should he ... I guess he is going through a lot of turmoil on whether he thinks he should be with me or not. That was his question. You can answer. You don’t have to. I’m assuming you’re just going to say that it is his choice.

I am going to further that a little more. If you can maybe enlighten me a little on ... he’s already choosing. He’s already making a choice.

ELIAS: Correct.

DONNALIE: I guess I’m just not sure if that choice is that he’s not confident in it. To be honest, the choice he’s making right now is we’re not together.

ELIAS: Correct.

DONNALIE: Also, I’m affecting that choice. We’re far away in what we call distance. Is it just that he’s in a bad space in his life that he’s not ... or is it that maybe this is not a decision that is final in him - he’s not comfortable with this choice? I guess I’m just confused in the way that it seems like he’s making a choice. Every day he’s making a choice and yet he still questions it.

ELIAS: Quite. I am understanding. The individual IS creating choices; you are correct. The confusion is expressed for he is not paying attention to self. He is not viewing what he is creating now as a choice.

DONNALIE: So it may not be necessarily that he’s choosing it because it’s what he wants, it’s just what he’s doing. Or do we choose things because that is what we want and we don’t realize it?

ELIAS: Yes. You may create a thought process that you may express to yourself that you do not want a particular choice; but if you are creating the choice, this is essentially what you want.

Now; let me clarify. For within this physical dimension and within your language and your association with terms, the term "want" is defined in specific manners, and there is an automatic association with the term "want" of positive.

If you are expressing objectively a want, you automatically associate that want with some expression that you deem to be good or positive - not uncomfortable, not necessarily challenging, and not an expression that is confusing or one that you deem to be negative. You automatically associate "want" with positive. And if you are generating a choice in which you are experiencing uncomfortableness or conflict and many times even confusion, your automatic expression is that this is what you do not want. This is not necessarily accurate, for you create choices that move in association with your direction in the moment.

Your choices may be viewed as an indication to you objectively of what direction you are moving in within a particular time framework, for they shall move in association with your direction, regardless of whether you deem your choices to be conflicting or bad or uncomfortable or challenging or negative or even wrong. Whatever you are choosing within the moment is following the direction.

Now; if you are expressing that you want a particular manifestation and you are not creating it, you may examine what issues and beliefs are influencing your perception and therefore [are] not allowing yourself to choose certain expressions.

This is not contradictory to what I have expressed in these previous moments concerning choices following your direction and being what you want, although it may appear initially to be contradictory. For you may express to myself, "If I am creating what I want but I am thinking that I want to be creating another expression, and [I] am examining what my beliefs or issues may be [that are] influencing my perception and blocking my creation of what I want, I am not creating what I want." But you are. For in blocking what you think you want, you are also offering yourself information.

DONNALIE: Sending signals saying this is not really what you want, it’s what you think you want.

ELIAS: Or you may want to be creating a particular expression and not creating it to offer yourself the opportunity to examine what creates obstacles within you, to offer yourself the opportunity to become more familiar with your own expressions and to examine the beliefs and automatic responses that you create that limit your choices, or [to examine] the associations that you hold in relation to your ability to be creating.

Or you may not be creating what you want for you are not allowing yourself a choice, for you are viewing yourself as a victim. This also is an opportunity. It is not bad; it is an opportunity. It is a choice to be expressing the role of victim, and this choice offers you an opportunity to examine what you believe you cannot create.

DONNALIE: I can do it, I just don’t know how to explain it better. You and I have discussed it. At times I have a hard time doing it, but for the most part I can clear my mind and ask myself a question and tune in to the first thing that comes to me. Is there a different way?

He doesn’t get this concept; he can’t do it. He can’t clear his head enough, and this goes with anything. He’s going through a difficult time in his life. Are there other forms of doing that to kind of tap into ... some sort of meditation or something? Is there some other way besides that, or does he just need to learn how to do that, to listen to himself?

ELIAS: I may express to you what I have expressed from the onset of this forum: the greatest tool that all of you incorporate is noticing. This is the greatest term in all of your language, for it is the most powerful. If you are not noticing what you are creating or your beliefs, you shall not address to them and you shall continue in automatic responses. And as I have expressed many, many times, automatic responses are precisely that, they are automatic, they require no thought.

DONNALIE: No choice, necessarily.

ELIAS: They are ONE choice.

DONNALIE: It’s not giving yourself other choices.

ELIAS: Correct. But if you are not noticing, how shall you address to it? Therefore, your greatest tool is to be noticing what you are expressing and allowing yourselves to examine this, and recognizing that there are NO absolutes.

DONNALIE: And you can change your choice at any time.

ELIAS: Correct! Choices are expressed moment to moment.

DONNALIE: Right. They’re exactly that, choices.

ELIAS: As I have expressed previously, you may choose within one moment to create a broken bone and within the next moment you may choose not to be expressing a broken bone, and you shall surprise yourself and you shall express, "Gloria! A miracle has occurred!" But in actuality, it is merely different choices within different moments.

DONNALIE: I have five more minutes, or my mom will kill me. These two people I asked you about, do I have shared focuses with them? I know for a fact I have shared a focus with Melissa.

ELIAS: Yes.

DONNALIE: I would guarantee I also have shared focuses with Jenaro. Is there any connection there?

ELIAS: Yes.

DONNALIE: Would you give me one example of each of them? (Pause)

ELIAS: (Chuckles slyly) Very well.

DONNALIE: (Laughs) I’m afraid!

ELIAS: (Laughs) I shall offer a playful example with your female friend presently: time framework late 18th century, early 19th century...

DONNALIE: I knew you were going to say 19th century.

ELIAS: ...physical location France; manifestations both female, both incorporate dancing, and express intimate relationship. (Chuckling)

DONNALIE: I knew you were going to say that! (Elias cracks up) God! She’ll love that one.

ELIAS: Ha ha ha! Therefore you shall allow yourselves to not incorporate fearfulness that you shall be altering your preference in this focus! You do incorporate this action in another focus, therefore you are offering yourselves the experience! (Laughs with Donnalie)

And I shall not disclose the location of the trinket!

DONNALIE: Oh my God, what ... OH! (Laughs) Why, is that a crystal ball question?

ELIAS: Quite! Parlor tricks! (Humorously disdainful)

You may express to this individual that she may be incorporating an individual that you identify as a psychic for this type of information - or perhaps a Ouija board! Ha ha ha ha!

DONNALIE: (Laughing) Oh, how funny! Watch, I bet she will whip out the Ouija board.

ELIAS: Merely recognize that it incorporates distortion.

As to the other individual: physical location, Spain.

DONNALIE: Boy, I was in Spain a lot. (Slight pause, and Elias grins and chuckles) You’ve got to be kidding me - come on. Do I have any past lives where I wasn’t a whore? Is that what you’re going to tell me? (Laughing) You’ve got to be kidding!

ELIAS: (Chuckling) I am not expressing this to you. (Donnalie cracks up)

In this focus you also incorporate an intimate relationship with this individual, and you also incorporate dancing as partners in traditional Spaniard classical dancing; both within upper societal status, time framework late 1600s. You incorporate the same genders that you incorporate in this focus, and he may be viewed as wealthy monetarily and a landowner. You expressed as partner.

DONNALIE: Is it a positive relationship? I think Peter’s were often rocky. (Laughs)

ELIAS: Yes - quite a shared appreciation in relation to each other and to the dance, and also a type of equestrian riding.

DONNALIE: Thank you so much. It’s been a long time. Maybe we’ll talk again soon, Elias. Thank you so much.

ELIAS: You are very welcome. To you as always, in great affection and playfulness... (Both laugh)

DONNALIE: Me and Lynda you can laugh a lot with.

ELIAS: Au revoir.

DONNALIE: Goodbye.

Elias departs at 5:22 PM.